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No Contact
LiveLaughLove:
I agree but as stated I heard that mine was scared of what I'd say if he reached out or that he is trying to get up the nerve to reach out but when I reached out he ignored me....with then puts me back into that we probably won't be together and all these people lied to me
Synergy:
Right, wishfulthinker... I ask myself that stuff all the time.
When I wrote my SM (the older ex) a letter months ago just letting him know everything I was feeling, it made me feel so much better. In the end, though, all the readers were wrong. He didn't make a move. Instead he told me all the reasons why we shouldn't be together. I am still convinced that he was talking himself out of it, BUT at the same time IF HE WANTED TO BE WITH ME HE WOULD HAVE!!!! I don't understand.
Now with Chance... I spoke to our mutual friend today who told me that he misses me and is sad we're not together. Then let's be together!! What's wrong with these men?! Are they so afraid of opening up, that they're willing to let us go?
LLL,
You're right. If you already reached out, then it's on him, but I still don't understand why he doesn't. I don't understand why all of these men are behaving in this way after making connections with such amazing women, because you really all are amazing.
glasshalffull:
--- Quote from: wishfulthinker on February 08, 2012, 06:15:02 PM ---
--- Quote from: Synergy on February 08, 2012, 04:36:55 PM ---Why has everyone chosen to keep from making contact?? Is it because of the "rules", because you already expressed what you were feeling to them at one point and they still walked away, or because you've been advised not to do so by readers?
I'm just curious. :)
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Wouldn't it be grand if people just said what they meant and meant what they said. We wouldn't need to call psychics ever again. I hate all of this game playing "the rules". Really - let's face it - guys can be dense. Really dense. Not all of them, and not all of the time, but....
Sometimes I ask myself, what if I knew I would never see this guy again...what if he came to me and said "Hey, by the way I'm moving to ten-buck-two". What would I do different than I am now? What holds us back from expressing what is really in our hearts? Is it fear of rejection? I don't want to be old and look back and see that I didn't take the opportunity to see what could happen.
In my reading with Cookie, she said the simpliest thing "You are not making enough eye contact with this man". Really, that's it. After 2 1/2 years of anguish and torment I just need to look him in the eye and swoon at him more. Lol. See what I said about guys being dense.
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Hi WT! You are funny - but I think you are right!!
Cheers,
Glass (a dense guy 8))
LiveLaughLove:
Exactly Synergy!
I said merry Christmas and you mean you can't say you too?!?! Even if you wanted to be a ass you could say thanks ...it's insane but they say he's scared. No fuck that! Excuse my language but seriously! I'm REACHING out to YOU and you scared of my reaction?!? That's bs. And this enough of a reason why I should stop talking to these psychics right?! Lol Cookie is the last one I'm going to speak too then I'm done...I just can't doing this..
Synergy:
And what is there to be afraid of?!?!?!?!? LOVE is a RISK! It is. So if you want love, then take the leap! Heck, I am afraid of being hurt! I haven't shared this, but the father of my children who I was with for 5 years, impregnated another woman while we were together, and I later found out that he was unfaithful numerous times with other women. That destroyed me! BUT I recovered, and I've been willing to be open to love these last two times. If I can do it, and you all have done it, then why can't these guys man up and face their fear. I can't make excuses for them anymore. I can't.
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