How does it work? *warning, very cynical view here*

[star1]

See (again) readings are confusing because some readers said that my ex partner has NPD traits and will never change.  I will say he does have traits of that, but it's not extreme like another ex had. Some said he won't ever be able to be consistent. I won't go into details but most people who act up usually had a bad childhood and that's the case here. My POI and yours has the same star sign and yours is older obviously, and perhaps mine when he's your guys age might still be the same. Leanne Halyburton told me that she wouldn't be surprised if he gets a woman pregnant within the next 18 months and another reader said it once. He's certainly unstable - I know guys, why should I care for someone like this.

[star1]

I actually do think that my ex has alot of NPD, I've done alot of research on it when a reader called my POI it once and I didn't know the meaning of the word. He matched up to almost all of them except cheating. He has hurt me alot and the way he hasn't shown any remorse for his actions says alot to me. I also notice a pattern with him from his last relationshi p before me and my relationshi p with him. He is always self victimising and it was all her fault, he was so good he did no wrong he is a really good partner. He hates admitting fault for things and for him to not come forward and apologise or check I'm okay after how things were last left is a reflector that he probably won't change in that area of never admitting to being wrong. That is unhealthy and an eggshell type of guy right there. I'm slowly realising now I'm moving on. Everything is always someone else's fault. Whether it's his Mum. Dad. Partner. The pet cat or dog or parrot or neighbour. It's never his fault. He could commit a murder and have blood on his hands and he would say someone framed him..

Something that he did which is classic narcissisti c behaviour is deflecting. So he would say for example, poor me. My ex was controlling with me, she didn't allow me to talk to any female friends and made me block them, I bought her some jewellery and it wasn't the right colour so she got mad. Well in our relationshi p he began to show signs like that with me. I have spoken to a reader who told me that this guy until he gets major help will not change and he's going to drag anyone down who comes into his life with him until he gets some serious therapy. She also picked up on his defective "it wasn't me" behaviour.

I was seeing a guy last year at a bad time. I won't go into details here but the guy hurt me and a month later he came back to apologise to me a month later for his actions. With this man, I never got that and he did cause me alot of hurt. And with saying sorry, you don't always have to say the words you're sorry. You can do things around it like send a text asking how someone is and acting like nothing has happened (which is what my ex did), if you owe them something to return it, and other ways around saying sorry like that. He probably is mostly immature, but I think alot of his behaviour is set in him. Even Kisha said there is something in his personality but she isn't sure what... Jealous and possessive people very rarely change. And people with low self esteem. I always will have a low self esteem even if I get married to the most handsome man with the loveliest house and lots of money. I am a firm believer that your childhood makes you. So if you have a shitty childhood, I think alot of the behaviour will set with the person like in your and our POI's case. Almost everyone I've met has got issued to this day because of how tough their childhood was. I think it's very easy to say to someone as a reader that the guy is immature and is that and this. Likewise I don't think all behaviour can be blamed on immaturity, I think lots of it is down to personality . I also think it can be dangerous when a woman could be dealing with a abusive guy for them to tell her he's just going through an immature phase. I think it is very hard (unless a psychologis t) to determine if it's immaturity or set in them.

[star1]

People with NPD are literally immature in a way they won't ever grow out of. Very unlikely anyway. They get stuck development ally around the age of 5-6 years old. When a person can't ever take accountabil ity or apologize or show remorse that's a very bad sign. And combined with jealousy and possesivene ss, all kinds of things could go wrong with that. Star1 you might really dodge a bullet if you lose this guy.

Thanks Still Tired. I completely agree - someone can be immatue, but still accept and apologise if they have done something wrong. If he is not able to apologise or at least show remorse at even his age, then it is worrying. He very much is someone who can't take the blame and always shifts it onto someone else. That is not healthy and I'm beginning to realise it all more, now. The fact he hasn't come forward to check I'm okay or say sorry or anything shows that he still is in that "it's all your fault, but never mine" phase.

[psychic girls]

I'm 100 percent sure that psychics can't pick up feeling, why then do they tell everyone of us they the same stock line he had deep feeling for you but he/she scary/afraid or because of fear.

[star1]

We will always carry parts from our childhood whether we realise it or not. For example you could feel like the strongest person in the world, but without realising it could be scared of violence and something within you sets off an alarm bell when you see fighting, you could be really defensive and quick to get angry or to argue because it's a form of protection (I'm not saying these are you, it's an example), allowing men to abuse and treat them abhorrently .. Of course everything that happens to us builds us. It's all about subconsciou s and we don't even realise we are doing it. We all have faults within us, like flaws. Perhaps some of those flaws are caused by what happened to us in our childhood.

I have to say to be very very honest that I find it very concerning that the readers told you that your guy isn't abusive or bad and he's just selfish. That's worrying because from things you've said on the board and to me, it's clear abuse. And for readers to say "oh poor him, he's going through alot right now" - they shouldn't make excuses for his behaviour like they did with me. So lots of women probably are in abusive relationshi ps without really realising it..

[star1]

Unfortunate ly, it's hard to change a person, let alone a narc (which is almost impossible). A narcissist has to realise that they are one with the issues, and they never do. They have to realise that they're the problem, and it's always someone else's fault - but don't you dare say it's theirs. I can't believe I'm saying this, But Shelly is talking sense to you, there.

[star1]

MP I'm glad that you're beginning to toughen up on this man and begin to give no fucks about him anymore. Yes - he probably will have his life come down on him as karma for how he's treated you and others. He will come running to you as you're his source who is always there at his beck and call in the past, then when you help him he will go running again. I don't think he has the capacity (although I'm not a psychologis t) to realise what he's done and how he's treated you  as I  have had my experiences with a guy like this for a long time. They never realise how good you were for them - well they do, but they manipulate that. Think of the smiling devil emoji. He's laughing, but he won't be laughing when you finally put your foot down. Then it's off to find the next woman who will do everything he wishes for. It's a horrendous cycle.. His Mother being a narc means he has no true experience and never was taught how to treat women in life, he probably is scared of them deep down so treats them like shit to either get back at women, or because he is wary of them. Not that that's any excuse.. I had an awful childhood and know basic morals of how to act in a relationshi p.

[star1]

"Then, after my dad passed, this **** got upset because I was grieving and didn't want to know about it." what a lovely guy he is.. Honestly this guy all he ever seems to care about by the sounds of things is himself. I'm sorry to be rude about your POI, but he lacks any compassion for people. Most people would typically understand the death of a parent and be there for and comfort their partner. And sorry if my comment brought up some things that remind you of parts to your situation that you wanted to forget about.

And Still Tired - thanks, I'll check out the link. Thank you for sharing.

[jhuskindle]

From a reader perspective 90% are cold readers and will tell you he has or had feelings for you to make you feel better and honestly is probably very true, its not easy to hear "This dude does not love you or like you, he is using you for attention, nothing more."

[psychic girls]

From a reader perspective 90% are cold readers and will tell you he has or had feelings for you to make you feel better and honestly is probably very true, its not easy to hear "This dude does not love you or like you, he is using you for attention, nothing more."

I agree 95 percent of the time your poi not into you anymore but they tell us what we wanted to hear.

[maroonlight]

I feel like 99% of these so called "psychics" are just a complete joke. They say general things, ask prompting questions to fish for info, not to mention the same things, for almost everyone, and 9 times out of 10 give you a positive outcome that never happens. Some readers will automatical ly give you a negative outcome if you are calling about an ex, but most readers will only tell you what you want to hear because you aren't going to want to call them back if they make you feel worse afterwards. That's what reading is actually all about...the temporary relief you feel when you get off the phone and are reassured that things will be ok, when in fact I have only seen things work out the way people want on here once, maybe twice.

[psychic girls]

I feel like 99% of these so called "psychics" are just a complete joke. They say general things, ask prompting questions to fish for info, not to mention the same things, for almost everyone, and 9 times out of 10 give you a positive outcome that never happens. Some readers will automatical ly give you a negative outcome if you are calling about an ex, but most readers will only tell you what you want to hear because you aren't going to want to call them back if they make you feel worse afterwards. That's what reading is actually all about...the temporary relief you feel when you get off the phone and are reassured that things will be ok, when in fact I have only seen things work out the way people want on here once, maybe twice.

It is a drug look at the review on the so call psychics on keen it self, thanks you calm me down and put my mind at ease. Huge out come that happen is like winning a power ball lottery tickets.

[Ninacy]

Ohh If I see another review along the lines of "thank you, you've put my mind at ease" I will bang my head in the wall. And the sad reality is that these naive and vulnerable people keep coming back to the same scam psychics because they "just felt at ease". When I see many reviews like that and not actual validation of predictions I pass that reader. But all these naive and desperate people keep on asking these frauds and the reader doesn't stop giving fairytales and scamming people further. It's a cycle that is hard to stop, sadly. And by the time they wake-up from their "dream", it's too late to leave feedback. 

[psychic girls]

Ohh If I see another review along the lines of "thank you, you've put my mind at ease" I will bang my head in the wall. And the sad reality is that these naive and vulnerable people keep coming back to the same scam psychics because they "just felt at ease". When I see many reviews like that and not actual validation of predictions I pass that reader. But all these naive and desperate people keep on asking these frauds and the reader doesn't stop giving fairytales and scamming people further. It's a cycle that is hard to stop, sadly. And by the time they wake-up from their "dream", it's too late to leave feedback.

Yea I rarely seen reviews that said prediction come true, or thanks he come back. I always see waiting for prediction to come true or you put my mind at ease.