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U reach out or sit back
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 15, 2018, 04:30:19 AM ---oh - well i mean again if he ghosts me than i am no worse off.... in fact it actually tells me all these advisors telling me he's sitting at home thinking about me and waiting for me to reach out are all full of shit ;D....
I gotta think since he started viewing my stories and such he at least wants things to be peaceful between us? IDK.....
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it could be he's just curious of what you are up to..men can be real grudge holders..
as far as reaching out, that is up to you, but I would wait a bit and see if the urge is still there in a few days.
star1:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on November 15, 2018, 06:30:44 AM ---
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 15, 2018, 04:30:19 AM ---oh - well i mean again if he ghosts me than i am no worse off.... in fact it actually tells me all these advisors telling me he's sitting at home thinking about me and waiting for me to reach out are all full of shit ;D....
I gotta think since he started viewing my stories and such he at least wants things to be peaceful between us? IDK.....
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it could be he's just curious of what you are up to..men can be real grudge holders..
as far as reaching out, that is up to you, but I would wait a bit and see if the urge is still there in a few days.
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Love2lovenj:
Ok playing the devil's advocate here...
Do you think the readers tell us not to contact and wait because if they don't reach out you will call the advisor again to see what's going on???
I honestly only had one reader tell me to reach out to my POI but yhen again her reading didn't really say anything that stood out that her guidance was correct.
star1:
I think it's for different reasons. I think some readers aren't genuine, so they tell you not to reach out so that if he doesn't respond you don't keep calling the reader putting them on the spot. It's easier to say to somebody to wait for him to make the forts move and have a vulnerable person keep calling me asking when he'll come around. Some readers are old fashioned and think that the men should do all of the running as they're the "hunter gatherer". I have seen people be advised not to reach out to their ex and they did in the end and the ex told them that they were waiting for a text.. That's why I said follow your gut over any reader. Sit on it for a few days and if it doesn't budge - you have your answer.
LAW1974:
--- Quote from: star1 on November 15, 2018, 06:50:09 AM ---I think it's for different reasons. I think some readers aren't genuine, so they tell you not to reach out so that if he doesn't respond you don't keep calling the reader putting them on the spot. It's easier to say to somebody to wait for him to make the forts move and have a vulnerable person keep calling me asking when he'll come around. Some readers are old fashioned and think that the men should do all of the running as they're the "hunter gatherer". I have seen people be advised not to reach out to their ex and they did in the end and the ex told them that they were waiting for a text.. That's why I said follow your gut over any reader. Sit on it for a few days and if it doesn't budge - you have your answer.
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There is a program by Chris Seiter called ex boyfriend recovery. He is a dating coach (and obviously a guy) -- His advice is NC for either 21, 30 or 45 days after break up (depending on situation) and then this whole book on texting him.... He claims that many men really do want to reach out to us (even when they broke up, esp if they really messed up) but they dont for fear of rejection or b/c they dont know if weve moved on.... A slew of different reasons. So you start with simple texts (like the one I stated above) hey I saw this and it reminded me of you and seeing where it goes.... Hes been really successful with the program!
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