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LAW1974:
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--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 15, 2018, 03:57:08 AM ---Oddly, Last night I had a weird sense of wanting closure possibly and maybe friendship but I am not sure if I actually want him back.... or at least maybe not right now! I think he has too much of himself to work on and it's not my job to do that! For the first time I had an overwhelming sense of wanting to reach out to him. It's been over 6 weeks (and those were unkind texts, believe me). SO a part of me is a little nervous he wont respond back. I know that isnt the end of the world, doesnt leave me any worse off than where I am now but I feel like I can't move forward until we dont have this riff between us settled. I can finally "Let go". so to speak.....
You should know every advisor has promised me he is going to communicate by the end of the year and we will reconcile either by EOY or mid-Jan. Also, they have all told me NOT to reach out to him. He ended it and they have all told me he is basically waiting for me to reach out to him!
So I wanted some opinions - 1. Should I sit on this feeling for a few days and see if it goes away? 2. We are both music lovers and spent a lot of time listening to and talking about music and going to concerts, etc. So my text was not going to have anything to do with "us" -- I was going to send him a music video I have from a concert I know he'd enjoy - just something random! Kind of a white flag peace offering without us having to say that's what it is.... thoughts on this?
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Sit on it for a few days and if your gut says to still reach out, then send the music video (I hope my advice won't make things worse ;D).
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why would your advice make it worse?
star1:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 15, 2018, 04:06:48 AM ---
--- Quote from: star1 on November 15, 2018, 04:04:10 AM ---
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 15, 2018, 03:57:08 AM ---Oddly, Last night I had a weird sense of wanting closure possibly and maybe friendship but I am not sure if I actually want him back.... or at least maybe not right now! I think he has too much of himself to work on and it's not my job to do that! For the first time I had an overwhelming sense of wanting to reach out to him. It's been over 6 weeks (and those were unkind texts, believe me). SO a part of me is a little nervous he wont respond back. I know that isnt the end of the world, doesnt leave me any worse off than where I am now but I feel like I can't move forward until we dont have this riff between us settled. I can finally "Let go". so to speak.....
You should know every advisor has promised me he is going to communicate by the end of the year and we will reconcile either by EOY or mid-Jan. Also, they have all told me NOT to reach out to him. He ended it and they have all told me he is basically waiting for me to reach out to him!
So I wanted some opinions - 1. Should I sit on this feeling for a few days and see if it goes away? 2. We are both music lovers and spent a lot of time listening to and talking about music and going to concerts, etc. So my text was not going to have anything to do with "us" -- I was going to send him a music video I have from a concert I know he'd enjoy - just something random! Kind of a white flag peace offering without us having to say that's what it is.... thoughts on this?
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Sit on it for a few days and if your gut says to still reach out, then send the music video (I hope my advice won't make things worse ;D).
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why would your advice make it worse?
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Haha, incase it goes wrong when you reach out to him.
LAW1974:
oh - well i mean again if he ghosts me than i am no worse off.... in fact it actually tells me all these advisors telling me he's sitting at home thinking about me and waiting for me to reach out are all full of shit ;D....
I gotta think since he started viewing my stories and such he at least wants things to be peaceful between us? IDK.....
wishes215:
I’ve almost always been told not to reach out that’s why I was wondering if that’s something everyone gets told.
star1:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on November 15, 2018, 04:30:19 AM ---oh - well i mean again if he ghosts me than i am no worse off.... in fact it actually tells me all these advisors telling me he's sitting at home thinking about me and waiting for me to reach out are all full of shit ;D....
I gotta think since he started viewing my stories and such he at least wants things to be peaceful between us? IDK.....
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Exactly. I mean if he's been watching you, then he CLEARLY is still showing interest and you most likely will get some kinda response from him :).
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