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Were you able to salvage/rekindle after a bad breakup?

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Daisy573:
I have never really gotten back with an ex unless it was a recent one and maybe due to an abrupt ending that just required a cooling off period.   Usually when I am done with something I'm done and there is no going back for me even though psychics have told me many times over the years "Oh you and so and so were made for each other" and blah blah blah...its never happened, ever... and I have not really even wanted it to happen to be honest.  I typically think exes are exes for a reason. 

I really think that psychics do more damage than good when it comes to keeping people hanging on much longer than they should in the hopes that someone will return when we should be out living our lives and, if they return, they return...deal with it if it happens.  Why stay stuck in meantime?  I have certainly been guilty of this in the past myself.

Cteebaby1:
Yes and that’s my problem ! Instead of leaving I keep going back until I move on. I was in this one relationship for about 4 years. I kept going back and going back because I loved him so much ! Then he hit me and I never went back after that ! That was my deal breaker . And yes he came back, begging, popping up at my house, giving me money, wanted to marry me . He was doing all the right things after I moved on !!! I stayed getting readings on him too smh now I feel so crazy to have done that . Even to this day he still call and want to give it another shot lmao . Too bad I’m crazy about someone new *sighs* now it’s anew cycle of calls

Daisy573:
Yeah I guess that's it...we all have our own breaking points or deal breakers where we are truly *done* and can walk away and not look back.  I have a lot more now that I am older so it takes much less time for me to notice them as well because I'm paying more attention now right out of the gate.  Good for you for not tolerating being hit!

Star_01:
I've never had a ex return to me, ever. I feel like usually there's too much water under the bridge with an ex for things to ever be rekindled or move on like nothing's happened.

For example I was told that with my recent POI he will return, but I can't talk to him like nothing's happened after how he treated me and how long he has been out of contact. Things would need to be said and he wouldn't like this and after all the hurt and upset I could never forgive him.

It depends on how the relationship was like, ended, how bad things were and if the guy is fair and square. If he is narcy, then there's no hope of you being able to move on healthily as he will never see his faults and accept them. It depends if the guy is healthy or toxic, there's many factors involved... But like, 1% on this board get back with their exes and it's happily every after and smooth sailing.

Girly1998:

--- Quote from: Star_01 on July 14, 2019, 12:10:23 PM ---I've never had a ex return to me, ever. I feel like usually there's too much water under the bridge with an ex for things to ever be rekindled or move on like nothing's happened.

For example I was told that with my recent POI he will return, but I can't talk to him like nothing's happened after how he treated me and how long he has been out of contact. Things would need to be said and he wouldn't like this and after all the hurt and upset I could never forgive him.

It depends on how the relationship was like, ended, how bad things were and if the guy is fair and square. If he is narcy, then there's no hope of you being able to move on healthily as he will never see his faults and accept them. It depends if the guy is healthy or toxic, there's many factors involved... But like, 1% on this board get back with their exes and it's happily every after and smooth sailing.

--- End quote ---

I feel like a lot of them come back in some way though. They just don’t work out for whatever reason. I have 3 exes and 2 have came back. I only gave one a 2nd chance and it was worse than the first time but we also didn’t work out what happened the 1st time, we just jumped in a thought time fixed everything. The 2nd one I would never go back but I never loved him either. My 3rd ex was very recent and I have a feeling it’s not 100% over but I also know it would have to be me approaching him. Our breakup was terrible and I was the one who made it that way.

I guess it the way the returning ex approaches it?

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