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Met with POI and left confused
Deedee123:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on December 25, 2018, 12:52:16 PM ---I couldn’t be friends with someone I have intense feelings for. I did try with first poi when it was obvious he wasn’t looking for any kind of commitment. But in the end it was too painful for me to have him in my life. I had to move on because having him in my life was causing me too much pain.
I kept hanging on to what the psychics told me, that eventually he would come around, but he never did.
I would cave and contact him when I knew I should’ve stayed away, but I finally got it through my thick head to stop lol. Took a long time though. It’s funny because last time he contacted me, I remember a strong inner voice telling me not to respond. And I didn’t, so I’m proud of myself for that at least. I’m sure he would have been happy to keep me in his life on his terms, but that wasn’t working for me.
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Yeah, I told him in the last message I sent that I can’t just be friends and that if he decided if he wasn’t all in then don’t text me back. And he didn’t. So I guess that’s my answer. I just... don’t know how he can say how much in love with me he still is. I mean I guess it’s because he does and even if he does work out of state, feelings don’t change. But I’m still holding on to the love because I feel like we could make it work... even if it’s not now. It’s weird.
jhuskindle:
--- Quote from: Deedee123 on December 25, 2018, 08:37:08 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on December 25, 2018, 12:52:16 PM ---I couldn’t be friends with someone I have intense feelings for. I did try with first poi when it was obvious he wasn’t looking for any kind of commitment. But in the end it was too painful for me to have him in my life. I had to move on because having him in my life was causing me too much pain.
I kept hanging on to what the psychics told me, that eventually he would come around, but he never did.
I would cave and contact him when I knew I should’ve stayed away, but I finally got it through my thick head to stop lol. Took a long time though. It’s funny because last time he contacted me, I remember a strong inner voice telling me not to respond. And I didn’t, so I’m proud of myself for that at least. I’m sure he would have been happy to keep me in his life on his terms, but that wasn’t working for me.
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Yeah, I told him in the last message I sent that I can’t just be friends and that if he decided if he wasn’t all in then don’t text me back. And he didn’t. So I guess that’s my answer. I just... don’t know how he can say how much in love with me he still is. I mean I guess it’s because he does and even if he does work out of state, feelings don’t change. But I’m still holding on to the love because I feel like we could make it work... even if it’s not now. It’s weird.
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My heart breaks for you, sending lots of love and healing <3
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: Deedee123 on December 25, 2018, 08:37:08 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on December 25, 2018, 12:52:16 PM ---I couldn’t be friends with someone I have intense feelings for. I did try with first poi when it was obvious he wasn’t looking for any kind of commitment. But in the end it was too painful for me to have him in my life. I had to move on because having him in my life was causing me too much pain.
I kept hanging on to what the psychics told me, that eventually he would come around, but he never did.
I would cave and contact him when I knew I should’ve stayed away, but I finally got it through my thick head to stop lol. Took a long time though. It’s funny because last time he contacted me, I remember a strong inner voice telling me not to respond. And I didn’t, so I’m proud of myself for that at least. I’m sure he would have been happy to keep me in his life on his terms, but that wasn’t working for me.
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Yeah, I told him in the last message I sent that I can’t just be friends and that if he decided if he wasn’t all in then don’t text me back. And he didn’t. So I guess that’s my answer. I just... don’t know how he can say how much in love with me he still is. I mean I guess it’s because he does and even if he does work out of state, feelings don’t change. But I’m still holding on to the love because I feel like we could make it work... even if it’s not now. It’s weird.
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ugh, hugs to you...that's rough..but in the end, at least you have your answer. I had my first POI tell me several times he wasn't looking for anything serious, and it's almost as if I was in denial (and I blame the readings for this) and kept hoping for more. When I finally accepted what is, instead of what I wish it would be, it was a game changer. While it's depressing and sad, I am glad I came to my senses.
Never let someone keep you on the sidelines while you wait for them to get their shit together..you're worth more than that!
The readings kept me hanging on, because small predictions would come thru so I kept saying, well the big one will come through eventually...it never did.
Funny part is, while I still have readings here and there, literally NOTHING they have told me has come through in the last six months or so, whether it be about the last POI, or a new POI, or anything. Readings are so pointless.
Deedee123:
Got a text from him a few hours ago... it said
“I’m not ignoring you” ... 4 days from my text. How annoying. I’m not even responding. Kinda laughed at it actually.
jhuskindle:
--- Quote from: Deedee123 on December 28, 2018, 01:01:48 AM ---Got a text from him a few hours ago... it said
“I’m not ignoring you” ... 4 days from my text. How annoying. I’m not even responding. Kinda laughed at it actually.
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Narcissism? Wtf is with that.... you told him not to talk, he didn’t ignore you, you told him not to talk unless he is ready. How dare he try to take that power from you. Ridiculous asshole.
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