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bstalling:
You are calling for the wrong reason, you want to hear that your ex will come back and at a certain date and time. This may in fact never happen, you want to hear that everything will
be ok and it is the worst way to use psychic readings.

This is JMO, but you can't use the LOA to make someone come back to you. Its a misleading use of LOA and it just has people thinking they can have whatever they want whenever...even if it
is someone that said they don't want to be with you. Most of it is BS.

Based on my years of experience getting readings, step back, stop the readings and deal with the heartbreak on a practical level. Get Mad even. You have to heal and psychics wont do it for you.

Littl30ne:
Hello everyone thank you for your supportive comments. My ex and I have been together for 4 years we met in junior year of college, we were together through the good and bad times. I even applied to his first job out of college because he was so anxious about applying... as soon as he got the job BOOOOM the dynamics changed! We both went on a lot of adventures together like traveling to countries like Mexico, Dominican Republic, lots of hiking trips, we tried new restaurants etc... we had the same taste in music/movies/art/hobbies... he was literally my other half. I don't know what happened tbh.. I never got closure which makes it even more difficult. We were also on the same cellphone plan and he was paying for my phone even after we broke up... which gave me hope he would return.

Finally in May I couldn't take it anymore and I asked him if he was coming back but his stubborn self said he wasn't so I finally returned the phone to him and got my own phone. I gave him back my old phone Bc it was too expensive for me to keep and I thought I should buy my own iPhone to prove to him that I'm fine on my own. I even left my texts on there so he could see.. lo and behold he did see my texts and he gave me some hell for texting my guy friends and for the cute sexy selfies I had on my phone (which were obviously intended for him but he thought I sent those to someone else). He told me he was hurt I was texting other guys (but they were just guy friends I never hung out w them nor sent them anything sexy). He got so jealous and I was like "ok if you're jealous then come back!" He started ignoring me again.. anyway our biggest fight was on May 27 and since then I've been blocked. Every time I tried to be civil he was either mean or ignored me... but I knew him, he used to get mad and then get over it -_-

I am kind of dating a mutual friend at the moment.. he went to the same college as we did and even studied the same major as my ex, but this guy wants to take it slow 🙄 I do enjoy his company but he's not like my ex at all.. like my ex and I were 2 VERY similar people! This guy also told me he doesn't want a label right now and he wants to see where it goes... I'm like ok I still love my ex any way so take your time! Some psychics told me the current guy I'm seeing is just experimenting with me--sometimes I get that vibe sometimes I don't. Ahh it's confusing!

Last, I'm at a point now where if I hear a positive psychic reading I won't believe it just like I won't believe a negative reading lol!! Anyone been at this point yet? I just know what I want now and that's it--maybe I'll get sick of waiting or maybe I won't. Maybe he will show up, maybe he won't.. there are too many possibilities! I will take all of you up on being present and living life with trust that if something is meant for me it will be in my life.

I'm slowly getting out of this rabbit hole but smh I just don't know .

Littl30ne:
Hi Maddie,

Oh my gosh it was a roller coaster in 2016.. let's just say we both hit a lot of bumps in the road along the way. Our arguments would get pretty bad sometimes and neither of us were mature when we fought. Sometimes he would say things like "you're fat" and totally messed with my head. I was insecure a lot at one point ( I did gain a lot of weight that year because I was super stressed from my work commute. Some people can commute far daily but I couldn't drive 80 miles round trip daily and I was getting desperate to find a new job). I'm in a much better place now as far as health and career go.. but it was hard to feel loved when I was insecure. These issues are totally fixable btw with communication and trust, he said it was too much work and baggage.

bstalling:
Sounds like you two are young and he just wants to know if there is more out there. It happens unfortunately.

HornetKick:

--- Quote from: mystery123 on July 10, 2017, 10:19:44 PM ---I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.

Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).

Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?

It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over.  Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.

I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!

I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.

For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol

I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”

Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!

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Really nice post. I enjoyed reading it and getting something out of the quote. TY.

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