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Littl30ne:

--- Quote from: morland1 on August 18, 2017, 01:44:34 PM ---I completely agree here with everything you all have said. I think in the moment we think its the worst thing that could happen to us but down the road we see people morph into who they truly are and sometimes that  just isn't who we want any more. My ex was my BEST FRIEND. I mean we could look at each other randomly and know what each other was thinking. He was truly a "soul-mate" for me. I was devastated when we broke up and struggled with him wanting to be in and out of my life for 6 years. I look back on that now and I'm so thankful things didn't work out the way I wanted them to. I would have missed out on so many opportunities and experiences I have had if we would've worked out. Who he is today isn't who I would want to be with anyway. I tell myself sometimes that there is no way I would want that life. I don't know him anymore.

I struggled with my POI because I want to be in that space with him as I am with my ex. I know one day I will get there but I am still in the "this is the worst thing that could happen" stage. But I know I will be thanking my lucky stars one day because thats how it always is.

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I can relate!! My ex was my only best friend too for 4 years and I made the mistake of making him a priority over making new friends... now all of my potential new friends are married and closer with their friends. They're busy and life is hectic so I understand but I should've kept the door open for other friendships outside of my relationship. I finally went out with a friend after a long time and my eyes just opened up to how valuable I am.

You don't have to get over your POI take your time, just focus on YOU and do things for yourself eat that ice cream have a lazy day or even an incredible spa day... take your time slowly you will see your worth and realize wow your POI really messed up by not being with someone as awesome as you are!

morland1:
Awe thank you I definitely needed to hear that.

Littl30ne:
You got this girl! 💖

Littl30ne:
So I made a tinder today.. 😂😂😭 no psychic foresaw that!!!  It's fun.. slightly intimidating 😂

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