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Littl30ne:
Hello friends! I have been dumped since December 2016 and I have not recovered because this guy was literally the love of my life-- we were always there for each other and we talked about getting married, etc.. then one day (Dec 5, 2016 to be exact!) After taking me out to a lovely hiking trip he broke up with me in November and again in December claiming he doesn't love me anymore.

In a frantic panic attack I begged him not to leave but he insisted we go our separate ways. I cried and cried and it felt like it wasn't over... then I kept getting chills down my spine and I thought make it's a sign of affirmation that he's coming back (I know it sounds crazy but I only got the chills when I thought of him coming back and they were calming chills too I can't explain!)

So I Googled psychics and came across Keen, Kasamba, California Psychics... let's just say I've gone down the rabbit hole and long story short, he is NOT back. My time frames kept getting pushed from February, March, April, May, now I'm getting end of August/he's never coming back. I've gotten mixed readings saying he will be back and he won't be back... ultimately I want him back so I'm trying this LOA thing but it's been very difficult to see any manifestations (maybe the negative readers got to me?) Finally I got an email reading from a psychic medium who told me he doesn't see a reconnection until 2 years later but even then we both will reconnect as friends.. I can't accept this reading! I just don't know anymore!

I started watching manifestation meditation videos by Agnes Vivarelli on YouTube and I'm thinking of consulting with her as a life coach but I just don't know.. I know what I want and I don't want to stop until I get it (excuse my craziness). Has anyone not accepted a negative reading and really manifested the return of their ex?? He's blocked me on his phone and WhatsApp but not on Facebook so I'm beginning to feel hopless but I can't let it happen because I want to manifest our reconnection so bad ahhh! Thanks for reading this 💖

Jjj:
Girl listen to me I feel your pain I know where you're coming from but do not keep going down that rabbit hole it's no good.

Every reading should be taken with a grain of salt good or bad but you cannot bet all your money on one whole reading even if they do get predictions correct they are humans but just with psychic abilities they are not perfect no one is all the way 100% And then there's so many things that factor into predictions just such as you know Free Will choosing a different path timing all this other stuff.

Even with my favorite psychic who sees long-term outcome predictions the fact that he doesn't give me timing makes me take things with a grain of salt because what he saying could happen 2 months from now to years from now five years from now 10 years from now even those he sees that being the greater outcome he has still said to me before you can always choose someone else but I don't see you choosing someone else on that time comes.... BUT I STILL HAVE TO MOVE ON AND LIVE LIFE!

Readings every few months are okay but don't bet everything on it that would be my advice.
Also LOA is an amazing thing, and I believe in most of it and I believe it's a greater way of life but the most important thing is having faith letting go and just seeing what God brings you

Love-33:
How long did your relationship last?
Sorry you are going through this  :-[ I feel your pain trust me. But instead of working on trying to get him back, work on moving on and meet new people, new men... and you will see once you have interest in another one you won't even think about your ex anymore!

maroonlight:
Unfortunately I would say you should take the predictions with a grain of salt. A few dozen CP readers told me my ex would return and he never did, and then I called keen psychics over 2 other guys and they also gave me favorable outcomes which never happened. Eventually I stopped obsessing and got over the fact that I could not have the men that I wanted at the time, and it was a total waste spending so much money because it's not like it did anything to change the outcome at all. Just live your life day by day and don't be too disappointed if nothing ever happens.

mystery123:
I can absolutely relate to your post! Except for me it was past two years. I have tried everything from psychics, to affirmations, to trying LOA, to doing candle prayers, going to the holiest of places and praying for it, fasting, all manifestation and wish granting techniques available on internet, you name it and I have done it.. in the end I can say it didn't help. I was listening to this book once and the lady said if you want confirmation from universe then ask for a sign, I did, and got one!! But nothing happened, not sure what those signs were for.

Yes, at times I felt I saw some difference in the guy(or maybe it was just my perception), we hooked up again, on and off, so I thought maybe it's my Lanie Stevens or one of 1000 LOA things I try is working, but in the end the truth is it didn't last and that it was painful for me.
I wanted something meaningful which he couldn't provide. I have been hurt beyond my wildest imagination, and I have stopped seeing the light at the end of the tunnel (at least with him).

Last month, I actually have started working on myself, and trying to see why do I want someone who doesn't want me? Is rejection breeding my obsession? Or, is it some inner work I need to do? Do I really want to be with someone for whom I have to put in so much work?

It feels/felt like I am failing and my ego just doesn't wanna accept that it's over.  Earlier, I would disregard negative readings and still keep reading, but I guess in the end the negative ones were right, at least for me. I am still trying to heal, can't focus on my work, have to take crying breaks (I feel stupid just writing that lol).. but I have to remind myself that if God/Universe/Higher Power doesn't want it, the guy doesn't want it, then I am the minority here. Life is unfair and I maybe have to accept it, learn my lesson and move on. Trust me I am trying to hard every single day, life seems hopeless, but I read about people here and how they moved on and maybe one day I will feel better too.

I exactly know how you feel, this was the first time I felt so passionately for someone, when I look back and even now too, I can't believe it can be over, I feel it was something super special and what not (and especially when psychics tell you-- what you guys have I don't see that often, I bet they throw this line to everyone) but now I stop myself and ask myself --why am I being so stubborn? Why can't I just let it go? I have wasted good 2 years, have been in so much pain, I don't think it's worth it!

I agree with above comments, try to move on, if he's to come back maybe he will, but don't pin your hope to something that might never happen.

For past two years, I have tried to make things happen so much that I feel exhausted now, almost like Universe/God didn't listen to me, and some days I am so mad and feel it's so unfair, but I am coming to accept that it is what it is, unfortunately life is not fair. I had learnt this lesson pretty good as a child, but I think I had forgotten so someone up there decided to give me a reminder...lol

I am trying to surrender, and let go, hence have started reading A course in Miracles, which says 'a miracle is change in your perception' and here is a quote from one of it's teachers-
“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it’s not your train.”

Sorry it's so long, but hope it helps!

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