Ugh... this reader told me my POI (baby dad) will leave me for someone else. I feel like shit. Been crying for days now. My mind is so fucked. Sorry everyone. Having a very hard few weeks.
Hon, Don't get worked up over that something that hasn't happened yet. I'm probably old enough to be your grandmother and one thing I learned (probably later than I should have, lol) is that when you act as if something negative that hasn't happened is a done deal, you go through the emotional trauma as if it is actually happening. Then when it doesn't happen, you put yourself through all of that for nothing. You gain nothing by doing this.
You can't control his actions. Protect yourself financially and emotionally as much as you can, but he's going to do what he is going to do ... good or bad. Do something proactive if that will help, like asking him to see a counselor with you. It takes two to save a relationship.
I've had my heart broken a couple of times. It's no fun. The thing that I realize now is that I lived through it and fell in love with someone better for me each time. There was this one man when I was in my 20's, I felt like my world ended. I cried for months. I didn't know how I was going to go on. He was everything to me. Now I look back and see how wrong he was for me. I also feel nothing for him, good or bad. When it was going on I couldn't imagine a day would come that I would be "eh" about him. He really was the center of my universe and I wanted to die when we broke up. Now that I'm older, I can see all the red flags that were waving and how dumb I was, but I also really learned a lot about what I DON'T want in a man and what behaviors I won't accept any more. If this guy goes, you can and WILL do better with the next one, but don't waste your tears on something that hasn't happened. There will be plenty of things in life that you will get to cry about.