cjean... this dude sounds shady. I'm sorry, but do you really want to be with a man (excuse me, boy) who would get another girl pregnant and continue this dance with you? I think he has to sort out his life, because there's a new person coming into this world. And it SHOULD affect him and maybe help him grow up a little, start to understand responsibility. And who knows, because many never do. Do you think perhaps you would be totally gracious and step out of the equation for yourself and him and that child?
I feel very strongly that you deserve better than this situation has been and can be for you. Think of the most upstanding male figures in your life, maybe your grandfather with the lotto numbers, and ask yourself, what would they say about this guy? Funny thing- I asked myself that question with the guy I thought I should/would be with, and I actually answered that my grandfather wouldn't judge that he was a cheater because my grandfather might have done that too (history's a little unknown on that point), but in the final days, when my story came to a giant climactic head, I thought of Che Guevara and Johnny Cash, and how they had found women they were better with while they were married to otherwise good women. I thought, 'it happens, right, this could be us.' BUT THEN, it hit me, those men were solid, honest and owned up to their feelings and made that change even though they hurt someone they loved. That is how he was not like them. And that is why I felt my respect for him, and
all the excuses I'd made for him, GO.
I know you posted all that writing about soul mates, I know you're feeling this intense connection, but as a woman who also loves profoundly deeply and has a few years on you, I promise you, these feelings happen again. I've said it before, love shouldn't torment you, it should make you feel capable of great things, supported, and safe, and secure, that your hearts are joined and nothing else is standing in the way. Billions of people in the world (aka fish in the sea!!) xoxoxo!!!
