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Hands up if you've ever been told this....
dasaninot:
Hands up if the man who broke you, cheated on you, disrespect you, abused you, ghosted you, etc. actually is fearful because your connection was so deep, and they're not ready to commit or they're scared of such grandiose, once-in-a-lifetime feelings.
Even when they couldn't care enough about you to take two seconds to say it's over or not, two seconds to think before cheating, two seconds to think about reaching out to express all those deep feelings they've harbored for a year....after they ghosted you.
Hands up if the man you've inquired about is working on himself, working on his feelings, his finances, something is bothering him with family, something at work is stressing him...
Even if he's a bum who couldn't care less about his finances or working on himself.
Hands up if anytime you've brought up a third party it's because they were interfering with his life, and they were clingy and he didn't want them but he wanted you.
Even when he can't stand that person so much that they're devoting their time to them, and don't have two seconds to reach out to you.
I've heard all these things a million times, over and over, about every POI I've ever had. Every POI who never returned, every POI who was happy with someone else or few of those someone elses. I've gotten wiser over the years. But I feel these aren't common to just me, but I'm noticing patterns on here.
There has never been one person who ever picked up on the past. I never provide information so I don't say if someone is a new interest or an ex. Shouldn't a legit psychic know that? Do they need more time to focus if they don't? Here take my money! If you know everything else but the basics, how can I trust you?
Anyway, rant over. I look at the facts. Facts are if someone *has all these superb feelings* and *thinks the world of you*, how are they so far away? Detached? Living their life? Not caring if you're even alive?
C'mon ladies. We all know it deep down inside. A man who wants you shows it. It's 2019. Love isn't some Shakespearean play. If someone wants to be with you, they will.
Let's pick ourselves up and gain back our power. The truth is cold, but the lies will burn you into ashes.
Scorpio9227:
yes! to almost all of them. when I first slid down the psychic slide, I found myself calling obsessively trying to figure out what was going on in the mind of an ex, who had ghosted me after dating for 9 months (the ghosting came out of nowhere, we were doing fine, so I thought.. and boom.. never heard from him again?) all of the readers told me that he was entering a spiritual awakening, he's never felt the intensity that we have together before, that he's afraid to approach me because too much time had gone by, that he knows I deserve better, I intimidate him, blah blah they all gave fairy tale predictions that he would return a better version of himself and that he would be back shortly always giving the 3 week mark on keen, of course JUST past the timeframe you can leave a review.. the worst of these was Kellys tarot, she would ALWAYS say that he's thinking about me, working on himself, and that in 3 weeks she sees him reaching out.. thank GOD I found this forum and that readers can sometimes bs us..
dasaninot:
--- Quote from: Scorpio9227 on October 15, 2019, 12:08:46 AM ---yes! to almost all of them. when I first slid down the psychic slide, I found myself calling obsessively trying to figure out what was going on in the mind of an ex, who had ghosted me after dating for 9 months (the ghosting came out of nowhere, we were doing fine, so I thought.. and boom.. never heard from him again?) all of the readers told me that he was entering a spiritual awakening, he's never felt the intensity that we have together before, that he's afraid to approach me because too much time had gone by, that he knows I deserve better, I intimidate him, blah blah they all gave fairy tale predictions that he would return a better version of himself and that he would be back shortly always giving the 3 week mark on keen, of course JUST past the timeframe you can leave a review.. the worst of these was Kellys tarot, she would ALWAYS say that he's thinking about me, working on himself, and that in 3 weeks she sees him reaching out.. thank GOD I found this forum and that readers can sometimes bs us..
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I'm so sorry about the ghosting. Cowards. True cowards who need to grow some balls. If I ever run into the one person who ghosted me once, I'd flat out call him a coward and tell him to grow a pair AGAIN even though I roll myself at being so stupid to believe anything. Just like you, it came out of nowhere. I can't believe I waited 10 months for him to return, and I was actually over him quickly after because what he did made me angry. Then I got to calling psychics and boom, pretty much obsessed.
I'm glad I found this forum too, but I also see its negatives. I feel like there are many people still blind and being told these things and they will believe them because a) the outcome is positive b) they make you feel good and c) can't be verified because all these things are in relation to what goes on in someone's head.
So I feel like people are really forcing these outcomes even when time-frames pass. And then they will praise a reader here without giving too many specifics, and then you try them out and you're like (what! how?). I don't know, just a theory. I feel like this forum is great but it may likely fuel my reading purchases if I don't control myself. It's so easy to see a new thread with great comments and want to try a psychic out, and then you do, you're underwhelmed and you understand they were praised only because they likely said some fairy-tales or kept it neutral so it didn't seem like an embellished reading but still gave a good outcome. Or basically said nothing that can be validated, but it could apply to many people.
Yaz88:
I don’t know. I mean, yes, many of the readers used the excuses you mentioned. My POI didn’t cheat, things got complicated between us overnight (literally), he said he wasn’t in a position to be in a relationship (true), told me he had things he needed to work on (also true), and then disappeared without a trace. For the first three months I listened to the readers that he was overcoming obstacles, really trying to get his shit together, working on healing, how much he missed me blah blah blah. I texted him a few times like three months after the disappearing act, nice texts, to which he didn’t respond. Then five months after the disappearing act, I sent another text that wasn’t mean or nice, but clearly showed my displeasure at his silence. Still no response. Then one day, I just woke up. I can’t say which reading triggered this. But, I really don’t care what the hell is going on in his life. I don’t care if his entire world blew up. If someone who was your friend texts you, you text them back. We are grown ass adults. You don’t hide, you confront the situation and handle it. That’s what you do when you respect someone. So now, in my mind, he’s just not worth it. Perhaps someday our paths will cross again and he’ll explain to me why he went silent. But in the meantime, I’m not holding my breath. I always keep an open mind and I’m not one to hold a grudge, but I also know what kind of behavior I find acceptable, and that THIS is not acceptable. Memories do fade in time, and time does heal all wounds. So hang in there, but don’t deny yourself your own worth.
Scorpio9227:
I sort of feel that way about Yona. She's super hyped up, and I'm sure she's predicted tons of things for many people, but for me I found my reading with her to be quite cryptic. She said very general and vague things regarding my boyfriend, and yeah she said that we would work out and that things would eventually be good between us, but she predicted all things that could have applied to any of our interactions. One thing she predicted was "there will be breakthroughs and understandings, in a different location than where you live." I asked if it was Mexico, since we had a trip planned that weekend, she said no, someplace else, but I'm not familiar with it. This could have applied to any of the subsequent trips we had planned? overall I felt underwhelmed after waiting six weeks to read with her. However, I've found a couple of really solid readers, who I absolutely love from this forum! there's one reader who gets our dynamics down to a tee, she can even tell me how our interactions unfold. She's told me when I need to reach out during arguments, and when I need to be stubborn and allow him to reach out. she's never been wrong.
I felt the exact same way as you regarding the ghosting thing. it sucked, but it made it super easy to move on. After he ghosted me, I started seeing my current boyfriend, and we've been together a year and a half. So, all things considered, he did me a favor haha
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