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Dating and Guilt
Wanderlust619:
--- Quote from: Lovefash67 on August 30, 2019, 11:33:09 PM ---Honestly the worst feeling is dating someone else and then comparing them to your POi. It’s like you get sad because you really want your POI and not the other person and he other person doesn’t make you feel the way your POI makes you feel . It’s not a great feeling
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In some ways these other guys are better/more stable/ can offer more but it's just not the same. Everything sweet or considerate they say just makes me wish he was saying it instead.
ladya:
--- Quote from: HopelesslyHis on August 30, 2019, 11:24:24 PM ---I have tried to date and had that same feeling. I'm actually looking forward to telling him about it because he is the type of guy who expects me to wait around pining and I want him to know there's life after him. 😂
But I can't seem to get past a second date without feeling bad or uncomfortable. Like I don't want this guy to think this is going anywhere because I'm just waiting for POI. I don't even want a fling. I just feel pressured by friends telling me to move on.
I'm just doing things for myself and trying to treat myself better.
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dont let anyone make you feel pressured to do anything. those are not real people you should have around you. most people want to see you happy as long as youre not happier than them. listen to your soul, screw everyone else.
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: HopelesslyHis on August 30, 2019, 11:24:24 PM ---I have tried to date and had that same feeling. I'm actually looking forward to telling him about it because he is the type of guy who expects me to wait around pining and I want him to know there's life after him. 😂
But I can't seem to get past a second date without feeling bad or uncomfortable. Like I don't want this guy to think this is going anywhere because I'm just waiting for POI. I don't even want a fling. I just feel pressured by friends telling me to move on.
I'm just doing things for myself and trying to treat myself better.
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Are we the same person?! My friends tell me the same and act like I’m crazy when I try to explain my reasoning lol. I’m in no rush to move on, I genuinely love the feeling of being in love with someone but I know I don’t need someone new right now. I don’t spend my days sobbing about him but he’s still the only person I want to go to when something happens - good or bad.
Wanderlust619:
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 30, 2019, 11:59:48 PM ---
--- Quote from: HopelesslyHis on August 30, 2019, 11:24:24 PM ---I have tried to date and had that same feeling. I'm actually looking forward to telling him about it because he is the type of guy who expects me to wait around pining and I want him to know there's life after him. 😂
But I can't seem to get past a second date without feeling bad or uncomfortable. Like I don't want this guy to think this is going anywhere because I'm just waiting for POI. I don't even want a fling. I just feel pressured by friends telling me to move on.
I'm just doing things for myself and trying to treat myself better.
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Are we the same person?! My friends tell me the same and act like I’m crazy when I try to explain my reasoning lol. I’m in no rush to move on, I genuinely love the feeling of being in love with someone but I know I don’t need someone new right now. I don’t spend my days sobbing about him but he’s still the only person I want to go to when something happens - good or bad.
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EXACTLY. I'm done looking around. If someone sweeps me off my feet in some sneak attack romance, you can't fight fate but I have no interest in these blind dates, dating apps or hook ups that people say will do the trick. I'm set, thank you. 😅
Wanderlust619:
--- Quote from: ladya on August 30, 2019, 11:51:56 PM ---
--- Quote from: HopelesslyHis on August 30, 2019, 11:24:24 PM ---I have tried to date and had that same feeling. I'm actually looking forward to telling him about it because he is the type of guy who expects me to wait around pining and I want him to know there's life after him. 😂
But I can't seem to get past a second date without feeling bad or uncomfortable. Like I don't want this guy to think this is going anywhere because I'm just waiting for POI. I don't even want a fling. I just feel pressured by friends telling me to move on.
I'm just doing things for myself and trying to treat myself better.
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dont let anyone make you feel pressured to do anything. those are not real people you should have around you. most people want to see you happy as long as youre not happier than them. listen to your soul, screw everyone else.
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Girl, YES. Thanks. 👏👏👏
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