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Dating and Guilt
Girly1998:
I went on a second date last night with a person who has been trying all summer with me, the whole drive there I felt like I was doing something wrong. I’ve talked to this guy for awhile and obviously met him before so it wasn’t the normal first date nervousness- surprisingly I don’t really get that. I just kept thinking about how my POI would be hurt if I told him about this fling when 😉 he comes back. Almost turned around mid drive because it just felt wrong. I know it’s not wrong but I just felt like it; like I just don’t belong with anybody except for him.
Now, I’ve been through breakups before and even when I didn’t want them to end- I still bounced back fast. It’s just different this time and me being my over-analytical self wonders if it’s for a reason. Is it intuition?
I know most on here have found it hard to let go of a POI and we all have called at some point to check on a possible return, but have you genuinely felt pure guilt by trying to move on.
I don’t want to place my blame on psychic giving me false hope because I have only read with Kisha, Rusty and Leanne at this point. Rusty was positive but she had to fish for information, Kisha briefly mentioned him but didn’t make a prediction on whether he’ll be back or not and with Leanne, I couldn’t match anybody to her predictions.
HornetKick:
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 30, 2019, 02:19:48 PM ---I went on a second date last night with a person who has been trying all summer with me, the whole drive there I felt like I was doing something wrong. I’ve talked to this guy for awhile and obviously met him before so it wasn’t the normal first date nervousness- surprisingly I don’t really get that. I just kept thinking about how my POI would be hurt if I told him about this fling when 😉 he comes back. Almost turned around mid drive because it just felt wrong. I know it’s not wrong but I just felt like it; like I just don’t belong with anybody except for him.
Now, I’ve been through breakups before and even when I didn’t want them to end- I still bounced back fast. It’s just different this time and me being my over-analytical self wonders if it’s for a reason. Is it intuition?
I know most on here have found it hard to let go of a POI and we all have called at some point to check on a possible return, but have you genuinely felt pure guilt by trying to move on.
I don’t want to place my blame on psychic giving me false hope because I have only read with Kisha, Rusty and Leanne at this point. Rusty was positive but she had to fish for information, Kisha briefly mentioned him but didn’t make a prediction on whether he’ll be back or not and with Leanne, I couldn’t match anybody to her predictions.
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If you feel you need to move on, then move on. Only you know the answer to that, not some psychic. Many of us have been kept spinning on the same dumbass we should have moved on from a long time ago, mainly sticking with it only because of the hope we were fed. Go only by how you feel, how the situation presents itself and what the S.O. is actually doing, not saying. Whatever you do, don't go by what some reader says.
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: HornetKick on August 30, 2019, 09:27:13 PM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 30, 2019, 02:19:48 PM ---I went on a second date last night with a person who has been trying all summer with me, the whole drive there I felt like I was doing something wrong. I’ve talked to this guy for awhile and obviously met him before so it wasn’t the normal first date nervousness- surprisingly I don’t really get that. I just kept thinking about how my POI would be hurt if I told him about this fling when 😉 he comes back. Almost turned around mid drive because it just felt wrong. I know it’s not wrong but I just felt like it; like I just don’t belong with anybody except for him.
Now, I’ve been through breakups before and even when I didn’t want them to end- I still bounced back fast. It’s just different this time and me being my over-analytical self wonders if it’s for a reason. Is it intuition?
I know most on here have found it hard to let go of a POI and we all have called at some point to check on a possible return, but have you genuinely felt pure guilt by trying to move on.
I don’t want to place my blame on psychic giving me false hope because I have only read with Kisha, Rusty and Leanne at this point. Rusty was positive but she had to fish for information, Kisha briefly mentioned him but didn’t make a prediction on whether he’ll be back or not and with Leanne, I couldn’t match anybody to her predictions.
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If you feel you need to move on, then move on. Only you know the answer to that, not some psychic. Many of us have been kept spinning on the same dumbass we should have moved on from a long time ago, mainly sticking with it only because of the hope we were fed. Go only by how you feel, how the situation presents itself and what the S.O. is actually doing, not saying. Whatever you do, don't go by what some reader says.
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I agree. I stated I read very seldom so I’m not putting blame on readers - only with what I feel. This just isn’t a normal feeling for me.
Wanderlust619:
I have tried to date and had that same feeling. I'm actually looking forward to telling him about it because he is the type of guy who expects me to wait around pining and I want him to know there's life after him. 😂
But I can't seem to get past a second date without feeling bad or uncomfortable. Like I don't want this guy to think this is going anywhere because I'm just waiting for POI. I don't even want a fling. I just feel pressured by friends telling me to move on.
I'm just doing things for myself and trying to treat myself better.
Lovefash67:
Honestly the worst feeling is dating someone else and then comparing them to your POi. It’s like you get sad because you really want your POI and not the other person and he other person doesn’t make you feel the way your POI makes you feel . It’s not a great feeling
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