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Offline Zzib

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I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« on: June 11, 2019, 02:15:52 AM »
How do you guys forgive yourself after spending nearly 7k from April-June  on psychic readings? I feel awful and just for a guy, I can’t believe it. I can say I’ve been 3 days psychic free and hope to keep it that way. But I feel so awful about spending all that I had

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2019, 02:18:42 AM »
It's all good, shit happens. I say try not to dwell on it, and good for you for being 3 days free of readings and keep that momentum moving forward.  :)

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #2 on: June 11, 2019, 02:26:15 AM »
It's all good, shit happens. I say try not to dwell on it, and good for you for being 3 days free of readings and keep that momentum moving forward.  :)

Thank you mrrrh22 for your kind words, this forum is all I have to vent cause my family and friends don’t know about the addiction cause they wouldn’t understand but I really need a hug from them , but i will try to keep strong!

Hundreds of readings
Thousands of dollars
They were all wrong

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #3 on: June 11, 2019, 02:32:52 AM »
Anytime! I told my family I read with psychics, but they have no idea how much I've spent or how often I've read.

This forum has actually helped me a lot to be honest. Sometimes when I felt the urge to get a reading, I'd get lost reading the posts on here, and then the urge went away. And by reading on here, it's helped me research a lot of readers before I try them, so I'm actually getting less readings than I was. Before, I used to read with many psychics who had good reviews on the platform website, but they weren't that great so I never felt satisfied from the readings, so I kept getting more.

I'm not sure if that helps at all.


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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #4 on: June 11, 2019, 02:40:12 AM »
How do you guys forgive yourself after spending nearly 7k from April-June  on psychic readings? I feel awful and just for a guy, I can’t believe it. I can say I’ve been 3 days psychic free and hope to keep it that way. But I feel so awful about spending all that I had

I feel you... i spent around the same amount and now i am debt... i am so worried now.  My family has been sending me money on cashapp and i dont have much food in my fridge now. I feel so stupid.  The only thing helping me stay away now is psalm 91, blood of jesus prayer, and the lord's prayer.  i will get some incense later.  addiction is real.  i have hit rock bottom and trying to pull myself up again.

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #5 on: June 11, 2019, 02:46:19 AM »
How do you guys forgive yourself after spending nearly 7k from April-June  on psychic readings? I feel awful and just for a guy, I can’t believe it. I can say I’ve been 3 days psychic free and hope to keep it that way. But I feel so awful about spending all that I had

I feel you... i spent around the same amount and now i am debt... i am so worried now.  My family has been sending me money on cashapp and i dont have much food in my fridge now. I feel so stupid.  The only thing helping me stay away now is psalm 91, blood of jesus prayer, and the lord's prayer.  i will get some incense later.  addiction is real.  i have hit rock bottom and trying to pull myself up again.

I am having the same situation, not in debt but I have nothing in the bank, I literally was spending whatever I was making during the week, my weekly paycheck Dissapear with psychic readings and just like you I have nothing in my fridge, this situation has to change for us 

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #6 on: June 11, 2019, 04:18:31 AM »
I haven’t spent thousands this time, but I did 10 years ago in college. I think after feeling silly for awhile I just took it as a lesson learned and just try not to think about it

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #7 on: June 11, 2019, 06:13:28 AM »
How do you guys forgive yourself after spending nearly 7k from April-June  on psychic readings? I feel awful and just for a guy, I can’t believe it. I can say I’ve been 3 days psychic free and hope to keep it that way. But I feel so awful about spending all that I had

The only thing I can do is be thankful I stopped and looked at just how much I spent. Even though I’ve still had a small number since I did that - it has been eye opening and very upsetting. But I guess I think you know people spend money on lots of things - cigarettes, going out for drinks, expensive hair cuts - all things I used to do in my life and over 19 months if I smoked a pack a day and did those other things or something else - well I’d probably spent an equal amount. So I guess I see it that way. And just move forward and try not to be too hard on myself in terms of judging the behavior. Just look it in the eye and realize no, you don’t have the money for this and it’s not at all work what you’ve spent.

When I think of how much I spent on cigarettes and what damage that did to my body over years - it’s similar.

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #8 on: June 11, 2019, 07:42:36 AM »
It was really hard to accept how much I spent, but in the end I appreciate what it taught me about my own worth. I never realized how damaging my relationships were until I saw it in terms of a dollar amount I was losing every month. I started seeing that as a representation of personal value. And if I was spending too much, it meant that I was giving too much of myself away to people who didn't appreciate it or didn't give back in the same way. Like if I spent $200 in a week trying to cope with job stress, that was because my job was taking that much out of me emotionally and I was trying to refill my cup by talking to someone. So I started seeing how much I gave of myself as having a real world, monetary value. I think before all of this, I only saw value in what I could "do" to produce an outcome, and that was what drove me to keep trying to fix things that weren't working. And I thought of what I gave from within myself as "free" like listening, caring, etc. so I didn't see how much it was costing me to care about people who didn't care that much in return. Now I see that whatever I give of myself has value, and if I give too much away it has a literal cost to my life that requires extra time, money, and other resources to recover.

However much you spent, know that your true value as a person is worth so much more than that.

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #9 on: June 12, 2019, 05:37:35 AM »
hugss......it happened..
Please please please just think that is this person worth it.

Do you even want him back.

Please dont mess your life for a a$$*^%#

lots of love and prayers your way

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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #10 on: June 12, 2019, 04:07:52 PM »
Still tired ---->>> THIS is really insightful ... "I think before all of this, I only saw value in what I could "do" to produce an outcome, and that was what drove me to keep trying to fix things that weren't working. And I thought of what I gave from within myself as "free" like listening, caring, etc. so I didn't see how much it was costing me to care about people who didn't care that much in return. Now I see that whatever I give of myself has value, and if I give too much away it has a literal cost to my life that requires extra time, money, and other resources to recover."

I spent an embarassing amount of money (like 6 digits embarassing) over four years. I couldn't really believe how people who said they care about me could behave towards me, and it blew me off-center really easily. I have had to learn how to be generous with myself first - it was hard, and that surprised and disappointed me. I thought I was in better shape than I actually was. I learned (still learning) discernment and how my generosity doesnt translate into other people being generous with me. So I watch for that now. I'm also much clearer about how sensitive I am and how that has to be cherished, protected and valued by ME.  I gave people way too much credit and treated them like peers when in fact many dont have a clue what they are doing energetically, and I cant fix that. Knowledge hard won.

I have been here for quite a while, just reading. So first post here today and Still Tired, thanks.


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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #11 on: June 12, 2019, 05:13:49 PM »
Welcome to the forum sanshine. All of that, same for me. I always sort of assumed other people would treat me according to a certain value system and it would throw me off balance when they didn't. I thought my ex shared a lot of the same values I have but it turned out he doesn't. I was very generous with him but he didn't appreciate it and instead turned it into a negative and ridiculed me for it. I've had a similar problem with my job.

In some ways I was paying psychics to give me what other people in my life didn't give much of, like empathy, listening, acknowledgement, validation. And I realized that no matter how much the psychics gave me of that it would never make up for not receiving it from my ex, my family, my friends or my employer. But, it also taught me how much those things are worth, as in if I found myself paying tons of money for it then it is valuable and I shouldn't be giving all that away for free to people who don't deserve it (or who may not even be able to receive it properly.)

A lot of the time I was giving empathy to other people and they were not really returning it so I just felt drained, and misunderstood. Then I would call a psychic and because they have such an intuitive sense of people it made me feel like they could SEE me. The downside is they mixed that up with a lot of wrong information and wrong predictions so in the long run it left me feeling more insecure for talking to them. Like, if this person can SEE me but they get my whole future wrong, what if they are wrong about how they see me as a person too? So I realized I couldn't reply on them for anything, not even emotional support. It is like standing on quicksand.

I've realized I have a lot of intuitive and empathic gifts as well, but people do not always appreciate it, especially at work because it isn't always something you can quantify. So I really understand the position that psychics are in because it is hard to quantify what they do or produce reliable results from it. But the important thing is I stopped looking at it as a giveaway.




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Re: I Spent Thousands of Dollars
« Reply #12 on: June 13, 2019, 02:27:46 PM »
Still Tired - agreed its key to learn that emotional consideration isnt a 'giveaway'. Hopefully in my learning I can pass some of it along to other sensitives and at least spread out the 'personal cost' that learning has been for me. I have been working in a committed way with some healers that have good integrity that have helped me get the energetic space and boundaries in better shape. Here's to not being taken advantage of in the future. I still get readings with a few readers from time to time but I'm not feeling the emotional abandonment, deprivation and desperation any more. It also has helped a ton to put boundaries around people who are too dramatic for me. Peace is where its at.