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Offline doubleoh8

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Ways to break the calling cycle
« on: April 03, 2019, 03:25:41 PM »
Hi all (who are interested). I see the admin added new boards for this and for Bitwine. Thanks!

Since I asked for it, I'll start a topic here. I came across an article on Leanne Halyburton's blog called "HAVE YOU BECOME A PSYCHIC JUNKIE? HOW TO BREAK THE HEARTBREAKING CYCLE":

https://leannehalyburton.com/2019/03/09/have-you-become-a-psychic-junkie-how-to-break-the-heartbreaking-cycle/

Thought I would share as it had some good advice. Her first tip, about being honest with yourself about possible red flags, definitely applied to me.

[and for the record, I have no association with Leanne. I have never even read with her but was checking her site out after reading posts on here one day and saw the blog post.]

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Re: Ways to break the calling cycle
« Reply #1 on: April 09, 2019, 08:21:09 PM »
I figured I'd chime in. Nothing that's published on how to stop out there worked for me. Because it's a learned distress tolerance behavior for those of us who overdo it.

Here's what worked. Stop talking to the psychics and talk to your POI instead IF YOU FEEL YOU SHOULD. It will either go well, or it won't, and you will allow yourself to know the truth, heal, and eventually move on. If you feel you should wait and leave it alone, and allow life to show you other things, then do that. Get in touch with what YOU feel "pushed" to do personally. Then do it.

"But what if I talk and it isn't the best timing and I ruin it?"

If it's truly meant to be - this is your person - you cannot do anything to ruin it. People cheat and stay together. I'm not recommending you try completely disregarding and becoming a wild woman (or man) and using that as insurance to do whatever you like.

But if you cannot have a conversation with them. You cannot have any kind of healthy relationship with them. Sometimes conversations have to "sit" with the other person a bit for things to go the direction you hope for, so don't expect an immediate response.

That's my best advice.

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Re: Ways to break the calling cycle
« Reply #2 on: April 09, 2019, 08:30:06 PM »
I figured I'd chime in. Nothing that's published on how to stop out there worked for me. Because it's a learned distress tolerance behavior for those of us who overdo it.

Here's what worked. Stop talking to the psychics and talk to your POI instead IF YOU FEEL YOU SHOULD. It will either go well, or it won't, and you will allow yourself to know the truth, heal, and eventually move on. If you feel you should wait and leave it alone, and allow life to show you other things, then do that. Get in touch with what YOU feel "pushed" to do personally. Then do it.

"But what if I talk and it isn't the best timing and I ruin it?"

If it's truly meant to be - this is your person - you cannot do anything to ruin it. People cheat and stay together. I'm not recommending you try completely disregarding and becoming a wild woman (or man) and using that as insurance to do whatever you like.

But if you cannot have a conversation with them. You cannot have any kind of healthy relationship with them. Sometimes conversations have to "sit" with the other person a bit for things to go the direction you hope for, so don't expect an immediate response.

That's my best advice.

I agree and think it is great advice!

Going cold turkey can be hard, however, so if you do not feel comfortable letting go of psychics completely maybe try a reading once a month. Outside of that, let your intuition guide you and take note of whatever predictions do or do not come to pass. Eventually, you will get so used to following your own inner guidance that the psychics will no longer be necessary.

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Re: Ways to break the calling cycle
« Reply #3 on: April 09, 2019, 09:40:56 PM »
I figured I'd chime in. Nothing that's published on how to stop out there worked for me. Because it's a learned distress tolerance behavior for those of us who overdo it.

Here's what worked. Stop talking to the psychics and talk to your POI instead IF YOU FEEL YOU SHOULD. It will either go well, or it won't, and you will allow yourself to know the truth, heal, and eventually move on. If you feel you should wait and leave it alone, and allow life to show you other things, then do that. Get in touch with what YOU feel "pushed" to do personally. Then do it.

"But what if I talk and it isn't the best timing and I ruin it?"

If it's truly meant to be - this is your person - you cannot do anything to ruin it. People cheat and stay together. I'm not recommending you try completely disregarding and becoming a wild woman (or man) and using that as insurance to do whatever you like.

But if you cannot have a conversation with them. You cannot have any kind of healthy relationship with them. Sometimes conversations have to "sit" with the other person a bit for things to go the direction you hope for, so don't expect an immediate response.

That's my best advice.

I agree!!  Yes if you can't have a conversation with them...you can't have a relationship.

Offline Dreamer23

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Re: Ways to break the calling cycle
« Reply #4 on: April 12, 2019, 01:05:23 PM »
I agree, talking to POI definitely helps. I wasted years talking to psychics instead of being direct and honest with POI. Psychics always told me NOT to ask too much of him, not to tell him what I want because it will scare him away. So I did that but I was left in a state of confusion and I'd go to psychics and they would reassure me everything was okay. So yes, more money for them.

So I talked to POI but that still didn't make me stop talking to psychics. Because I would ask psychics "well, did POI tell me the truth? what's gonna happen still?"

The only thing that stopped my interest in psychics is me deciding that I am no longer going to chase my POI. That if he wants to be in my life, he will reach out, he will tell me so, I will see it in his actions. But I no longer desire to chase and hope.

I made that decision and since then thinking of calling psychics is appalling to me. And stupid. Thinking of consulting tarot cards sounds so silly. Because I have called tons and I mean tons of psychics and have done tons of tarot readings and everything I was told, some of it came true and some didn't. And it's only because I was told general things that could have come true or couldn't. I wasn't told anything that came true 100% where I could be like: oh yes, they were so right. It was all half and half, and I was told a bunch of other things that none were true, negative things were not true, positive things were not true either. I didn't get any substantial readings from the 100 or so psychics that I contacted.

My own experience and me deciding that life is so much more than wanting a specific person in your life...these two things combined, have made me stop talking to psychics.

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Re: Ways to break the calling cycle
« Reply #5 on: April 12, 2019, 01:12:51 PM »
I agree, talking to POI definitely helps. I wasted years talking to psychics instead of being direct and honest with POI. Psychics always told me NOT to ask too much of him, not to tell him what I want because it will scare him away. So I did that but I was left in a state of confusion and I'd go to psychics and they would reassure me everything was okay. So yes, more money for them.

So I talked to POI but that still didn't make me stop talking to psychics. Because I would ask psychics "well, did POI tell me the truth? what's gonna happen still?"

The only thing that stopped my interest in psychics is me deciding that I am no longer going to chase my POI. That if he wants to be in my life, he will reach out, he will tell me so, I will see it in his actions. But I no longer desire to chase and hope.

I made that decision and since then thinking of calling psychics is appalling to me. And stupid. Thinking of consulting tarot cards sounds so silly. Because I have called tons and I mean tons of psychics and have done tons of tarot readings and everything I was told, some of it came true and some didn't. And it's only because I was told general things that could have come true or couldn't. I wasn't told anything that came true 100% where I could be like: oh yes, they were so right. It was all half and half, and I was told a bunch of other things that none were true, negative things were not true, positive things were not true either. I didn't get any substantial readings from the 100 or so psychics that I contacted.

My own experience and me deciding that life is so much more than wanting a specific person in your life...these two things combined, have made me stop talking to psychics.

I agree with this 100%!