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Offline Wishful Thinker

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« Reply #15 on: March 17, 2019, 03:44:27 AM »
It may be mercury in retrograde that is making me “vent”, but if you’ve been getting readings for years and absolutely nothing has happened for you, maybe, just maybe, it’s you.  There are people new and old on here who want to express themselves about things that have come true for them on here but feel intimidated because they will be attacked by those who have gotten readings and nothing has come to pass for them. 
I also understand that there is a vent tab in this forum; however, I don’t see a tab where it says to save your money and don’t get readings. 

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« Reply #16 on: March 17, 2019, 03:59:10 AM »
There is nothing intimidating, or attacking, about the message that was posted to start this thread.

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« Reply #17 on: March 17, 2019, 06:32:15 AM »
It doesn't matter what the forum is about...psychic reviews or any other subject people create forums for...if you feel really intimidated by what other people post then maybe a public forum is not for you. There are lots of ways anyone can create their own forum or group and run it however they want to. If anyone seriously wants reviews only then why not go start your own site and run it that way. 

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« Reply #18 on: March 17, 2019, 07:01:53 AM »
Maybe it should've gone to "Vent" section but Baypark's heart is in the right place. Her saying save your money does not sound wrong at all. Personally, I wish I could accept Baypark's message and move on as I've had more negatives come out of me reading addiction than positive. Again it's just ME. There are people who do this in a healthier better way and that's amazing. But I've also read of people who let psychics tell them what to do and wait for POI for years, people have been misled. I have too, more time than often and I take responsibility for that. And to break the pattern I have to step back and stop reading altogether. I keep saying I'll talk to this one reader and I'll stop but I don't! So, personally I want to and need to listen to Baypark. Having said all that we're all entitled to our opinions and we deliver our opinions and frustrations differently.

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« Reply #19 on: March 17, 2019, 08:52:32 AM »
Take it or leave it that’s all I will say. I don’t find anything wrong in this post. Take it if you find beneficial, leave it if it’s not. You have your own judgement after all.

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« Reply #20 on: March 17, 2019, 01:41:52 PM »
Baypark is sharing her disappointment about psychic experience over the years.

To cut it short: No future prediction happened for her.

I don't understand why some people feel threatened by her post.


Thank you Baypark!



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« Reply #21 on: March 17, 2019, 03:13:37 PM »
Yes, Baypark, THANK you! Your experiences have helped me begin to make changes to move forward. This can be a dangerous, slippery slope and I appreciate all your insight, pain, growth and strength. You, and everyone else whose stories are so similar to mine. Let’s continue to support. I appreciate you!

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« Reply #22 on: March 17, 2019, 04:15:08 PM »
Something that everyone who gets readings might think about...would you want to be in a relationship with someone who has an expensive habit like this? Let's say it wasn't readings, but something else you had no interest in. Maybe they spend lots of money on an expensive hobby that doesn't include you.

Yep...we can all decide for ourselves what we want to do. And then think, well anyone who doesn't approve, that's none of their business. So what difference does it make, what someone on a forum thinks. Do whatever you want. But if you want to get married, it is definitely going to be their business what you spend money on. And what would they think, if they find out you spend a lot of money on readings?

I mean I know if I hear a man justifying his habits the way I see people on this forum getting defensive over their choices...that would be a huge red flag to me. We all have things we like to do for ourselves, and there is nothing wrong with that, but there are times in life where you also have to be willing to set those things aside.

A guy who wanted to date me last year, told me he lost over 10,000 gambing one weekend. I was like NOPE. Sorry. I can relate and all in all I am not that much different, although I did it spread out over several years instead of all at once like that. It's not like I am standing in judgement over it or saying I'm better. But that's just it...why get involved with someone who probably shares or reflects my own weaknesses? What bothered me was that it was very recent and he expressed no deeper insight into why he did it or how he was going to stop. He wasn't happy about it but acted like it was no big deal either. I would never want to get emotionally involved with someone like that, much less financially involved. What if we shared a bank account, and he impulsively drained our account on a gambling trip? No freaking way!

One of the biggest things that made me quit, is I kept thinking about how a potential partner would feel knowing I spent this much money on readings, especially since a large portion of that was spent calling about other men. I know I would hate to be in that position, if I knew that the man I wanted to be with had spent years and thousands of $$$$ pining over another woman. I could definitely relate, but all the reasons why I could relate to it would likewise scare me away! Or worse...what if some guy had been getting readings about ME? I would not be flattered!

Or what if the readings weren't about romance at all...instead it was just for advice or having someone to talk to?? I'd be like...you better learn how to turn to ME for that! I don't want to be with someone who calls strangers and tells them our personal business! I wouldn't want to be business partners with someone who has a habit like this either, or work for them! In short...it's not an attractive habit!

People talk about feeling judged here...uhhhhh...people out in the real world, will judge you and they should because your habits could make or break their own well being if they get involved with you, whether personally or financially. And people on this forum, relatively speaking, are VERY supportive compared to what you would most likely hear elsewhere. It shows just how much your priorities and perspective are out of balance, if you get bothered by not having 100% support and agreement with your own life choices.

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« Reply #23 on: March 17, 2019, 04:48:24 PM »
Something that everyone who gets readings might think about...would you want to be in a relationship with someone who has an expensive habit like this? Let's say it wasn't readings, but something else you had no interest in. Maybe they spend lots of money on an expensive hobby that doesn't include you.

Yep...we can all decide for ourselves what we want to do. And then think, well anyone who doesn't approve, that's none of their business. So what difference does it make, what someone on a forum thinks. Do whatever you want. But if you want to get married, it is definitely going to be their business what you spend money on. And what would they think, if they find out you spend a lot of money on readings?

I mean I know if I hear a man justifying his habits the way I see people on this forum getting defensive over their choices...that would be a huge red flag to me. We all have things we like to do for ourselves, and there is nothing wrong with that, but there are times in life where you also have to be willing to set those things aside.

A guy who wanted to date me last year, told me he lost over 10,000 gambing one weekend. I was like NOPE. Sorry. I can relate and all in all I am not that much different, although I did it spread out over several years instead of all at once like that. It's not like I am standing in judgement over it or saying I'm better. But that's just it...why get involved with someone who probably shares or reflects my own weaknesses? What bothered me was that it was very recent and he expressed no deeper insight into why he did it or how he was going to stop. He wasn't happy about it but acted like it was no big deal either. I would never want to get emotionally involved with someone like that, much less financially involved. What if we shared a bank account, and he impulsively drained our account on a gambling trip? No freaking way!

One of the biggest things that made me quit, is I kept thinking about how a potential partner would feel knowing I spent this much money on readings, especially since a large portion of that was spent calling about other men. I know I would hate to be in that position, if I knew that the man I wanted to be with had spent years and thousands of $$$$ pining over another woman. I could definitely relate, but all the reasons why I could relate to it would likewise scare me away! Or worse...what if some guy had been getting readings about ME? I would not be flattered!

Or what if the readings weren't about romance at all...instead it was just for advice or having someone to talk to?? I'd be like...you better learn how to turn to ME for that! I don't want to be with someone who calls strangers and tells them our personal business! I wouldn't want to be business partners with someone who has a habit like this either, or work for them! In short...it's not an attractive habit!

People talk about feeling judged here...uhhhhh...people out in the real world, will judge you and they should because your habits could make or break their own well being if they get involved with you, whether personally or financially. And people on this forum, relatively speaking, are VERY supportive compared to what you would most likely hear elsewhere. It shows just how much your priorities and perspective are out of balance, if you get bothered by not having 100% support and agreement with your own life choices.

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« Reply #24 on: March 17, 2019, 06:27:54 PM »
Something that everyone who gets readings might think about...would you want to be in a relationship with someone who has an expensive habit like this? Let's say it wasn't readings, but something else you had no interest in. Maybe they spend lots of money on an expensive hobby that doesn't include you.

Yep...we can all decide for ourselves what we want to do. And then think, well anyone who doesn't approve, that's none of their business. So what difference does it make, what someone on a forum thinks. Do whatever you want. But if you want to get married, it is definitely going to be their business what you spend money on. And what would they think, if they find out you spend a lot of money on readings?

I mean I know if I hear a man justifying his habits the way I see people on this forum getting defensive over their choices...that would be a huge red flag to me. We all have things we like to do for ourselves, and there is nothing wrong with that, but there are times in life where you also have to be willing to set those things aside.

A guy who wanted to date me last year, told me he lost over 10,000 gambing one weekend. I was like NOPE. Sorry. I can relate and all in all I am not that much different, although I did it spread out over several years instead of all at once like that. It's not like I am standing in judgement over it or saying I'm better. But that's just it...why get involved with someone who probably shares or reflects my own weaknesses? What bothered me was that it was very recent and he expressed no deeper insight into why he did it or how he was going to stop. He wasn't happy about it but acted like it was no big deal either. I would never want to get emotionally involved with someone like that, much less financially involved. What if we shared a bank account, and he impulsively drained our account on a gambling trip? No freaking way!

One of the biggest things that made me quit, is I kept thinking about how a potential partner would feel knowing I spent this much money on readings, especially since a large portion of that was spent calling about other men. I know I would hate to be in that position, if I knew that the man I wanted to be with had spent years and thousands of $$$$ pining over another woman. I could definitely relate, but all the reasons why I could relate to it would likewise scare me away! Or worse...what if some guy had been getting readings about ME? I would not be flattered!

Or what if the readings weren't about romance at all...instead it was just for advice or having someone to talk to?? I'd be like...you better learn how to turn to ME for that! I don't want to be with someone who calls strangers and tells them our personal business! I wouldn't want to be business partners with someone who has a habit like this either, or work for them! In short...it's not an attractive habit!

People talk about feeling judged here...uhhhhh...people out in the real world, will judge you and they should because your habits could make or break their own well being if they get involved with you, whether personally or financially. And people on this forum, relatively speaking, are VERY supportive compared to what you would most likely hear elsewhere. It shows just how much your priorities and perspective are out of balance, if you get bothered by not having 100% support and agreement with your own life choices.

If a person is spending all their money on psychics, then they need to reconsider how they are spending their money. It has nothing to do with psychics, it has to do with the fact they can't get a hold on their impulsivity or spending habits. There's a difference between getting readings, it becomes a habit, and it becoming an addiction. People go to a shrink and talk about their issues but people can't go to a spiritual advisor to make themselves a better person? People have life coaches, people have shrinks, people have spiritual advisors. People come on this board, a PUBLIC forum, and spew negativity about their exes, even to the extent of using google to come up with their diagnoses. Obv for those who were physically abused or otherwise its warranted but its disrespectful to do if you ever had any sort of emotional attachment to a person. I feel the same about people going to their friends and badmouthing their SO but thats a different story and not of topic. Imagine someone logging into a forum and having diagnoses written about them and having their image slandered. maybe its warranted maybe its not but just because its anonymous, doesnt make it right. So its ok to publicly spew things on here about someone but not go seek advice from someone. the hypocrisy on this forum is mind-boggling.

I wouldn't want to be with someone who needed a psychiatrist either. My ex was diagnosed by a psychiatrist with a mental illness...not by me...and he wrote about it himself on a public forum. No one here knows who he is...I mean you'd have to be stalking me pretty hard to figure that out. My ex on the other hand trashed me publicly to people who knew exactly who I was, my real name and everything. I actually considered sueing him for slander at one point. I decided to let it go because it wasn't worth it and besides after awhile no one took him seriously anymore. I made a huge mistake getting involved with someone who had a mental illness. It would not surprise me one bit if he found me here and read my posts, because he stalked me on another forum. It would only surprise me that he never came out in the open and attacked me here (unless he was using others to do so indirectly, which he has certainly done before.) I never spoke about our relationship to anyone else while we were together. When it ended, he broke my trust in a big way. He didn't respect me. I didn't say anything bad about him, even while he badmouthed me to others. I respected him. Eventually I lost that respect because of the way he treated me. If he read what I wrote about him here then he should take a long hard look at himself and realize he pushed me to the absolute limit and caused all of this.

What all of that made me realize, is I needed to have stronger boundaries and standards about who I get involved with. Some things I would not be willing to accept or tolerate anymore. I used to be more accepting and look where it got me. I don't care if it offends someone. It's my life. I don't need a life coach, I listen to family who have much better advice than someone who wants to make money off me. I find spiritual advice from people who share from the heart and are not charging money for it. I'm very sorry for people who don't have any family or friends to confide in. Family can let us down in really bad ways. We can choose our friends though. I don't want to pay someone to be my friend or spiritual advisor. I want it to come from their heart and from genuinely wanting to be there for me because they value who I am rather than what I can pay them. I'm really sad for people who don't have that. It can be hard to find. There's also a point where you might ask yourself if I am a caring and giving person then why is that not being returned. Buying readings or material things to fill the hole in your heart is not an answer.

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« Reply #25 on: March 17, 2019, 08:37:07 PM »
These journals are filled with readings over  3 year time.  Not ONE thing in these journals came true. There's probably $25000 worth of readings here. They are going in the trash. I haven't had a reading in over a year. Please please please stop wasting your money!!!!!! Go live your life. Whatever you're calling about will happen or not regardless if you call.  Live your life, be happy where you're at and SAVE YOUR MONEY and buy a house!!!!

OMg I feel ya on this.  I have spent probably enough to buy a house over the 20 years of psychic readings and people who have not spent a dime have all that I hoped to have when I bought the readings lol  I could have been studying in sweden now or something. Anyways, the past is the past. best for us to move on.  Even if there are some gifted readers out there, I feel like for some, getting too much information is not good. I am still struggling with this idea of fate. I dont buy it... however, one reader did warn me about a particular person to show my emotions more with him or he would move on. in my mind i thought i was doing a good job.  Either way , he went to the other person and they are married now and have a kid.  maybe it was meant to be? who knows...  but her warning didnt change anything if those two were meant to be together. 

If it is hard to really quit, make a long term budget plan because it adds up without you even knowing... it adds up to a trip overseas , a gym membership, a hermes bag lol,

200x12= 2400 (enough for a trip to the Bahamas)
300x12= 3600 ( fun with a couple of escorts)
400x12= 4800 (down payment on a car or land)

however if you spend no more than 50 dollars a month on psychics ... darn that is still a lot. it comes out to 600 dollars... back to my calculations... 25 a month is 300. 

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« Reply #26 on: March 17, 2019, 09:01:48 PM »
I actually wasn't referencing you in that post because i remember you saying that in previous posts it was more so my general observations on this forum. There's nothing wrong with material things. I like material things. Do the material things have value in my life? Ehhh not really. But i enjoy pampering and spoiling myself. I like getting spiritual advice for questions i want answered because i analyze things from multiple angles. Ultimately what i do is still my decision. i will never take someones advice over what i feel is right. I dont seek out advice from friends or family. only my SO, for the most part. I like getting unbiased opinions and i find people have biases but people who dont know me dont really have preformed biases about the issue at hand. i like getting business advice from business professionals, spiritual advice from spiritual professionals, etc. thats their craft. im not asking for friends from these people (although they have helped me during some rough times years ago). theres a lot of things i dont know and im always trying to learn more from people who know more than me in whatever the field may be. nothing in this world is free and many things there is an exchange involved whether it be monetary or otherwise. unless theyre my family or someone close to me i would never expect anyone to do something for me for free nor would i not try to compensate them in some way.

Very few psychics have a "craft"...in any case it doesn't compare to getting professional advice from someone who has to follow standards or be held accountable to something like a licensing board. Psychics are not professionals, and they don't really know anything more than anyone else does. They just see little glimpses of things using their abilities that we may not know yet.

There are many ways to find advice or opinions from people who just want to share freely. For instance that's what we do here. When you open your heart and share without expectations, it comes back in some way. It may not always come back the exact same way you give it, but it comes because your heart is open to receive.

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« Reply #27 on: March 17, 2019, 09:16:07 PM »
Just wanted to express my thoughts about this topic. I understand not everyone might agree with it but this are just my thoughts.. I totally agree with everyone who thinks there was nothing wrong with the initial post since I think that over time this place has in some sorts become a place where some people can vent about their experiences and in some ways part of their lives. I do believe that maybe a few people (not everyone tho) develop this addiction to online reading b/c they might in some sorts feel a little lonely or lost in regards to some aspect of their lives. This forum should remain a safe haven for everyone who wants to come express themselves b/c you never know if a simple post of someone venting might help someone else who is struggling at that particular moment.

That getting said, I think that getting online reading is not bad at all if you are aware that you are getting the reading for "guidance and advice" and not for relaying on them 100%. Unfortunately, we can not deny the fact that getting to into online reading can leave your pockets empty for sure.. and if that happens to you and you end up feeling horrible about it just remember that it is OK.. it has happened to lots of us and you are always free to come on here and read different threads to give you strength and make you feel a lil better or maybe even tell us your story if that is something that will make you happy.

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« Reply #28 on: March 17, 2019, 09:22:41 PM »
These journals are filled with readings over  3 year time.  Not ONE thing in these journals came true. There's probably $25000 worth of readings here. They are going in the trash. I haven't had a reading in over a year. Please please please stop wasting your money!!!!!! Go live your life. Whatever you're calling about will happen or not regardless if you call.  Live your life, be happy where you're at and SAVE YOUR MONEY and buy a house!!!!

OMg I feel ya on this.  I have spent probably enough to buy a house over the 20 years of psychic readings and people who have not spent a dime have all that I hoped to have when I bought the readings lol  I could have been studying in sweden now or something. Anyways, the past is the past. best for us to move on.  Even if there are some gifted readers out there, I feel like for some, getting too much information is not good. I am still struggling with this idea of fate. I dont buy it... however, one reader did warn me about a particular person to show my emotions more with him or he would move on. in my mind i thought i was doing a good job.  Either way , he went to the other person and they are married now and have a kid.  maybe it was meant to be? who knows...  but her warning didnt change anything if those two were meant to be together. 

If it is hard to really quit, make a long term budget plan because it adds up without you even knowing... it adds up to a trip overseas , a gym membership, a hermes bag lol,

200x12= 2400 (enough for a trip to the Bahamas)
300x12= 3600 ( fun with a couple of escorts)
400x12= 4800 (down payment on a car or land)

however if you spend no more than 50 dollars a month on psychics ... darn that is still a lot. it comes out to 600 dollars... back to my calculations... 25 a month is 300.

I agree...it's a lot! Granted there are many things we spend money on that are ultimately a waste of money. If I had back the money I used to spend on sodas it was probably worse than what I spent on readings! But I have tried to assess all of those things and make better decisions. It definitely adds up. I can't fathom that anyone would really believe that readings are a good way to spend money! 

The money I spent doing whatever I wanted, could have helped someone close to me. I had no idea of that at the time, but maybe that's because I was too wrapped up in my own pain. And I wasted too much of my time, energy, attention and emotion on people who didn't appreciate it or value it. All in all, this was a lesson for me about using all my resources wisely.

The other thing to consider is that just because you have enough disposable income to afford it at the time, does not mean it will always be that way! Life can change fast...today's disposable income, could be tomorrow's regret of money that wasn't saved.

But yeah...readings don't change what will happen. They don't even reliably predict what will happen.




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« Reply #29 on: March 17, 2019, 10:25:14 PM »
I actually wasn't referencing you in that post because i remember you saying that in previous posts it was more so my general observations on this forum. There's nothing wrong with material things. I like material things. Do the material things have value in my life? Ehhh not really. But i enjoy pampering and spoiling myself. I like getting spiritual advice for questions i want answered because i analyze things from multiple angles. Ultimately what i do is still my decision. i will never take someones advice over what i feel is right. I dont seek out advice from friends or family. only my SO, for the most part. I like getting unbiased opinions and i find people have biases but people who dont know me dont really have preformed biases about the issue at hand. i like getting business advice from business professionals, spiritual advice from spiritual professionals, etc. thats their craft. im not asking for friends from these people (although they have helped me during some rough times years ago). theres a lot of things i dont know and im always trying to learn more from people who know more than me in whatever the field may be. nothing in this world is free and many things there is an exchange involved whether it be monetary or otherwise. unless theyre my family or someone close to me i would never expect anyone to do something for me for free nor would i not try to compensate them in some way.

Very few psychics have a "craft"...in any case it doesn't compare to getting professional advice from someone who has to follow standards or be held accountable to something like a licensing board. Psychics are not professionals, and they don't really know anything more than anyone else does. They just see little glimpses of things using their abilities that we may not know yet.

There are many ways to find advice or opinions from people who just want to share freely. For instance that's what we do here. When you open your heart and share without expectations, it comes back in some way. It may not always come back the exact same way you give it, but it comes because your heart is open to receive.

To each their own. I enjoy psychics. I have no problem sharing that with anyone. Anyone that knows me knows I love all things spiritual and talk to psychics. Don’t care what anyone thinks. I do a lot freely without expectations but I don’t want advice just from anyone who will give it to me. I want from either someone who’s the best or who I have some sort of connection with and respect for and ITS VERY hard for me to respect someone. I want to seek out who I choose to get advice from not the other way around. That’s why I’m on a review forum to find the best (which is subjective to everyone). I’m selective with what and where I receive it from. My energy isn’t just open to anything and everyone. That’s how you get energy vampires attached to you and people who use people. Just like I wouldn’t date someone just because they’re interested. Unless you fill each one of the required qualities I look for I’ll wait for what I truly desire and know will come to me.

Having your heart open to receive, doesn't mean being open to anything and everyone, but it means that you can accept others as they are and let it go if you don't want what they have to offer. Manipulation and energy vampirism usually come through the solar plexus, or sometimes the lower energy centers or even through the third eye. Heart energy is different, it can be open and accepting without having to be defensive. Having your heart open doesn't mean giving up discernment. It gives you greater discernment.