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flora0250:
Appreciate all the support and suggestions so much. Thanks for the love all - like I said think this is really a product of having gone through difficulties in my marriage and probably just need someone to talk to about it and practical ways of coping with it. Think I will try some other avenues before medication but so much appreciate all the support!
Fidget1028:
--- Quote from: flora0250 on January 22, 2019, 04:04:14 PM ---Appreciate all the support and suggestions so much. Thanks for the love all - like I said think this is really a product of having gone through difficulties in my marriage and probably just need someone to talk to about it and practical ways of coping with it. Think I will try some other avenues before medication but so much appreciate all the support!
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Meditation, not medication!! I think you misread!
Miss Philosopher:
Hey Flora. I'm very sorry you are going through that as well. Looks like many of us can resonate with that feeling. I had seen a post on here from Law mentioning the lunar eclipse. You may not be into astrology but those are known to cause high levels of anxiety and very charged emotions as well. So it may have been that blip. I also had a sort of a knee jerk break down last night and contacted Shaman Kira again due to some confusing messages being sent to me from my ex.
I think one of the biggest keys here is............letting go. That is probably the hardest thing to do and most of us don't get to that point until the situation itself exhausts us in every way. We have to get to a point where it's more exhausting to hold on than it is to just let go and be free of it. Letting go doesn't mean you stop caring about a person or situation or whatever. It just means letting go of the emotions attached to it such as the anxiety, fear, etc. That's really hard to do for must of us as I said before, be I think we all get there eventually.
Something else that helps is to bring the focus back to yourself. I had read that you said you have some maybe deeper subconscious or even conscious beliefs that maybe you don't deserve good things since you've been through so many bad relationships. I think that's normal to feel that way after being hurt so many times but at the same time it's a really unhealthy way to feel as well. I've felt that way more often than not so I get it. I also get the fear of things actually going good for once because then you're constantly expecting it to screw up somehow because that is what you have been so used to. It's basically a programming of the mind. Our brains are very similar to computers. What we constantly put into them along with what kind of repeating experiences we have, sort of will dictate how we operate automatically. Once our minds are programmed with so many bad experiences, we then unknowingly can have self sabotaging behaviors that will make our fears of things going bad a reality so then we end up saying to ourselves "See I knew it. I was right". It's dangerous for us. Now, that isn't always the case because a lot of times we are just dealing with not so great people. But then we have to ask ourselves at some point........why am I constantly attracting this same type of person into my life? We are the common denominator. I had to do that after several failed relationships. I had to look at what kind of men they were and then I had to look at my own self and ask myself what is it about me that is attracting these kinds of men to myself. I didn't like the answers that I found at all but I'm glad I found them so that I could change myself and attract something better.
I would say to you, work on reprogramming your subconscious which is what the conscious operates off of. I would also say to you work on rebuilding your self esteem and work on seeing your worth again. I know this stuff is so hard but, it's really worth the changes in the end. I think having a good healthy self esteem really helps curb us from calling psychics because we then know our worth and what we will and will not deal with and then we won't call about these things because we've already set those boundaries. I'm not saying it works ALL the time, I'm just saying I think that would help tremendously.
I admit that I don't have the best self esteem there ever was so that's what I'm working on now and that's helped me a lot sort of detach from my situation. I hope you find some peace within yourself and your life and I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to. Sending you love and blessings.
flora0250:
--- Quote from: Fidget1028 on January 22, 2019, 04:21:31 PM ---
--- Quote from: flora0250 on January 22, 2019, 04:04:14 PM ---Appreciate all the support and suggestions so much. Thanks for the love all - like I said think this is really a product of having gone through difficulties in my marriage and probably just need someone to talk to about it and practical ways of coping with it. Think I will try some other avenues before medication but so much appreciate all the support!
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Meditation, not medication!! I think you misread!
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Bahahahhhah I did. I totally misread ::facepalm::
sawthelight:
LOL..well tbh, medication might help too, esp. if you are prone to anxiety and impulse control issues, which I am.
Therapy as well. I honestly it would be much more helpful if a lot of people here that are hurting over an ex or a "POI" spoke to a therapist who is more based in reality than psychics. NOT saying everyone who calls psychics needs therapy, but a lot of us are grieving and hurting over someone who did us wrong, and accepting behavior from these men/women that is just completely unacceptable.
Part of the healing process from all these readings and my situation with first POI, was realizing how sad it is that I put up with his BS for so long. How low was my self-esteem that I did this?
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