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I think I understand why sometimes readings can change. (Myself as an example)
star1:
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--- Quote from: jhuskindle on December 12, 2018, 03:04:16 PM ---For me the decision would already show up made. “Tempted but decided not to” or “tempted and decided to, broke up 6 mo and POI was still around”.
Man should not be letting you feel lonely, I guess in the first phases but that’s not really a good habit long term. A good psychic will see what decision you make.
There is no shame in re trying with your ex, it might give him some closure if it doesn’t work out again. He might be on the other side getting readings about YOU!
There’s also no shame in waiting POI out, just make sure if you ARENT committed you aren’t selling yourself short or missing opportunity for HIS hermit zone. I don’t like men like this, it tells me they don’t know how to communicate, and aren’t mature enough to maintain relationships (yes of any form) during hard times. If a lawsuit stresses you out, you should see my friend who is a lawyer juggling 3 kids, 35 cases, two offices and a love life. She manages to text and call all her romantic interests too. Excuses for not having coping mechanisms are never a good thing.
Just my .02! POI might be the one, but might be after you give your ex a shot or not, that’s why there is no real free will, a psychic will see what decision you make. (Good ones anyways)
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Men aren’t women though. A lot of women can juggle things, men can’t. Men have all their life aspects in different compartments. You just have to know the type of man that you’re getting involved with and whether you can deal with that. Men with a lot of masculine qualities and more independent type tend to need a cave to escape to for some time. The more feminine ones don’t. Pick your poison, no one is perfect.
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^^^^ THIS! 100%. It's what my therapist will tell me all day long and what woman dont understand. Men are so different than us. Most dont multitask well. When they're focused on work, they really are focused on work! We can think about them, work, our kids and the 10 loads of laundry all at the same time:). They are also capable of burying feelings. It's why there are sooo many articles out there as to why women actually move on from relationships quicker than men. And explains why they come back sometimes years later!
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Yup this is also why when a woman’s upset, it affects all areas of her life. Which is not always good. Men can turn it off. I know this type oh too well because I Have a love/hate relationship with alpha males hahah. I’ve tried the more emotional feminine ones but I just can’t do it. Too needy and I feel suffocated. They don’t even get my lady parts excited lmfao. Maybe this is how men feel about us lmfao. I like some independence so I can understand when they need to do their own thing. I have never met a dude who multitasks well. One thing is always at the forefront.
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LOL.
Miss Philosopher:
@icloud: Too many opinions from other people will cause confusion just like calling tooooooooo many psychics will do the same. Some will say you're rethinking things out of loneliness, others will say it's because maybe you still have some feelings that you pushed away that are still there for your ex. At the end of the day, you have to listen to YOU. This is a huge reason why a lot of relationships don't work. Too many voices in someone's ear giving their opinions as to what they should do or what they think going on. You are the one that had the connection with both people. Only you know what it feels like with each one. Only you can decide which route to take that "feels" right to you. I can definitely understand your hesitation with someone that has cheated, not just once, but twice. That's really tough. I think only you will be able to know or "feel" if he's changed or not. I wish you lots of luck in your situations though.
ladya:
--- Quote from: Miss Philosopher on December 12, 2018, 05:31:25 PM ---@icloud: Too many opinions from other people will cause confusion just like calling tooooooooo many psychics will do the same. Some will say you're rethinking things out of loneliness, others will say it's because maybe you still have some feelings that you pushed away that are still there for your ex. At the end of the day, you have to listen to YOU. This is a huge reason why a lot of relationships don't work. Too many voices in someone's ear giving their opinions as to what they should do or what they think going on. You are the one that had the connection with both people. Only you know what it feels like with each one. Only you can decide which route to take that "feels" right to you. I can definitely understand your hesitation with someone that has cheated, not just once, but twice. That's really tough. I think only you will be able to know or "feel" if he's changed or not. I wish you lots of luck in your situations though.
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AMENNN
sparky:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on December 12, 2018, 03:42:53 PM ---
--- Quote from: ladya on December 12, 2018, 03:31:08 PM ---
--- Quote from: jhuskindle on December 12, 2018, 03:04:16 PM ---For me the decision would already show up made. “Tempted but decided not to” or “tempted and decided to, broke up 6 mo and POI was still around”.
Man should not be letting you feel lonely, I guess in the first phases but that’s not really a good habit long term. A good psychic will see what decision you make.
There is no shame in re trying with your ex, it might give him some closure if it doesn’t work out again. He might be on the other side getting readings about YOU!
There’s also no shame in waiting POI out, just make sure if you ARENT committed you aren’t selling yourself short or missing opportunity for HIS hermit zone. I don’t like men like this, it tells me they don’t know how to communicate, and aren’t mature enough to maintain relationships (yes of any form) during hard times. If a lawsuit stresses you out, you should see my friend who is a lawyer juggling 3 kids, 35 cases, two offices and a love life. She manages to text and call all her romantic interests too. Excuses for not having coping mechanisms are never a good thing.
Just my .02! POI might be the one, but might be after you give your ex a shot or not, that’s why there is no real free will, a psychic will see what decision you make. (Good ones anyways)
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Men aren’t women though. A lot of women can juggle things, men can’t. Men have all their life aspects in different compartments. You just have to know the type of man that you’re getting involved with and whether you can deal with that. Men with a lot of masculine qualities and more independent type tend to need a cave to escape to for some time. The more feminine ones don’t. Pick your poison, no one is perfect.
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^^^^ THIS! 100%. It's what my therapist will tell me all day long and what woman dont understand. Men are so different than us. Most dont multitask well. When they're focused on work, they really are focused on work! We can think about them, work, our kids and the 10 loads of laundry that needs folded, all at the same time:). They are also capable of burying feelings. It's why there are sooo many articles out there as to why women actually move on from relationships quicker than men. And explains why they come back sometimes years later!
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--- Quote from: sawthelight on December 12, 2018, 03:52:56 PM ---this is true...men can't multitask for crap. LOL
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I can multi-ta.... wait what was I doing just now? ;D
Joking aside I actually can multi-task just fine. The key I found is balance though if I really need to focus on something I will shift on only that. Though like LAW said we will bury feelings. I will do that but I can tell you one thing. When I find that one special person that I want to spend the rest of my life with I don't bury anything. I am completely open with them and it takes a lot for a guy to get there for someone. Because since we compartmentalize everything that when one section gets destroyed. It is hard for that hole to replace. So feelings get extra protected. That is also why it is hard for us to move on.
I want to say something on destiny vs free will. I am indifferent on the topic and can see both points but here is something to make you ponder about destiny. In destiny that actually would include your "free will" choices. Free will is just an illusion in destiny because guess what. In destiny, it was already determined you would make that choice. Yes you might think you had the choice but really you didn't. It was all planned out for you long before you even realized. Going to use this scene from one of the Matrix movies to explain it a bit better I think. As they actually had a similiar discuss regarding free will or choice.
https://youtu.be/dij287EZT50
Basically he is saying that you just have to think that you have a choice but really the choice was already made before you got there. Which in turn is destiny.
star1:
--- Quote from: sparky on December 12, 2018, 07:35:07 PM ---
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on December 12, 2018, 03:42:53 PM ---
--- Quote from: ladya on December 12, 2018, 03:31:08 PM ---
--- Quote from: jhuskindle on December 12, 2018, 03:04:16 PM ---For me the decision would already show up made. “Tempted but decided not to” or “tempted and decided to, broke up 6 mo and POI was still around”.
Man should not be letting you feel lonely, I guess in the first phases but that’s not really a good habit long term. A good psychic will see what decision you make.
There is no shame in re trying with your ex, it might give him some closure if it doesn’t work out again. He might be on the other side getting readings about YOU!
There’s also no shame in waiting POI out, just make sure if you ARENT committed you aren’t selling yourself short or missing opportunity for HIS hermit zone. I don’t like men like this, it tells me they don’t know how to communicate, and aren’t mature enough to maintain relationships (yes of any form) during hard times. If a lawsuit stresses you out, you should see my friend who is a lawyer juggling 3 kids, 35 cases, two offices and a love life. She manages to text and call all her romantic interests too. Excuses for not having coping mechanisms are never a good thing.
Just my .02! POI might be the one, but might be after you give your ex a shot or not, that’s why there is no real free will, a psychic will see what decision you make. (Good ones anyways)
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Men aren’t women though. A lot of women can juggle things, men can’t. Men have all their life aspects in different compartments. You just have to know the type of man that you’re getting involved with and whether you can deal with that. Men with a lot of masculine qualities and more independent type tend to need a cave to escape to for some time. The more feminine ones don’t. Pick your poison, no one is perfect.
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^^^^ THIS! 100%. It's what my therapist will tell me all day long and what woman dont understand. Men are so different than us. Most dont multitask well. When they're focused on work, they really are focused on work! We can think about them, work, our kids and the 10 loads of laundry that needs folded, all at the same time:). They are also capable of burying feelings. It's why there are sooo many articles out there as to why women actually move on from relationships quicker than men. And explains why they come back sometimes years later!
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--- Quote from: sawthelight on December 12, 2018, 03:52:56 PM ---this is true...men can't multitask for crap. LOL
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I can multi-ta.... wait what was I doing just now? ;D
Joking aside I actually can multi-task just fine. The key I found is balance though if I really need to focus on something I will shift on only that. Though like LAW said we will bury feelings. I will do that but I can tell you one thing. When I find that one special person that I want to spend the rest of my life with I don't bury anything. I am completely open with them and it takes a lot for a guy to get there for someone. Because since we compartmentalize everything that when one section gets destroyed. It is hard for that hole to replace. So feelings get extra protected. That is also why it is hard for us to move on.
I want to say something on destiny vs free will. I am indifferent on the topic and can see both points but here is something to make you ponder about destiny. In destiny that actually would include your "free will" choices. Free will is just an illusion in destiny because guess what. In destiny, it was already determined you would make that choice. Yes you might think you had the choice but really you didn't. It was all planned out for you long before you even realized. Going to use this scene from one of the Matrix movies to explain it a bit better I think. As they actually had a similiar discuss regarding free will or choice.
https://youtu.be/dij287EZT50
Basically he is saying that you just have to think that you have a choice but really the choice was already made before you got there. Which in turn is destiny.
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Such a good point.
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