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I think I understand why sometimes readings can change. (Myself as an example)
icloud9:
I can't speak for other people, but I think this whole "Free will" stuff is way too real for me to completely disregard it. When psychics put a great emphasis on free will (aside from the occasions where these psychics are actually not connecting to your particular situation at all and just using "free will" as an excuse) I believe it is something we do need to take into account.
So, my POI has pulled back for a bit. Although this WAS shown in my reading and therefore, was expected, I can't deny that it is still a downer. He is presently dealing with some legal issues and his ex is back in the picture (She pops in to make his life miserable from time to time, and she really knows how to push his buttons) which sort of has him want to retreat and go into a hermit mode.
I've been very patient and faithful with the situation.. and I actually do feel there's a future for us. I just feel he has some stuff to clear out his way right now, which has nothing to do with me so I need to keep my cool and let him deal with that. Aside from my own intuition, my trusted advisors told me that we would eventually end up together, so that's another thing that I am keeping in mind also. I digress. Here's my thing about someone's FREE WILL, though, and how I feel that can really CHANGE the course.
Okay, so, while I'm having this "Quiet period" with my current POI, my ex-fiance who still has yet to let me go although it's been almost two years since I called off the wedding and left the relationship. God knows ever since I made that decision of finally letting it all go, I KNEW I did NOT want to be with him. Although I came back around not too long after, it was only for the friendship, and we were still communicating as "friends". (We have too much history together for me to just completely drop him and kick him to the side..and I do care for him as a PERSON.) HOWEVER.... He is constantly around me and for the past two years he's been basically BEGGING me for another chance. It's funny because the whole reason why I left him is because he cheated on me TWICE, and seeing him beg for me for all this time makes me look at him in a different way. (but then again I dont want to get fooled AGAIN, so i've been brushing this whole thing off).
Recently though, weird things started to happen in my head- like I find myself actually start to "CONSIDER" his plead. I mean this actually only started to happen VERY recently... I don't know if this is happening because I am feeling quite lonely because of my situation with my POI, or because somehow my soul is recognizing the sincerity in my ex's plead. I feel super confused right now that I find myself thinking about my ex again in THAT way..But I'm also brushing it off and tell myself that this is an illusion..I am trying not to feed into these weird feelings because I really feel it mainly does have to do with my loneliness, and I do not want to give this a false sense of fuel. I need to think logically and remind myself that my ex had completely broke my trust during our relationship. It's just so frustrating that he is still around and it's also because our families have ties, too.
and by the way, I'm also not going to get readings on this dilemma because I actually don't want these readings to confuse me more.
But my point here is....ALTHOUGH I do (supposedly) have this destined path of being with my current POI....IF I actually choose my EX in this situation for WHATEVER reason, theoretically, then all the readings I've gotten would be WRONG...And it would be because by my OWN free will I decided to be with someone else.
So this is the thing - I feel there are just so many different factors involved when you ask about the potential between you and a POI. They might be reading the potential between you two, but they can't always see interferences of other people interjecting, and your own free will, and your POI's free will.
So I feel, this is where and how the readings can be wrong sometimes.
Let's just hope that my current feelings of confusion and re-consideration about my ex don't get further developed. It sucks that we can't always seem to control our feelings...
star1:
Personally I think that there's more to life than free will. If there's free will always, what's the point of having readings if the outcome could constantly change? I'm still on the fence, I've seen evidence for both free will and destiny.. So perhaps they're intwined? Anyway, best of luck with your POI.
LAW1974:
--- Quote from: icloud9 on December 12, 2018, 08:36:22 AM ---I can't speak for other people, but I think this whole "Free will" stuff is way too real for me to completely disregard it. When psychics put a great emphasis on free will (aside from the occasions where these psychics are actually not connecting to your particular situation at all and just using "free will" as an excuse) I believe it is something we do need to take into account.
So, my POI has pulled back for a bit. Although this WAS shown in my reading and therefore, was expected, I can't deny that it is still a downer. He is presently dealing with some legal issues and his ex is back in the picture (She pops in to make his life miserable from time to time, and she really knows how to push his buttons) which sort of has him want to retreat and go into a hermit mode.
I've been very patient and faithful with the situation.. and I actually do feel there's a future for us. I just feel he has some stuff to clear out his way right now, which has nothing to do with me so I need to keep my cool and let him deal with that. Aside from my own intuition, my trusted advisors told me that we would eventually end up together, so that's another thing that I am keeping in mind also. I digress. Here's my thing about someone's FREE WILL, though, and how I feel that can really CHANGE the course.
Okay, so, while I'm having this "Quiet period" with my current POI, my ex-fiance who still has yet to let me go although it's been almost two years since I called off the wedding and left the relationship. God knows ever since I made that decision of finally letting it all go, I KNEW I did NOT want to be with him. Although I came back around not too long after, it was only for the friendship, and we were still communicating as "friends". (We have too much history together for me to just completely drop him and kick him to the side..and I do care for him as a PERSON.) HOWEVER.... He is constantly around me and for the past two years he's been basically BEGGING me for another chance. It's funny because the whole reason why I left him is because he cheated on me TWICE, and seeing him beg for me for all this time makes me look at him in a different way. (but then again I dont want to get fooled AGAIN, so i've been brushing this whole thing off).
Recently though, weird things started to happen in my head- like I find myself actually start to "CONSIDER" his plead. I mean this actually only started to happen VERY recently... I don't know if this is happening because I am feeling quite lonely because of my situation with my POI, or because somehow my soul is recognizing the sincerity in my ex's plead. I feel super confused right now that I find myself thinking about my ex again in THAT way..But I'm also brushing it off and tell myself that this is an illusion..I am trying not to feed into these weird feelings because I really feel it mainly does have to do with my loneliness, and I do not want to give this a false sense of fuel. I need to think logically and remind myself that my ex had completely broke my trust during our relationship. It's just so frustrating that he is still around and it's also because our families have ties, too.
and by the way, I'm also not going to get readings on this dilemma because I actually don't want these readings to confuse me more.
But my point here is....ALTHOUGH I do (supposedly) have this destined path of being with my current POI....IF I actually choose my EX in this situation for WHATEVER reason, theoretically, then all the readings I've gotten would be WRONG...And it would be because by my OWN free will I decided to be with someone else.
So this is the thing - I feel there are just so many different factors involved when you ask about the potential between you and a POI. They might be reading the potential between you two, but they can't always see interferences of other people interjecting, and your own free will, and your POI's free will.
So I feel, this is where and how the readings can be wrong sometimes.
Let's just hope that my current feelings of confusion and re-consideration about my ex don't get further developed. It sucks that we can't always seem to control our feelings...
--- End quote ---
I think you and I's situation is VERY similar! My ex husband didnt want the divorce and still thinks Im coming back. There are times when I think that life would be easier for me and my 3 kids if I just went back. I had a great life but wasnt in love with him. My friends tell me Im just lonely and it will pass (it will for you too) -- I know they are right and I wont really go back!
I think POI will eventually be together but it may not be beg of year like most predicted... He has been going through a lot this past year too! (It's really a lot of why we didnt work out I believe - timing was horrible for us). Readers have picked up on his stress, anxiety and moods but when ppl are going through big things in their life there's no way they can even consider trying to reach out to us, much less reconcile. For one, they are feeling too low and for two they have so much else on their minds. I cant really blame a reader for not knowing when his life will simplify and he will be able to think about "us" again! He too has an ex who is manipulative and pulls his strings.... she comes in and out of his life. I believe this is needed for them to have someone to keep them "not lonely" - our connection is too much to be that person, we cant do light and meaningless (he and I) and I suspect you cant either. QoC described it to me that he is enjoying a sexual relationship with someone because it's all he can manage right now emotionally!
Anyway, I think this is why sometimes these guys show up a year or even 5 later (if we are all really meant to be) -- This is why letting go is important! Not to bring them back but so that you can move on with life and be happy! If they really are your person then it will work out down the road!
ladya:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on December 12, 2018, 11:46:42 AM ---
--- Quote from: icloud9 on December 12, 2018, 08:36:22 AM ---I can't speak for other people, but I think this whole "Free will" stuff is way too real for me to completely disregard it. When psychics put a great emphasis on free will (aside from the occasions where these psychics are actually not connecting to your particular situation at all and just using "free will" as an excuse) I believe it is something we do need to take into account.
So, my POI has pulled back for a bit. Although this WAS shown in my reading and therefore, was expected, I can't deny that it is still a downer. He is presently dealing with some legal issues and his ex is back in the picture (She pops in to make his life miserable from time to time, and she really knows how to push his buttons) which sort of has him want to retreat and go into a hermit mode.
I've been very patient and faithful with the situation.. and I actually do feel there's a future for us. I just feel he has some stuff to clear out his way right now, which has nothing to do with me so I need to keep my cool and let him deal with that. Aside from my own intuition, my trusted advisors told me that we would eventually end up together, so that's another thing that I am keeping in mind also. I digress. Here's my thing about someone's FREE WILL, though, and how I feel that can really CHANGE the course.
Okay, so, while I'm having this "Quiet period" with my current POI, my ex-fiance who still has yet to let me go although it's been almost two years since I called off the wedding and left the relationship. God knows ever since I made that decision of finally letting it all go, I KNEW I did NOT want to be with him. Although I came back around not too long after, it was only for the friendship, and we were still communicating as "friends". (We have too much history together for me to just completely drop him and kick him to the side..and I do care for him as a PERSON.) HOWEVER.... He is constantly around me and for the past two years he's been basically BEGGING me for another chance. It's funny because the whole reason why I left him is because he cheated on me TWICE, and seeing him beg for me for all this time makes me look at him in a different way. (but then again I dont want to get fooled AGAIN, so i've been brushing this whole thing off).
Recently though, weird things started to happen in my head- like I find myself actually start to "CONSIDER" his plead. I mean this actually only started to happen VERY recently... I don't know if this is happening because I am feeling quite lonely because of my situation with my POI, or because somehow my soul is recognizing the sincerity in my ex's plead. I feel super confused right now that I find myself thinking about my ex again in THAT way..But I'm also brushing it off and tell myself that this is an illusion..I am trying not to feed into these weird feelings because I really feel it mainly does have to do with my loneliness, and I do not want to give this a false sense of fuel. I need to think logically and remind myself that my ex had completely broke my trust during our relationship. It's just so frustrating that he is still around and it's also because our families have ties, too.
and by the way, I'm also not going to get readings on this dilemma because I actually don't want these readings to confuse me more.
But my point here is....ALTHOUGH I do (supposedly) have this destined path of being with my current POI....IF I actually choose my EX in this situation for WHATEVER reason, theoretically, then all the readings I've gotten would be WRONG...And it would be because by my OWN free will I decided to be with someone else.
So this is the thing - I feel there are just so many different factors involved when you ask about the potential between you and a POI. They might be reading the potential between you two, but they can't always see interferences of other people interjecting, and your own free will, and your POI's free will.
So I feel, this is where and how the readings can be wrong sometimes.
Let's just hope that my current feelings of confusion and re-consideration about my ex don't get further developed. It sucks that we can't always seem to control our feelings...
--- End quote ---
I think you and I's situation is VERY similar! My ex husband didnt want the divorce and still thinks Im coming back. There are times when I think that life would be easier for me and my 3 kids if I just went back. I had a great life but wasnt in love with him. My friends tell me Im just lonely and it will pass (it will for you too) -- I know they are right and I wont really go back!
I think POI will eventually be together but it may not be beg of year like most predicted... He has been going through a lot this past year too! (It's really a lot of why we didnt work out I believe - timing was horrible for us). Readers have picked up on his stress, anxiety and moods but when ppl are going through big things in their life there's no way they can even consider trying to reach out to us, much less reconcile. For one, they are feeling too low and for two they have so much else on their minds. I cant really blame a reader for not knowing when his life will simplify and he will be able to think about "us" again! He too has an ex who is manipulative and pulls his strings.... she comes in and out of his life. I believe this is needed for them to have someone to keep them "not lonely" - our connection is too much to be that person, we cant do light and meaningless (he and I) and I suspect you cant either. QoC described it to me that he is enjoying a sexual relationship with someone because it's all he can manage right now emotionally!
Anyway, I think this is why sometimes these guys show up a year or even 5 later (if we are all really meant to be) -- This is why letting go is important! Not to bring them back but so that you can move on with life and be happy! If they really are your person then it will work out down the road!
--- End quote ---
I can relate to you guys. iCloud I think it’s the loneliness. Men are such strange creatures it’s like they can’t see how their actions will affect the future and then realize what they’ve done and come pleading back.
HornetKick:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on December 12, 2018, 11:46:42 AM ---I think you and I's situation is VERY similar! My ex husband didnt want the divorce and still thinks Im coming back. There are times when I think that life would be easier for me and my 3 kids if I just went back. I had a great life but wasnt in love with him. My friends tell me Im just lonely and it will pass (it will for you too) -- I know they are right and I wont really go back!
I think POI will eventually be together but it may not be beg of year like most predicted... He has been going through a lot this past year too! (It's really a lot of why we didnt work out I believe - timing was horrible for us). Readers have picked up on his stress, anxiety and moods but when ppl are going through big things in their life there's no way they can even consider trying to reach out to us, much less reconcile. For one, they are feeling too low and for two they have so much else on their minds. I cant really blame a reader for not knowing when his life will simplify and he will be able to think about "us" again! He too has an ex who is manipulative and pulls his strings.... she comes in and out of his life. I believe this is needed for them to have someone to keep them "not lonely" - our connection is too much to be that person, we cant do light and meaningless (he and I) and I suspect you cant either. QoC described it to me that he is enjoying a sexual relationship with someone because it's all he can manage right now emotionally!
Anyway, I think this is why sometimes these guys show up a year or even 5 later (if we are all really meant to be) -- This is why letting go is important! Not to bring them back but so that you can move on with life and be happy! If they really are your person then it will work out down the road!
--- End quote ---
What in the world is this? A typo? because it absolutely is not a word. An apostrophe I??
I'm not even a grammar nazi, but this one was flat out weird to me.
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