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Breaking a habit for a 3rd time...
star1:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on November 06, 2018, 04:56:33 PM ---Part of my issue with my first POI was that the situation was so dysfunctional, I felt I couldn't discuss it with any of my real life friends, which led me to call psychics to seek guidance..I'm not saying there wasn't a legitimate connection between me and him, but was it healthy? no...and I think deep down, I knew my real life friends (even the one I did tell who would get upset when I would even bring him up) would have thought I was insane for even putting up with him. I put up with it way longer than I should have which made it so much harder to get over.
I admit I was lonely and looking for something with someone I knew couldn't provide it. The amount of excuses I made for him was disgusting. He showed me who he really was several times and I overlooked it, and would only think of the positive moments and the chemistry between us.
I try to look at it like a learning experience, but it's hard to not get down on myself because of it.
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Sorry to hear that, we've all been there. Family members and friends just saying "get rid of him, he's no good for you". Thanks for the advice! When we speak to readers, they seem to get into the actual person's head and you *think* you're getting the answers you needed. Then you call another, then another...
sawthelight:
--- Quote from: star1 on November 06, 2018, 05:00:07 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on November 06, 2018, 04:56:33 PM ---Part of my issue with my first POI was that the situation was so dysfunctional, I felt I couldn't discuss it with any of my real life friends, which led me to call psychics to seek guidance..I'm not saying there wasn't a legitimate connection between me and him, but was it healthy? no...and I think deep down, I knew my real life friends (even the one I did tell who would get upset when I would even bring him up) would have thought I was insane for even putting up with him. I put up with it way longer than I should have which made it so much harder to get over.
I admit I was lonely and looking for something with someone I knew couldn't provide it. The amount of excuses I made for him was disgusting. He showed me who he really was several times and I overlooked it, and would only think of the positive moments and the chemistry between us.
I try to look at it like a learning experience, but it's hard to not get down on myself because of it.
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Sorry to hear that, we've all been there. Family members and friends just saying "get rid of him, he's no good for you". Thanks for the advice! When we speak to readers, they seem to get into the actual person's head and you *think* you're getting the answers you needed. Then you call another, then another...
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Yep and at the end of the day, most of the time, it doesn't amount to anything anyway. It was such a huge waste of my time! I can't even say that I was happy the majority of the time I was involved with him where I can say that well at least I have these fond memories, it was mostly just anxiety inducing and heart wrenching.
I feel like he broke my spirit in a way, but I have recovered some, but it's not easy to get over something like that.
star1:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on November 06, 2018, 05:08:32 PM ---
--- Quote from: star1 on November 06, 2018, 05:00:07 PM ---
--- Quote from: sawthelight on November 06, 2018, 04:56:33 PM ---Part of my issue with my first POI was that the situation was so dysfunctional, I felt I couldn't discuss it with any of my real life friends, which led me to call psychics to seek guidance..I'm not saying there wasn't a legitimate connection between me and him, but was it healthy? no...and I think deep down, I knew my real life friends (even the one I did tell who would get upset when I would even bring him up) would have thought I was insane for even putting up with him. I put up with it way longer than I should have which made it so much harder to get over.
I admit I was lonely and looking for something with someone I knew couldn't provide it. The amount of excuses I made for him was disgusting. He showed me who he really was several times and I overlooked it, and would only think of the positive moments and the chemistry between us.
I try to look at it like a learning experience, but it's hard to not get down on myself because of it.
--- End quote ---
Sorry to hear that, we've all been there. Family members and friends just saying "get rid of him, he's no good for you". Thanks for the advice! When we speak to readers, they seem to get into the actual person's head and you *think* you're getting the answers you needed. Then you call another, then another...
--- End quote ---
Yep and at the end of the day, most of the time, it doesn't amount to anything anyway. It was such a huge waste of my time! I can't even say that I was happy the majority of the time I was involved with him where I can say that well at least I have these fond memories, it was mostly just anxiety inducing and heart wrenching.
I feel like he broke my spirit in a way, but I have recovered some, but it's not easy to get over something like that.
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I feel you. It gives us a nice boost to be told that they care about us, but then when they haven't come back, you begin to panic, grab onto timelines and call and call. Then, it gets into that never-ending cycle.
sawthelight:
yea that boost can be toxic though, like a drug high...when you come down off the drug, you end up addicted and in a bad place lol. At least for me, not everyone handles readings in the same way and not everyone is in a toxic situation.
star1:
--- Quote from: sawthelight on November 06, 2018, 05:20:01 PM ---yea that boost can be toxic though, like a drug high...when you come down off the drug, you end up addicted and in a bad place lol. At least for me, not everyone handles readings in the same way and not everyone is in a toxic situation.
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That's what I mean, it gets toxic very easily. Sadly, is a dangerous slippery slope.
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