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Deedee:
Hi,

I’m new to this forum, greetings to all! I’m so happy this place exists.

Short backstory. I’ve spent the past 2-3 years falling hard for this guy I work with. He’s sweet, flirts with me on and off, and totally seems into me. Some days are better than others between us and I can never really tell if he’s just being a nice guy or if he’s really into me. This past October that question, is he into me or not, started to really fester. I’d never had psychic readings before then, but I found an app called psychic txt. I asked a bunch of them how he felt, most said he’s definitely into me. Well, here I am, seven months, countless readings and tons of money spent later, and I still have no way of knowing if this guy is into me or not.

I’ve heard we’re soulmates, he’s shy, he will tell me how he feels soon, he’s been hurt before and he’s scared of getting hurt again. A lot of them were pretty close to describing his personality. One, Sonya Starr Angel says in the next few months he’ll tell me how he feels about me. And yet i keep asking and asking. I’ve had readings on Kasamba, Zodiac Touch, California Psychics, Keen, Purple Garden and Purple Ocean, and Psychic Source. It got so bad, became such a bad habit that I spent an obscene amount of money asking question after question about this guy with a lot of yeses and a lot of no he doesn’t like you like that. And every time I got a “NO” I went on another binge until I found what I was looking for. At this point I don’t even know what I”m looking for as an answer anymore other than a way to stop using these sites.

I have to stop this trend i started and be done with it and let whatever is going to happen happen. I have such a bad urge tonight to get more readings about him once again even though i dont’ know what to believe anymore. I’ve followed some advice from a few of them, and I end up feeling dumb afterward because they managed to convince me that he really does have feelings for me and when the reaction doesn’t match, I get embarrassed and frustrated and go back on a binge of readings.

How do i stop this cycle?

Natashanyc:

--- Quote from: Deedee on May 06, 2018, 04:57:24 AM ---Hi,

I’m new to this forum, greetings to all! I’m so happy this place exists.

Short backstory. I’ve spent the past 2-3 years falling hard for this guy I work with. He’s sweet, flirts with me on and off, and totally seems into me. Some days are better than others between us and I can never really tell if he’s just being a nice guy or if he’s really into me. This past October that question, is he into me or not, started to really fester. I’d never had psychic readings before then, but I found an app called psychic txt. I asked a bunch of them how he felt, most said he’s definitely into me. Well, here I am, seven months, countless readings and tons of money spent later, and I still have no way of knowing if this guy is into me or not.

I’ve heard we’re soulmates, he’s shy, he will tell me how he feels soon, he’s been hurt before and he’s scared of getting hurt again. A lot of them were pretty close to describing his personality. One, Sonya Starr Angel says in the next few months he’ll tell me how he feels about me. And yet i keep asking and asking. I’ve had readings on Kasamba, Zodiac Touch, California Psychics, Keen, Purple Garden and Purple Ocean, and Psychic Source. It got so bad, became such a bad habit that I spent an obscene amount of money asking question after question about this guy with a lot of yeses and a lot of no he doesn’t like you like that. And every time I got a “NO” I went on another binge until I found what I was looking for. At this point I don’t even know what I”m looking for as an answer anymore other than a way to stop using these sites.

I have to stop this trend i started and be done with it and let whatever is going to happen happen. I have such a bad urge tonight to get more readings about him once again even though i dont’ know what to believe anymore. I’ve followed some advice from a few of them, and I end up feeling dumb afterward because they managed to convince me that he really does have feelings for me and when the reaction doesn’t match, I get embarrassed and frustrated and go back on a binge of readings.

How do i stop this cycle?

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I think everyone has been there...im going thru a period of stopping myself. This forum helps extremely...try to stay busy and find things to do. Research these psychica u speak to before even calling them. Theres so much info on this forum and if u take it in right ur urge to call will drop increasingly. There are time when ppl or advisors come here to trick us but if u smart u will know the real from the fake. Im srry this happened n i wish u the best of luck!

Natashanyc:
Oh and maybe ask him directly how he feels. Save ya money and pay attention to his signs and wat his response is

dascallie:
whew!! I could have written this!

As far as how to stop---here is what has begun to work best for me. I tell myself I'm not going to spend a penny on readings for a week--then I push it to two weeks and so on. I seem to have to do this 'methadone' approach to kicking this heroin.

But I tell you, the best way to kick it is to see ourselves in the stories others write--like yours. When it starts to dawn on us that this really, truly is a powerful addiction and we damn sure better get ourselves off of this flypaper before it destroys our finances and stunts our lives, we can begin to pull away.

And to realize what our logical mind is screaming at us to WAKE UP to: if a man wants you, he will make it known to you. Period.

We are being extremely self destructive, hurting ourselves in desperately seeking and clinging to the kind of 'love' that doesn't seek us, that could actually care less, that runs hot and cold, that shows up, disappears---that marries somebody else out of nowhere. That have even told us bluntly they DON'T love us, but we continue, but for some sad and twisted reason, we MUST believe that they do, we just need to find the rare and brilliant psychic that can excavate the truth!

I'd venture to say anyone that finds themselves in this situation has deep, probably back to childhood, issues of fragile self worth.  Probably a poor kid with parental love that just wasn't.

If we don't come to terms with this, it will cannibalize us.

We could spend the rest of lives trying to do the impossible--trying to turn something cold, indifferent into something warm and embracing---if we can accomplish this miraculous thing, it would be the greatest indicator of our worth!

I believe it's the little child in us craving our birthright to be loved and accepted---and yet for some of us that's something that has always been elusive--the warmth and true love we didn't receive from our critical, essential, first love relationships--mom or dad, or both. Maybe they are too damaged to nurture properly themselves. And so it goes...

Your post helped me. Thank you.

sawthelight:
Great thread. Can so relate too.

Has this guy indicated he would like to get to know you better outside of work?

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