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Frustrated and broke!

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Hillcam:
I agree with Still Tired. If it won’t cause any issues at work, it’s better to ask him flat out if he’s interested or not. Obviously not in those words, but in the long run it’ll be easier to ask than to continue throwing money down the drain asking “psychics” what his intentions are.

Readings in my opinion will always be questionable because at the end of the day there’s no way to validate if they’re correct about feelings or intentions. Nobody knows exactly how he feels besides himself. There’s no second guessing what his intentions may be if you hear it straight from his mouth.

sawthelight:
Not to mention, lots of guys don’t act on their feelings..jerks

alphabetsoup:
I like this thread. 

Here's a couple things that have helped me:
I say to myself "calling this stranger doesn't change the fact that he's not with me, there's nothing they can say to me that will change this"

Agnes Vivarelli on youtube, not for a quick fix, but to understand how self love plays a role in the energy.


It helps me so much to know I'm not the only one here.  xoxo

Hillcam:

--- Quote from: Still tired on May 06, 2018, 06:34:21 PM ---
--- Quote from: Hillcam on May 06, 2018, 05:45:06 PM ---There’s no second guessing what his intentions may be if you hear it straight from his mouth.

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Exactly...well UNLESS he's the type who play games so much that even then you still have no idea.

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True but if he’s that type no one should want anything to do with him anyway. I can’t stand people like that

Deedee:
Thanks everyone for the support. I’m glad that I found this place, that my post helped someone and thankful for all the support.
The full story about this guy is, we became really good friends at work. We talk about our personal lives a lot, he has a brutal ex wife who he still has to deal with because of their son and at times he’s said he wouldn’t ever want to be in a relationship ever again. But at the same time he flirts with me treats me nice, seems to care about me and was there for me a lot. The signs and body language is all there that he likes me. But I haven’t said anything about how much I’m falling for him, I try to back off and not talk as much and rely on him as much and he comes to talk to me. In January he stopped interacting with me and pulled away which led me to spend even more of the money I was already spending on psychics. Things are getting better between us which is still sparking my need to know what the deal is, so I seek out more psychics. Most say he missed me and will tell me how he feels soon. Which makes me second guess everything I say and do because they say not to talk to him let him come to me. Which ultimately is not only messing with my head when he has a bad day and doesn’t come talk to me or tease me or joke with me, but avoiding him is messing with the friendship. These psychics are completely messing with me. I try to ask questions I know the answer to and some get it right but I still have a hard time believing them so I keep seeking out more psychics for more readings and end up even more confused.
At this point I need to stop spending all of this money. I have nothing to show for any of it. It’s just so frustrating to play the he loves me he loves me not game and yes he has extenuating circumstances and I want to believe the psychics that say he’s not playing with me he really has feelings for me and wants to talk to me. I don’t know what answer I’m looking for anymore. What I really need to do is stop this impulse to ask about him after every single interaction we have and let it be what it is. And yes to the person who said it’s stemming from my childhood, you’re right. I never had luck with guys and my ex messed me up even more. I just need to realize that no matter what this guy does good or bad it’s not worth blowing away all this money on this addiction. Lately while I’m talking to them I feel great. And then the next day I feel awful for throwing all this money out the window.
Thanks for listening and for the support. I really appreciate it a lot.

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