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Goodbye
HornetKick:
Men have never cared about inner beauty.
Universal9:
:)
Seeker:
--- Quote from: Littl30ne on October 02, 2017, 06:21:28 PM ---When someone in your life leaves let them go, it’s their loss...
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That's a great outlook that we can all adopt.
Seeker:
--- Quote from: njlady on October 03, 2017, 12:22:04 AM ---You're doing the right thing.
Steve Harvey wrote a great book about how to tell if a man is serious or not. He will Profess, Provide & Protect. If he doesn't claim you as his girlfriend (Profess) in front of his friends and family within a reasonable amount of time, walk.
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I'd be careful of a lot of advice from Steve Harvey, a lot of it is questionable and rooted in playing on the emotions of desperate or deeply discouraged women. One also has to question the deeply misandric slants he takes, and although I realize he is targeting a female audience misandry certainly won't help the female-male dynamic as it just breeds into women the nonsense idea that men are less than them and other vitriol.
That said, I agree with this one bit of his, however before I throw the relationship away I would ask the guy straight up what the deal is. What women don't often realize is because men and women view things in differing ways a man may not recognize that at a specific moment something is important to a woman and that you were expecting a different outcome than the one the man provided you. I'm sure lots of relationships have broken up for just that one reason alone. If the woman verbalizes it (i.e. "why haven't you introduced me to your family?") and he still doesn't do it, then at that point you know something is wrong.
Seeker:
--- Quote from: Universal9 on October 04, 2017, 01:55:14 PM ---I have seen how she looks, she is like a 3 or 4 out of 10; and I dont want to appreciate myself LOL (but I need it at this time) and I know I am much much better than her. She is not even average I have zero clue how can he be so obsessive about a girl who is not nice from in and out. Its not just about the looks but what about inner beauty? ...
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A man will generally circle back to a less attractive woman because of sexual skills.
If that's not it then it would be for love. I know it's hard for women in the western world to believe because of so much man-bashing programming over the past generation, but men fall in love too and often do look at beauty as more than skin deep.
There is also the other reality that what men find attractive in a woman differs from what women would consider attractive in a woman. It's the same in reverse as men are often stumped as to how women find certain men attractive.
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