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Seeker:

--- Quote from: Universal9 on October 06, 2017, 06:03:48 PM ---Just saw your update now, if she has now started liking your posts, then, it is something positive indeed. However, I would wait till she responds to your message. This is so confusing! Cant put too much thought on likes but it is indication towards something positive so thats good..

Totally agree with you on the universe sending signs thing. I wish there is a way to decode those.

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It is very confusing. My friends say the same thing, they don't understand what's happening either, a few have just chalked her up to be a weird person (which I know she kind of is but I actually liked that about her, lol).

To give a little background on her, she is very wary of relationships as she got burned really bad in the past. We talked about it. Psychic Paulina told me (and to Paulina's credit this was without me telling her anything about it) that she had a very bad betrayal in the past and it's hard now for her to see anyone as being different from that. Paulina said that she had been giving me signs that she liked me all along and her affection toward me was one, but she held back from going all the way because of her past situation as she's really scared and doesn't want it to happen to her again. Paulina also told me that over time she would still send out little signals and signs to me to let me know she still liked me and was thinking about me and that she would keep doing that until she built up enough inner strength to "come forward and tell you verbally how she feels".

So far, a lot of what Paulina said has been on point, but still, until/unless the message is replied to it doesn't really amount to much.

Before I contacted my POI, her name popped up a lot. But after a few days where she didn't reply to my message I was ready to move on as I assumed she wasn't interested. However, after that, her name started to pop up constantly on TV, and in advertisements with even greater intensity than before. I had to take it as a sign because her name is very unpopular on the list of popular American female names (it's not even in the Top 80, lol). You just won't see and hear uncommon names constantly like that, and I've always paid attention to names I hear as I've noticed in my life that certain names have had meanings to specific periods of my life, but this particular name is one I only heard one other time and that was of a character on a TV show I used to watch years ago. To suddenly keep hearing the name spoken and seeing it everywhere drove me nuts to the point where I was asking the Universe "I know you have a sense of humor, but can you put this one on the bench please?!?!?!?" ... It got so crazy that I'd be reading an obituary to find an old friend had passed away and suddenly to the right an article would pop up with my POI's name headlined. I'd go to a store and buy something, then need to return it a week later, I'd get a return receipt and lo and behold the service worker's name would be my POI's! LOL! Yeah, it was out of control. I still see her name pop up in odd places and situations, less frequent than before, but now it's more focused. For example, the name only pops up now around the subjects of dating, love, sex, and marriage. I've also noticed that before she does anything like accept an invite, read a post, or like a post, there is a temporary ramp up in the frequency of seeing/hearing her name, just like a recent ramp up and then came the like she sent.

Anyway, despite the current status, I'm not going to say anything to her. My position on this sort of thing is that once I've opened up to you the ball is now in your court. That said, this is a strange court. I know personally I wouldn't accept a connection invite, read all your posts, and then start liking them all of a sudden if I planned on never saying anything to you considering  that huge elephant still sitting in the room (the message), because all that would do is lead you on (unless she's the kind of person who enjoys doing that sort of thing which would be sad :-(  I've had lots of ladies over the years make advances and if I wasn't interested I didn't make any kind of friendly contact with them after that because I felt I'd just be leading them on which to me is a very evil thing to do.

sawthelight:

--- Quote from: scorpiorising221 on October 06, 2017, 10:12:57 PM ---
--- Quote from: Littl30ne on October 02, 2017, 06:21:28 PM ---Hello Friends,

It has been quite a journey. I am done with psychic readings, while I did feel good temporarily and was given hope about things it looks like I wasted a lot of money. I don’t recommend any psychics at all, I wanted my POI back but he moved on and things are speeding up— he already introduced her to his family within 4 months while I actually dated him for 4 years and never met his family. I was gullible. That’s it he’s gone. I called him begrudgingly and it was clear as day he’s a stranger in my eyes... whichever psychic told me he will come back in 2 years Bc of unfinished business better be wrong because this asshole doesn’t deserve my time nor energy. Talk to your POI that’s how you know the truth, don’t be afraid it will push him/her away.. don’t be afraid to use your own intuition.

When someone in your life leaves let them go, it’s their loss... I’m learning this now and it’s sucks but it’s also relieving in a way. I will check this site time to time because I loved the positive affirmations and the camaraderie here. Thank you for all of your support & kind words when I was severely depressed. Wish you all the best 💖 Good luck! I will respond to some other boards shortly but I just wanted to say thank you to everyone again 😘

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Little one,  I am so sorry for what you've gone through. No one really understands how low it feels until they've been there and lost so much money.  I'm glad you're moving forward and pray you are able to make peace with this. Best of luck to you

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Well said! I agree good luck little one

Seeker:

--- Quote from: Universal9 on October 09, 2017, 06:31:15 PM ---
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That's a very interesting story. Thank you for sharing that!

The way I look at it, the universe only sends the signs, whether the outcome turns out good or bad is a separate matter unless the signs themselves included pieces of the outcome in which case that gives us a chance to prepare. Most of the time, signs are too subtle or too unclear in intent for us to prepare so we receive the signs without knowing how it will all end up or what to do in the meantime.

One thing I've come to accept about life is that there are no real accidents. Everything that happens is in concert with the course of your life. We may not like the circumstances or the outcomes but most of that is simply ego driven where we think we "deserve" something "more" or "better" and then we expect the universe to give it to us. I myself am very much guilty of that flaw, but I'm improving daily.

Since I have no desire to contact my POI with my message left unanswered, this can't end badly for me. If she never answers I will be fine without her. Besides, if you've spent time around a person who made a move on you and you open up tell them how you feel and all they can do is lurk your posts every day online and never speak, it's pretty obvious something isn't quite right with that person as that's not at all a normal thing to do.

HornetKick:

--- Quote from: Seeker on October 10, 2017, 11:15:50 AM ---That's a very interesting story. Thank you for sharing that!

The way I look at it, the universe only sends the signs, whether the outcome turns out good or bad is a separate matter unless the signs themselves included pieces of the outcome in which case that gives us a chance to prepare. Most of the time, signs are too subtle or too unclear in intent for us to prepare so we receive the signs without knowing how it will all end up or what to do in the meantime.

One thing I've come to accept about life is that there are no real accidents. Everything that happens is in concert with the course of your life. We may not like the circumstances or the outcomes but most of that is simply ego driven where we think we "deserve" something "more" or "better" and then we expect the universe to give it to us. I myself am very much guilty of that flaw, but I'm improving daily.

Since I have no desire to contact my POI with my message left unanswered, this can't end badly for me. If she never answers I will be fine without her. Besides, if you've spent time around a person who made a move on you and you open up tell them how you feel and all they can do is lurk your posts every day online and never speak, it's pretty obvious something isn't quite right with that person as that's not at all a normal thing to do.

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Signs are sooooooo objective. I'm even starting to wean myself of using that kind of lingo anymore. Our interpretation of signs is a whole other story altogether. You're last comment is not necessarily true. I do get what you're saying though that if you've told someone how you feel and they don't reciprocate, then you really do have to look at it as if that's your answer or their lack of an answer means they are not interested, but Social Media is the new normal and lurking is what many people do now in this day and age.

Seeker:
The non-reciprocation I can understand, it's the accepting the connection invite, lurking, reading, and liking of posts in this type of circumstance that comes across as very bizarre to me. What makes it even more bizarre is that if when I checked her activity I noticed that in all the years she's been there she has never liked (or even commented) on anything besides my post, and at that site you can't erase your activity history there and the history goes all the way back to the day you sign up.

If that's the new normal I find that pretty scary. It would be like, if I saw you and turned you down (didn't reply to message) but kept hanging around you every day (lurking), listening to your conversations (reading), and even clapping when you say something I dig (hitting the like button), lol.

I could never do any of those things without feeling ultra weird.

If she has nothing to say ever I'm sure she'll disappear eventually.

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