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Goodbye
Seeker:
--- Quote from: HornetKick on October 05, 2017, 04:51:46 PM ---How about blocking your poi on FB. Just not knowing will eventually turn into just not caring what he does or who he sees, will be much more beneficial for you.
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This is what I'm building up to doing with my POI on the social media site we're both on. Just deleting her and blocking her.
I reached out to her in late May and told her how I felt + sent a connection invite, she then accepted the connection invite in mid June (still don't know what took her so long to decide to accept) but she never said a word in response to my opening up about how I felt about her. The funny part is, the site has a built-in stat app that shows me she reads everything I post on my page (not about her just about different subjects) but she never says a word. It's kinda creepy in a way that she's just hanging around reading all of my posts but not speaking ???
People do weird things.
Seeker:
--- Quote from: Universal9 on October 05, 2017, 07:14:08 PM ---Seeker, am sorry to hear she did not respond about how you felt; some response either way would have felt better to you... Why bother with social media sites if you can take it to personal messenger or whatsapp or something (if the opportunity presents itself)..
Coz anything we see on fb can trigger variety of reactions...as long as you know how to maneuver through those...
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It wasn't on Facebook (can you believe I've never been an official member of Facebook!? :-), it's a different social media site. The site uses an instant messenger program, so every block of messages sent through the messenger gets sent to your email too. But if a person wants to respond the site or app you send a message through won't matter. Unfortunately, this site was literally the only way to contact her as she's not a member of any other site (she's a very private person), I didn't have her phone number anymore otherwise I would've just called her on the phone. I would've rather just saw her in person and told her face-to-face but that option wasn't available either as I don't know where she is.
At this point, I've come to terms with her not responding to the message where I opened up to her. However, what I'm not understanding is three-fold:
1. Why did she read the message, decide not to respond to it, but still accept the connection invitation? Makes no sense to me to do that, since if she didn't plan on saying anything why accept my invitation to connect? Why not just disappear entirely? (I actually would've preferred that).
2. What was she thinking in the 20 days it took her to accept my invitation?
3. Why is she creepily standing by reading all of my posts but not saying anything?
It's all just so strange.
I'd say this is an anomaly, but on a dating site back in July I sent an invite to connect with a lady in a closeby town, she accepted the request but then didn't say anything... bizarre. And the thing is, before you can accept a chat request on the site I was at, you have to see the person's picture and profile first so she obviously liked what she saw, but yet silence? Just bizarre. Even more bizarre, she's connected with me on the same site as my POI!
Only thing I can work out here is that when bizarre things like that happen the Universe has a different plan for you than the one you THINK you should have and it manifests itself through all sorts of things including the behaviors of others. I'm open and ready to accept what the Universe has for me, but time & waiting is a monster, even for someone with a lot of patience like me.
mystery123:
--- Quote from: Seeker on October 05, 2017, 08:03:52 PM ---
--- Quote from: Universal9 on October 05, 2017, 07:14:08 PM ---Seeker, am sorry to hear she did not respond about how you felt; some response either way would have felt better to you... Why bother with social media sites if you can take it to personal messenger or whatsapp or something (if the opportunity presents itself)..
Coz anything we see on fb can trigger variety of reactions...as long as you know how to maneuver through those...
--- End quote ---
It wasn't on Facebook (can you believe I've never been an official member of Facebook!? :-), it's a different social media site. The site uses an instant messenger program, so every block of messages sent through the messenger gets sent to your email too. But if a person wants to respond the site or app you send a message through won't matter. Unfortunately, this site was literally the only way to contact her as she's not a member of any other site (she's a very private person), I didn't have her phone number anymore otherwise I would've just called her on the phone. I would've rather just saw her in person and told her face-to-face but that option wasn't available either as I don't know where she is.
At this point, I've come to terms with her not responding to the message where I opened up to her. However, what I'm not understanding is two-fold:
1. Why did she read the message, decide not to respond to it, but still accept the connection invitation? Makes no sense to me to do that, since if she didn't plan on saying anything why accept my invitation to connect? Why not just disappear entirely? (I actually would've preferred that).
2. What was she thinking in the 20 days it took her to accept my invitation?
3. Why is she creepily standing by reading all of my posts but not saying anything?
It's all just so strange.
I'd say this is an anomaly, but on a dating site back in July I sent an invite to connect with a lady in a closeby town, she accepted the request but then didn't say anything... bizarre. And the thing is, before you can accept a chat request on the site I was at, you have to see the person's picture and profile first so she obviously liked what she saw, but yet silence? Just bizarre. Even more bizarre, she's connected with me on the same site as my POI!
Only thing I can work out here is that when bizarre things like that happen the Universe has a different plan for you than the one you THINK you should have and it manifests itself through all sorts of things including the behaviors of others. I'm open and ready to accept what the Universe has for me, but time & waiting is a monster, even for someone with a lot of patience like me.
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Well I am guilty of that too— I will sometimes accept requests from guys but then I expect them to send a message first. lol
Seeker:
--- Quote from: mystery123 on October 05, 2017, 10:11:05 PM ---
Well I am guilty of that too— I will sometimes accept requests from guys but then I expect them to send a message first. lol
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Guys pretty much expect it to be that way so it's not really a bad thing. It's just weird to have a chat request accepted, then you say something to the lady as harmless as "Hi, lovely lady, how are you today?" and you get silence.
Seeker:
--- Quote from: Seeker on October 05, 2017, 06:11:03 PM ---
--- Quote from: HornetKick on October 05, 2017, 04:51:46 PM ---How about blocking your poi on FB. Just not knowing will eventually turn into just not caring what he does or who he sees, will be much more beneficial for you.
--- End quote ---
This is what I'm building up to doing with my POI on the social media site we're both on. Just deleting her and blocking her.
I reached out to her in late May and told her how I felt + sent a connection invite, she then accepted the connection invite in mid June (still don't know what took her so long to decide to accept) but she never said a word in response to my opening up about how I felt about her. The funny part is, the site has a built-in stat app that shows me she reads everything I post on my page (not about her just about different subjects) but she never says a word. It's kinda creepy in a way that she's just hanging around reading all of my posts but not speaking ???
People do weird things.
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And speaking of weird things, my POI has just now started 'liking' some of my posts at that site, lol. What is this lady doing???
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