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tired of it all:
Thank you all for responding.  Not that I wish it on anyone else but it helps to know I'm not the only one feeling this way.

I'm trying to get past it because what's done is done.  Words were said, actions were taken, money was spent, etc.  There's no going back doing it over or pretending none of it happened.  There's no sense in beating myself up about it.  I just want to be in a place where it doesn't really matter anymore. 

There have been some predictions made that I just don't care about anymore.  Ugh, more money wasted, whatever. 

But as for reconciling with my ex?  I deeply love this man.  Whether I got any readings or not it would be a long time yet before I got over him.  Even if we could not get back together I'd for us to be able to talk again.  I can't write him off or say it was all a waste.  I've been really angry about things and thought he was an asshole and all that.  But I know he never meant for things to turn out this way.   I want to forgive him and let it go.  I just don't know if I can get over the way I feel about it. 

tired of it all:
Oh yeah that's just it.  I lost my best friend.  I miss talking to him.  No one else could ever replace that.

Sooshi:
Same here.  :-\

hope4love:

--- Quote from: bstalling on June 25, 2016, 12:35:57 AM ---Consider some therapy at this point. If you are feeling scarred for life, you have to make practical measures to fix that, because predictions happening as you want them won't heal that (trust me). In all honestly, I think thats what most of us need anyway.

--- End quote ---

I agree with this suggestion. The money you'd spend on reads is much better spent on therapy to help you heal and move forward in life.  I've come to learn that these connections come into our lives to make us realize what's holding us back from being our true, authentic selves and in most cases, it's about loving ourselves.  There was one member who wrote something that was very insightful; how the Universe will keep the people we're asking about at bay from us unless we put ourselves first and give ourselves that love we're seeking from our 'beloved'.
As cliched as it sounds, the more you're hanging onto something, the more you're pushing it away. 
You all deserve love and peace in your lives; do what's good for you regardless of the other person.

Also, it took me a long time to reach that point of 'it doesn't matter if I ever see that person again' and that's when I realized I had started to heal.  Because really, it's our own life that matters. 

tired of it all:

--- Quote from: hope4love on June 25, 2016, 07:27:36 PM ---You all deserve love and peace in your lives; do what's good for you regardless of the other person. 

--- End quote ---

That IS what I'm doing.  I'm looking out for myself now, and I have become downright militant about doing what's right for me and taking care of myself.  So even if he comes back, I don't know if I can be in a relationship again.  I feel like all of this has changed me and made me a lot more self-centered than I used to be. 

I wish some of you would stop trying to equate things like we're all in the same situation.  There are similarities and common themes, but there are a lot of differences too, which you wouldn't know unless you're standing in someone's shoes.  I am quite capable of understanding for myself what "my" (not "our") message from the Universe is. 

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