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chrys:
I have decided just to let things ride in my fling with my friend. It may not be for everyone but I am happier with him in my life even with the limited time we get to spend together. I feel that I have wasted so much money calling since this fling started trying to figure out where it was going than to accept it for what it is and enjoy it while it lasts. I am going to be happy that I have someone who makes me feel wanted and beautiful even if it is just for a few hours once a week. This is something that I don't get at home and every women needs to feel desired. I have not called a psychic in 6 days. I can't say that I will not panic and call again but I was calling or chatting 3 to 4 times a day at at least $50 a pop. I don't make that kind of money. I have to try to limit myself so I am in a position financially to take care of myself when I make the move away from my husband.
divine wishes:
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sagitira:
chrysraihl please protect your feelings if you decided to go this route. trust me i am in same situation and it's dragged for over 2 years now! during this time i have never been so low and i understand you girl i totally do! i cannot imagine not being around him even though is for a few hours but on the other hand if i could turn back time i would avoid him like hell when he first asked me to hang out - only because the pain i had gone through (and i still do) is worse then my worse nightmare.
every psychic i read with first year told me he would break up with his girl and come to me. every single one and i read with like at least 60 of them that year! nothing happened only my self esteem and happiness was gone waiting for him to make a move. i don't know your circumstances if he has a gf or a wife but if you do happen to be the "other woman" like i was then please enjoy BUT protect your feelings and make sure that you have other things to do (like hobbies or anything else) because when you put yourself in a situation when spending time with him is the only time you enjoy and nothing else can make you happy and he is only thing on your mind it can really make you depressed - i don't wanna be negative i really don't i'm only speaking from my own experience. i'm in a situation where i have to see this guy on a daily basis and cannot be with him...i am finding it very difficult to move on and i know i have to move on. the pain is really worse pain i'd gone through and i only pray that one day i will be able to enjoy life like i used to..
so enjoy it but meet other people, make sure you have some friends/family around.
i again have to agree with decibel diva. he is the only person who can give you answers, no psychic is going to be totally correct and many will be correct with your current or past. 70percent of psychics i read with were spot on about my current and past situation - none of their predictions came true - sadly...otherwise i'd be married by now living my happily after fairytale...
wish you good luck and lots of strength..
chrys:
I am really working on protecting my feelings. I have a great group of friends (including him) that I spend time with. I have never been interested in breaking up his marriage or hurting anyone. I just really enjoy the break from reality I get when I am with him.
Zee:
--- Quote from: sagitira on January 21, 2014, 09:14:57 PM ---chrysraihl please protect your feelings if you decided to go this route. trust me i am in same situation and it's dragged for over 2 years now! during this time i have never been so low and i understand you girl i totally do! i cannot imagine not being around him even though is for a few hours but on the other hand if i could turn back time i would avoid him like hell when he first asked me to hang out - only because the pain i had gone through (and i still do) is worse then my worse nightmare.
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I'm sure many of us can relate on some level and people have always said: you can't help who you fall in love with, but this is so not true. I met a married guy once in one of my classes and we use to email each other daily and I couldn't wait for work, just to email him and I couldn't wait for class, just to see him.
I started down this road knowing full well he was married with two kids. He was so funny in his emails and sometimes we'd call each during office hours and at some point, I felt we should be together.
I believed he felt the same and was waiting on me to make the first move, but looking back if I had, he would have just used it for his justification later on. At some point: the more I thought about being second, the more I thought about how my present situation would not have changed and that I wasn't ready to be the cause of someone else's breakup - I told him point blank not to text, email, or call me. I told him I liked him and knew he liked me, but I didn't like (us) enough to even sacrifice what I really want and if I started to get deep into him, it would block who I was truly suppose to meet. I refused to go down that road.
Now granted, two weeks before this, I was totally like I'm in it to win it, but I finally decided that it wasn't what I wanted and I discovered I could have walk away from this much sooner. If the dots aren't in a row for the person you want, you can always step back, take a break and assess the situation. That's what I did and I'm much happier because of it, although I lost a possibly good friend in the process.
This was long before I even considered getting a read from psychics and knowing as much as I do about readers now, they probably would have pushed me down the wrong path anyway.
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