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Bark angel:
I just think I used a word in my earlier post that was not quite appropriate and may have intimated something I don't wish to intimate.  I believe that the psychics  I consult on a regular basis have a real gift.  When I suggested that psychic readings are a "business" I should have said that performing psychic readings is a "livelihood" for psychics.  They have a right to earn a living just as we do.  I don't wish to convey that they do it for the money...but that they choose to use their gift to earn a living, just as anyone with a gift might be inclined to do - as in an artist, a musician, a baker, a cook....

sagitira:
it makes sense you are right. i guess i was getting way over suspicious. those readers i mentioned definitely were gifted and all picked up on my current situation.
and i agree with you i also know or believe most women calling psychics will call for those reasons you mentioned there. i'm sure this is the most common question - will he come back, will we be together of course.

it's interesting though why if they are seeing those 3rd parties why the would state that the women manipulate the men..not one reader told me he was leading me on..in fact they often portray the men as stuck, unable to move, not know what to do, not wanting to hurt the other girl - but what about hurting us? i would label the men as manipulative selfish heartless at times for playing and leading us on but i have yet to hear those words from any psychic. i sure would agree if a psychic told me that the guy is looking to get his cake and eat it too. sadly he is being portrayed as a victim and this really annoys me...(this must be the baggagereclaim website that i have been reading making me see how the guys manipulate us lolol)

sagitira:
but i guess i forgot to add - literally all readers said that the girl is manipulative and emotional bs...all of them...to be honest i did not see this i saw communication between them two for many months and she did not seem to be this way...even though i only saw emails i don't know what she is like in real life when speaking and dealing with him but in emails they don't even argue...yet most readers will say that they argue a lot. so maybe they see what i want or think (like i want them to argue think about it) maybe they pick up on that? not sure what to think..

Bark angel:
I think a lot of this is common sense.  Look men aren't all that complicated.  They prefer relationships where there isn't a lot of drama and emotion. It's easier for them.  If a "new" relationship comes without those 2 dynamics - they will be naturally drawn to something new.  Ask yourself that question - Wasn't the "first-getting-to-know" phase of your relationship exciting?  Did you get butterflies before he arrived at your door?  Did you take extra time to present yourself at your best?  Of course!  We all do.  So, a man gravitates to something new for the same reason....it's just that everything new eventually becomes old, commonplace, normal, not as exciting.  So that is when they lose interest.

Bark angel:
This may be the area of this "service" that I find the most difficult.  Hoe comfortable would you feel if you received a call from a woman in tears almost every week (yeah, that's me :-( ) asking when something is going to improve?  How would you handle that?  I'm not suggesting that anyone is doing this, but just think about it.  Is it not possible that some of  what is shared is to bolster our feelings of self-worth so that we can rebuild our self-esteem?  I don't see anything amiss with that.  Truth is, what does it matter what the women are like that these guys are with, if eventually they leave them?

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