How readings ruined my life, or didn’t help

[Notacrystalfreak]

I’d like to list all the ways readings ruined my life:

Encouraged me to get married to someone I didn’t even like
Made me move back home as soon as I claimed my independence and tried to escape the situation
Made me miss opportunities for love and friendship, just because someone was coming in “july 2023”
Made me sign up for a stupid degree that I don’t want to do, but thought I did, now I’m more in debt
Nearly made me not get a degree

I could go on. For me readings aren’t just the financial, they’re the jumping from one thing to another, with no basis but a “psychic told me”.

My cousin gives me a really really hard time about it. I do believe some of them, and it annoys me when people don’t respect my beliefs, because I do believe in spirit.

I actually went a year without readings. I was tormented, it was difficult, but I came out stronger because of it.

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted, but prone. I have had quite a few readings this year, and it’s my mission to not have any for the rest of the year. That includes:

-talking to my psychic “friend” for free
-reading for a “pick me up”
-ESPECIALLY yes/no readings
-ESPECIALLY readings from Ashley ! Who low-key hates me
-no “freebies”


I’m not 100% against them. If I genuinely feel drawn, I will get it. But otherwise no.

[mliva34]

Sorry this sounds rough.
For me I didn't get started on readings til my aunt told me that I wasn't marrying my high school sweetheart - and she was right. She also predicted when my dad would pass when she read my mom. This thing runs in my family - why I believe it.
But there were also many times that I questioned predictions regardless who it came from (even my aunt got energies mixed up) - so I don't fully go off predictions.

I think people have gifts, some are better than others but they do have bad days.
Two years ago, I had a psychic urge me to find a different job (but I wanted to stay with my current due to the pay) - well that ended up in a lawsuit.
And another psychic two years before this time blurted out how she just saw a lot of money.. and I said maybe a job and she's like noo but it's a lot - I brushed it off and well two years later, it's from the lawsuit. I don't hold on to predictions anymore and typically go in with an open mind for a general read - no expectations.

But I'm also careful on who to go to as some of these readers may have ill intention - tell u something to have u keep coming back - and you do and it goes downhill from there cus you're hearing different predictions.
But I hope things are working out for you now.

[Mina]

This sounds like declaration. You go girl!

I do have some ideas but honestly what do you think will best support your recovery? How can you best feel supported?

I’m not over psychics I indulged in MULTIPLE binges this month.

And there is fine balance between accountability and shame- but I do want to share (and I hope it’s not the blind leading the blind): be kind to yourself

I am learning what I judge myself on myself on feeling, doing, being border at times with shame. And I heard this phrase: guilt says I did something bad; shame is I am bad

And the weight of that phrase really struck me. Forgive yourself if it was the bad choice, the wrong choice, give yourself some grace, on some level you have had to believe you were doing the best you could and knew to. What would it look or feel like if you had a break from that, and carrying that shame?

Now yes on some level guilt  also does some good it does give time to say ok here’s what I learned, I’m more willing to take accountability. I just hope this helps you feel a little more self compassion towards yourself and be kind to what you’re feeling without judgement. Hey you know at least what doesn’t work! What you don’t want to be married to. Maybe you won’t use that degree maybe you will. But it allows you to pay that debt (or hey maybe it will be forgiven- I am optimist) with more ease. Yes you can look at what you don’t have, but if you can look at what you still have. And this is hard if you’re not use to thinking this way but practicing into what you still have! And start small: a cup of coffee, a hot shower, gas in car or money for the fare, your youth (heck even your 50s you can still feel young), a phone!, internet, etc and appreciate it! And I have learned in huge withdrawal when I’m broke how good coffee does taste, how so good hot showers feel, how lucky I am to still call someone and they’ll pick up (like my mom or sister), That gets things flowing again. Remember what you do have in appreciation.

Ugh apologies for my feels

[Notacrystalfreak]

This sounds like declaration. You go girl!

I do have some ideas but honestly what do you think will best support your recovery? How can you best feel supported?

I’m not over psychics I indulged in MULTIPLE binges this month.

And there is fine balance between accountability and shame- but I do want to share (and I hope it’s not the blind leading the blind): be kind to yourself

I am learning what I judge myself on myself on feeling, doing, being border at times with shame. And I heard this phrase: guilt says I did something bad; shame is I am bad

And the weight of that phrase really struck me. Forgive yourself if it was the bad choice, the wrong choice, give yourself some grace, on some level you have had to believe you were doing the best you could and knew to. What would it look or feel like if you had a break from that, and carrying that shame?

Now yes on some level guilt  also does some good it does give time to say ok here’s what I learned, I’m more willing to take accountability. I just hope this helps you feel a little more self compassion towards yourself and be kind to what you’re feeling without judgement. Hey you know at least what doesn’t work! What you don’t want to be married to. Maybe you won’t use that degree maybe you will. But it allows you to pay that debt (or hey maybe it will be forgiven- I am optimist) with more ease. Yes you can look at what you don’t have, but if you can look at what you still have. And this is hard if you’re not use to thinking this way but practicing into what you still have! And start small: a cup of coffee, a hot shower, gas in car or money for the fare, your youth (heck even your 50s you can still feel young), a phone!, internet, etc and appreciate it! And I have learned in huge withdrawal when I’m broke how good coffee does taste, how so good hot showers feel, how lucky I am to still call someone and they’ll pick up (like my mom or sister), That gets things flowing again. Remember what you do have in appreciation.

Ugh apologies for my feels

I appreciate this so much! I'm actually thinking of posting videos on instagram of how I am doing, with psychic addition. Maybe a video every month of the highs and lows. Documenting my journey. I think it'd be fun! I can share all my tips, what worked what doesn't work. Maybe a video once a month, reviewing the past month.

[jackY]

Love this! Your POV is so much healthier and that takes a great deal of strength. I also love that you share your experience with this topic. I know it helps others. Rock on, lady!!

I’d like to list all the ways readings ruined my life:

Encouraged me to get married to someone I didn’t even like
Made me move back home as soon as I claimed my independence and tried to escape the situation
Made me miss opportunities for love and friendship, just because someone was coming in “july 2023”
Made me sign up for a stupid degree that I don’t want to do, but thought I did, now I’m more in debt
Nearly made me not get a degree

I could go on. For me readings aren’t just the financial, they’re the jumping from one thing to another, with no basis but a “psychic told me”.

My cousin gives me a really really hard time about it. I do believe some of them, and it annoys me when people don’t respect my beliefs, because I do believe in spirit.

I actually went a year without readings. I was tormented, it was difficult, but I came out stronger because of it.

I wouldn’t say I’m addicted, but prone. I have had quite a few readings this year, and it’s my mission to not have any for the rest of the year. That includes:

-talking to my psychic “friend” for free
-reading for a “pick me up”
-ESPECIALLY yes/no readings
-ESPECIALLY readings from Ashley ! Who low-key hates me
-no “freebies”


I’m not 100% against them. If I genuinely feel drawn, I will get it. But otherwise no.

[Notacrystalfreak]

Love this! Your POV is so much healthier and that takes a great deal of strength. I also love that you share your experience with this topic. I know it helps others. Rock on, lady!!

Thank you Jacky ♥️. I'm glad you feel

[PJpilar]

This happens to a lot of people. They get a reading then try to make things fit so they will live their life making the readings fit not knowing they are ruining it.

No one can predict the future and tarot certainly cannot predict the future.

This is exactly why when someone claimed a love prediction passed I took it with a grain of salt. They just make the reading fit.