To put on the end of my last comment, I don't know the ins and outs of your situation but if you're calling about a guy who hasn't come back in years then you need to do the math in your mind on if he is even going to return and how genuine it'll be as, as I said, it's rare for a guy to come back much later and it's all genuine. I'd say you deserve much better and to be with some one who isn't giving you second guesses or leaving you lonely and hurt.
Thanks so much for your kind and thoughtful response. It helps. Yes I really weighed whether or not to make the call. This is actually in regards to someone new I’ve been talking to for a while. We are still in contact and he’s said he’s not ready for a relationshi
p & I’m really okay with that because I’m just trying to get to know him and develop a friendship and see if there’s something there. But I would like to know if he has any actual attraction or not. I asked in the most chill way I could a while ago and he just didn’t respond at all. On the one hand I think okay no response is a response. But on the other hand I wonder if his anxiety is at play & no news is good news. We ended up just completely changing the subject in our next communicati
ons. And have had good frequent communicati
on since.
But it’s a situation where I probably need to back off my energy to allow him the opportunity to come forward if he wants. But it scares me to do so partly of course there’s fear of loss (which sucks but okay I need to accept that) but also worry he will see it as abandonment
. So I’m just not sure where I’m at with it all. We communicate in a group online most of the time so I have a hard time gauging if I’m any different to him than a lot of other women that appear into him. And I hate being in that position. So thinking of abandoning the group so to speak. But again worry about that choice too. It’s been good for me to make new friends but I’m asking myself at what cost?
So. Yeah not someone old - someone new - trying to figure out what’s best for me.
Thank you again