@thehealer:
I am not much into astrology, but some questions you asked: yes, I think you did the right thing by NOT contacting her on Vday. I would go so far as to suggest next time she calls - let it go to voice mail - let her 'wonder' why you are not at her beck and call. Not sure how you can get her to stay other than to issue an ultimatum - but its a big gamble for obvious reasons. By reading your posts, I know you are very much in love with this woman. But ask yourself - do you really want to hold yourself back from really living life, and possibly meeting someone else who you may fall in love with, someone who will be there for you when you need them to be?? Or do you want to spend your best years waiting for someone who never seems to be there for you?? I hope I am not being offensive, not my intention.
I don't know what you look like, or your age, so I cannot comment on the hair, but personally, I don't like a man who is 'high maintenance', so probably nix the highlights. If you have grays and don't like them, just use hair dye for your natural color. I personally like a clean face - no facial hair, good personal hygiene, short hair, but not like a buzz cut. Wavy hair=def. good. Not past the collar, though. All just my personal preferences. Diff. women like diff. things.
Sense of humor - a DEFINITE MUST.