Do all psychics tell you that your POI loves you?

[Sweetsydney2000]

I’m just wondering if this is a classic stock line that they tell everybody.. .? Even the best of psychics like Kisha and Cookie have told me that my on and off boyfriend of many years really does love me, and I believe that to an extent, it’s been a very long time, I’m sure he has formed some sort of ‘love’ for me. We were just kids when we met. But that doesn’t change the fact that if he really loved me, he wouldn’t be hurting me the way he does.

Do all psychics tell you that your ex/boyfriend/crush or whoever else... are still in love with you?

[happyk]

Pretty much. If not then he's scared of commitments .

[PinkyD]

Such a simple but absolutely profound statement, if i kept this in mind more, I'd be less confused about people....

[HornetKick]

Some people are not capable of loving, even if they treat you right; some people do have limits, but it may not be on purpose. They just aren't capable of being the person you need them to be. They can steadily mistreat you and in the same instance continually tell you how much they love you and they know they are being cruel towards you, but can't curb their dysfunction .

[Sweetsydney2000]

Some people are not capable of loving, even if they treat you right; some people do have limits, but it may not be on purpose. They just aren't capable of being the person you need them to be. They can steadily mistreat you and in the same instance continually tell you how much they love you and they know they are being cruel towards you, but can't curb their dysfunction .

I agree. I literally just shared this meme on Facebook and I feel like I can relate to it more now than ever.

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[wishes215]

None of the good ones have told me that and that is accurate. The fakes ones, yes:)

[Sweetsydney2000]

None of the good ones have told me that and that is accurate. The fakes ones, yes:)

Which ones have been good for you?

[sawthelight]

Some people are not capable of loving, even if they treat you right; some people do have limits, but it may not be on purpose. They just aren't capable of being the person you need them to be. They can steadily mistreat you and in the same instance continually tell you how much they love you and they know they are being cruel towards you, but can't curb their dysfunction .

Absolutely!

[HornetKick]

Life isn't so black and white and some people don't have it in their dna (they are missing a trait) that makes them incapable of love.
You can mistreat someone who you love (although it's f! up), it can and does happen.

You can also treat someone right out of basic human decency and not love them. This too can and does happen. It's life.

People can even say they love a person or that their SO is the love of their life and still cheat on them, without a care in the world about what they just did. It's complicated with most people.

I've known a couple where the guy claimed he hated the girl, even had stalking charges brought against her, a standing warrant, and she had to stay away from him - but she fought him tooth and nail and they are now married. She knew he was it, and got him. His actions said he no longer loved her so why get married if that is the case. Did he just fall in love with her antics later? I'm just using this as one example, there are plenty of others.

All I'm saying is that you can do one without the other.

Oh and your statement: Love is a behavior, not just an emotion
Well, most people don't know what love is, they romanticize the hell out of it, but only relegate it to an emotion. Many people don't recognize it's a behavior.
Oprah had talked about this very thing eons ago.

[sawthelight]

I had a psychic tell me about first POI that "he loves you the way he is capable of loving you, which isn't the same way you might love him".  Boy was she right!  I don't even remember who it was but I remember that quote!  His actions showed it, he just wasn't capable of giving me the love that I needed.  It doesn't mean he was an awful guy, or that he didn't care, we were just too different.

[wishes215]

 Cookie(keen), Psychic Ari(Bitwine), Oracle Indigo (Etsy) they all gave me a negative and they were all right. even the ones who gave me a positive outcome never said love which was true in our case.

None of the good ones have told me that and that is accurate. The fakes ones, yes:)

Which ones have been good for you?

[Sweetsydney2000]

He has had a very traumatic past with his first girlfriend (the mother of his kids that he was with since he was young) and also growing up. He was never really taught ‘love’ which I guess has impacted our relationshi p and our ability to get close. I’ve tried for 12 years and the closer we get, the further away he runs...

[happyk]

Whatever love is, is very strange. Everything each one of you said is correct. I agree that people can only love you the way they know how. It is such a deep and profound statement abd I think if we were to understand that we would be much happier or rather accepting of a situation. My ex husband took me for granted. I stayed with him for seven years and I gave up but the minute I gave up I saw him change into this different person. While we were married he never treated me right, always hurt me, never paid attention to what I needed. When I told him I was moving on he cried and begged for me to stay and promised me he'd change and I did stay and he did change but may be for a week?? Lol. And then I realized that change in a very deep level is too difficult if not impossible. We're divorced now but very good friends. He loves me and it's really strange that however we are today, we were together as a married couple and probably we mistook our love for each other for a different kind of love. I'm not sure that this experience is really relevant here but I couldn't stop myself because I felt like sharing how one person's expectation of love might not be what the other person knows of love or might not know how to deliver it.

[HornetKick]

He has had a very traumatic past with his first girlfriend (the mother of his kids that he was with since he was young) and also growing up. He was never really taught ‘love’ which I guess has impacted our relationshi p and our ability to get close. I’ve tried for 12 years and the closer we get, the further away he runs...

Whatever love is, is very strange. Everything each one of you said is correct. I agree that people can only love you the way they know how. It is such a deep and profound statement abd I think if we were to understand that we would be much happier or rather accepting of a situation. My ex husband took me for granted. I stayed with him for seven years and I gave up but the minute I gave up I saw him change into this different person. While we were married he never treated me right, always hurt me, never paid attention to what I needed. When I told him I was moving on he cried and begged for me to stay and promised me he'd change and I did stay and he did change but may be for a week?? Lol. And then I realized that change in a very deep level is too difficult if not impossible. We're divorced now but very good friends. He loves me and it's really strange that however we are today, we were together as a married couple and probably we mistook our love for each other for a different kind of love. I'm not sure that this experience is really relevant here but I couldn't stop myself because I felt like sharing how one person's expectation of love might not be what the other person knows of love or might not know how to deliver it.

Yes, but if a person loves you and aren't capable, once you discuss it with them (and they are afraid of losing you) wouldn't they put more of an effort into it? They would for their job if they knew they were going to get fired; they would for their car if it was about to break down.

Personally, I'm kind of sick of the excuses that are made and the excuses we except as the legitimate answer.  Being taught love is only one aspect. Are you telling me if you were never taught how to tie your shoes, you'd never learn? That isn't even logical. To walk through life saying I don't Know, I don't know...Well, go find out.  What is in you that makes you treat a person unlovingly or whatever quest you need to be on.

People do learn by example and people can learn by seeing what's out there and change what they lack to make it better.  It doesn't sound hard to me, but trying and doing are two different things.