@jonnie, I hear you, have been there done that and still sort of kind of doing it, so no I did not get my lesson lol. I know it actually makes it more difficult to let it go when a reader like cookie for example, gives ditails which are scary accurate, like he has this color car and you have this color car, and you work here and you guys have a common friend named this! But you see, I personally came to conclude that readers see what already happened, but not necessarily future as it will precisely manifest. So speaking of cookie, when she says he feels bad and so and so and will do this to reach out to me, I really do not count on it although I would love to do so, but what I count on is when she tells me at such and such dates you did so and so and because of that he felt rejected and that is why this happened. Maybe I do not make sense and maybe it is just a way to fool and justify my action of calling her yet, I do not know, just at least I hope this way I might be able to she'd some light on the reasons of why something happened, in my own case that I had absolutely no idea why did we get where we are right now ...