For those no longer getting readings - how did you know you were done?

[WinterElf]

Thank you so much.  I am feeling better now by praying.  I spent the night at his place to watch GOT and the day before he was sent to the hospital for fainting at work.  He was so stressed and upset he paced around the room till 5 am in the morning.  I cry thinking about what he is going through.... all what those psychics said ... some of them painted him as the bad person and said he was lying about depression etc.  I am so done. I hate psychic readings because it does bring a lot of turmoil.  Even the free minutes they offer is not worth it... there are some gifted ones there but whenever i get a reading, things that i feel should not happen, happen.

[WinterElf]

THank you and yes they do.  I cracked today because even if i have mostly stopped readings, if i feel really stressed, i will go to one.  Which is better than last month when i called for every little thing lol

One psychic who was very accurate said to tell him that i accept his good and his bad.  I sent that and it didnt go well with him in messenger.  It came off as too much and the opposite happened from what this psychic said would happen. 

Another dangerous thing about psychics is that if you call a lot, they will make you feel like a relationshi p is something impossible because of a 3rd party or some weird barrier or energy... and you get stuck in a cycle of calling about every tom dick and harry. 

I get frustrated and i feel isolated when i call them.  I was in t-mobile shop today and saw this couple come in who were not really taking care of themselves and the girl wore clothes i wouldnt even wear in the privacy of my own home.. yet she had her guy and i doubt all these couples i meet are calling psychics. just about all of them say that it happened naturally or it was a surprise. 

im guessing if you are expecting something really hard, it doesn't happen.

[Just FYI]

I cracked today because even if i have mostly stopped readings, if i feel really stressed, i will go to one.  Which is better than last month when i called for every little thing lol

Hey WinterElf - I get you on the stress-readings. It's a huge realization to have, that when you feel stressed, you get a psychic reading. Things I've tried when I realize this is coming on (the angsty anxious OH-MY-GOD-I-NEED-TO-KNOW feeling) is to try taking a break from whatever is happening in the moment. Like, to say to myself "oh, I'm about to do something stupid, what could I do instead?" and I'll go for a walk, or I'll come here and read other people's posts, or I'll set a timer on my phone and straighten up the house for 10 minutes (I'd love to be one of those people who stress cleans). Then I'll see if the feeling passes. If it hasn't, I'll try something else.

[WinterElf]

thank you for those tips.  i appreciate it.  i think most of the people here have compulsive anxiety driven tendencies.  i

[Star_01]

I stopped getting readings when I balanced up the logic of the situation and my gut was screaming at me. I was getting readings and not trusting in what they said, so I worked out that I was basically throwing money down the drain.

[Star_01]

Just wondering.. .. is this the star1 of old??

Yes. I am. Why?

[Kat23]

I stopped getting readings when I balanced up the logic of the situation and my gut was screaming at me. I was getting readings and not trusting in what they said, so I worked out that I was basically throwing money down the drain.

Welcome back star...

[Star_01]

I stopped getting readings when I balanced up the logic of the situation and my gut was screaming at me. I was getting readings and not trusting in what they said, so I worked out that I was basically throwing money down the drain.

Welcome back star...

Ah thanks Kat, hope you're doing okay 

[Star_01]

Just wondering.. .. is this the star1 of old??

Yes. I am. Why?

Wow. Welcome back. You were one of my valued reviewers when I started lurking the board a while back. Then u vanished so abruptly. I recall just about all the top readers predicted you and your poi getting back together... but u felt this was impossible. .. did anything change if u dont mind my asking?

Thanks so much, I'll pm you.

[maggs30]

I stopped when every single one was wrong. Everything they told me to do made stuff worse. Nothing they said even current feelings were true. Huge waste of money and energy. I kick myself now thinking of how bad I have let it mess up my life.

[lp1111]

Well, I just received a letter from the IRS stating I owe over $3,000 on my 2017 return. I made sure to file my taxes with H&R Block and still this happens right at a time when im struggling financially, and none of the big guns saw this and I have had several general reads and 3 month outlooks. Isnt the point of getting readings to prepare you for things like this? Whats the point of all these readings then?

Ugh! You had the three month outlook with Micah? He brought up an issue I would have that wasn't near as significant money-wise... just someone making fraudulent charges on my card, so I had to cancel it and get a new one... you'd think something this big would be seen! I'm sorry!

[maggs30]

Yes what is the point when they miss the big stuff and barely get the small stuff. So sorry you are going through this Professor.

[Daisy573]

For me, I havent stopped completely but do not call nearly as much as I did in the past.  What made me tone it way down was not being so focused on the outcome because quite frankly, most psychics NEVER got that right anyway and now just using psychics to help clear up confusion for me.  I also found a few psychics that I seem to connect well with and I trust so when I call them for a reading, I feel satisfied after and dont feel the need to keep calling others like I did in the past.  I will probably always hang on to my few faves and call when I feel I need to but I've stopped calling like I used to.  Mostly because I have a busy life and just dont care as much about "will he return or not" any more.  It was that nonsense that kept me calling and when the predictions would not happen, I would call some more and listen to the timing get pushed out  etc etc etc....it just creates a cycle of hanging on and then calling more when the timing passes and nothing happens.  At some point, you just say enough.  Like for every other area of my life I do not hang on to things like that so why am I doing it for some dumb guy ??  hahah I think in the past I became more obsessed with which psychics would be accurate than I actually even cared about the guy any more!!

[unicornlove]

Hi all. I still dont do readings. I have a new man in my life  . My ex never came back. 

[SomethingBetter]

I’m bawling reading this. Thank you for posting it so eloquently.

I began to see the pointlessne ss of readings, for me, about eighteen months ago. But even then I still couldn't stop completely because I was so enamoured of this poi. I desperately wanted to believe I still had a ghost of a chance with him. I was totally deluded. Hell, the man was already in a committed relationshi p and not even available. I'm embarrassed to admit it but I've been having readings about this same poi for literally years. I just couldn't let the matter rest, even though it was obvious he felt nothing for me, and I was wasting precious time, energy and money consulting these psychics. I read with one who was my main go-to for three years just because some small predictions had come true. I ignored my intuition, and allowed myself to be strung along like a fool, hoping the big, positive outcome would eventually unfold as she kept saying it would, although she could never give me a time frame. When the situation deteriorate d out of the blue and the poi snubbed me, the psychic abruptly changed her tune. She blamed me for what happened by saying things would have come together if I'd taken her advice and 'worked on myself.' Then she flipped her prediction of three years by telling me the divine wanted to heal me in preparation for new love! She'd been telling me all along the poi was so attracted to me, had feelings, it was meant to be and we would be together etc. My fault of course for hanging on, denying reality and believing in all this rubbish. When it became glaringly obvious that he didn't want anything to do with me, she changed tack and said there wasn't enough between us for him to truly care if his behaviour was hurtful, or how he treated me. She became quite passive-aggressive, and then told me to google 'twin flame runner' because I'd 'understand more.'   

Even after that debacle, I STILL carried on reading with psychics to soothe my anxiety and escape reality. It was only recently when I had two negative card readings telling me nothing I hadn't already worked out for myself, that it dawned on me I was throwing my money away in pursuit of a dream, a fantasy, and it was a vain attempt to hold on to hope just a little bit longer. I was trying to avoid dealing with the pain of accepting that my poi wasn't interested in me romanticall y, and wouldn't ever see me in that way.

I've wasted years. I've finally seen sense and realised I can't let this crazy obsession go on past a certain number of years or it would be even more insane, so I've gone cold turkey. No more readings for me. Now the shame and regret has kicked in. I feel these readings mess with your emotions, and can cause you to lose touch with what reality is showing you. I was in denial for so long, and the years slip by all too quickly. I have remained stuck in the past while fixated on the poi. I also let important matters slide, and now I have to dig myself out of a financial hole, not for the first time, because I haven't been attending to important aspects of my life. It feels like I allowed everything to go to the dogs. I have to make a fresh start in life and move on from the poi, the painful memories and the whole ghastly experience with him.

I'm not blaming the psychics; I still think there are some genuine ones out there, and it was my choice to keep having readings about a hopeless situation. I just know that consulting with them is not healthy behaviour for me. I am better off using my intuition and common sense for guidance.