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Miss Philosopher:
Hell, I get readings cause I don't trust a damned thing that my ex says. He's said he loved me oh so much, said this that and the other, but his behavior doesn't match and I don't believe shit he says. So, I basically call psychics to confirm what my own gut says because it's really hard for me to determine the difference between my own emotions/fears/thoughts and my intuition. SK point blank said he does NOT love me, rather just loves me being available to him for whenever he wants and I believe that to be true. SK would not agree with me that he was a narcissist and said she didn't want to label him as such, but this dude's behavior fits every single thing of a covert narcissist and he was the same way with his ex wife of 10 years, so I gotta go with what I see with that. Kisha has told me many times that there's love there and he has feelings blah blah. I WANTED to believe her but I just don't feel that way.
Moral of my two cents is, sometimes a person can tell you all kinds of shit. Words mean nothing without action. The real question is, what is the person SHOWING you, how are they TREATING you...........that's the only thing that I will base things off of now. Huge lesson learned for me.
ShootingStar:
I am so sorry that is the case with him. My dad is a narcissist so I understand the idea of someone not really loving you but just wanting you to be available to them in whatever way. I am really impressed that sK picked this up and how honest she was about it. Especially since it is what you believe in your gut to be true and resonates as true to you. Though it really sucks that is how things are, it’s refreshing to know she really does just tell you the truth. It definitely makes me trust her more. It doesn’t do you any favors for other readers to lead you to believe there are more feelings than there are! You should be given all the information so you can make an informed decision for how to live your life and be able to move on.
Miss Philosopher:
--- Quote from: ShootingStar on January 08, 2019, 09:42:48 AM ---I am so sorry that is the case with him. My dad is a narcissist so I understand the idea of someone not really loving you but just wanting you to be available to them in whatever way. I am really impressed that sK picked this up and how honest she was about it. Especially since it is what you believe in your gut to be true and resonates as true to you. Though it really sucks that is how things are, it’s refreshing to know she really does just tell you the truth. It definitely makes me trust her more. It doesn’t do you any favors for other readers to lead you to believe there are more feelings than there are! You should be given all the information so you can make an informed decision for how to live your life and be able to move on.
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I'm sorry that your own dad is a narcissist. That's gotta be really really tough. I do feel like narcissists are capable of having feelings for people, even love. BUT, the way they love isn't healthy and it's always self serving. It's the old "I love you if........." thing. It's a selfish type of love and I believe they don't really know how to love someone outside of their own selves. But I do feel they are capable and probably do have feelings but don't know how to show it, what to do with it, how to behave, how to get outside of themselves, how to self reflect, how to change, how to humble themselves and honestly, I think most of that is out of fear. Fear of being "weak" or vulnerable. Narcs have low self esteem and no sense of self which is why they drain everyone else in an attempt to seek that out and feel "fulfilled" and "whole". Chances are, narcs are narcs because as children they were either OVERLY spoiled or completely neglected left to fend for themselves and so they were taught from a young age to only look out for themselves and therefore, they have no idea how to look out for someone else or what it even means to do so. I do believe narcs can change and can be helped but ONLY with some seriously thorough psychotherapy for a long period of time.
Yeah Shaman Kira kept it real. I appreciated that and felt everything she said was completely true. It didn't hurt me when she said it either. It would have years ago, but I didn't feel anything. I giggled to myself already knowing dude has issues. I actually feel sorry for him to some extent. I wish dude wasn't a narc but it is what it is and it's a blessing that things are the way they are at this time. I'm just waitin for this new guy to come in that everyone keeps seeing appear in April. Hopefully he isn't a narc too. LOL
star1:
Narcs love you until they get what they want, lol.
Miss Philosopher:
Yep. Then they get bored. They discard you, then they come back at some later point to siphon off you again. That's usually their pattern. Wish they could see how much pain they cause others and feel remorse and stop doing it.
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