THE END

[Sparkle002]

I don’t think it’s that bad really . I think he was enjoying your company and taking advantage of the fact he could as an employee or whatever the case is. He said you were beautiful and yes he might’ve wanted that one on once time albeit. The only part I don’t like was that he said “you know I’m married” well should that be the first thing you bring up on lunch with a woman you find attractive lol. Like how are you suppose to know

TOTALLY AGREE! This situation was really not that negative and as far as I know - even at work with people who know him, he is a GOOD GUY...I just caught him off gaurd lmao...he probably didnt even know how to handle himself lol

RIGHT - when he brought that up remember he said he thought I already knew, he said everyone at work knows...so well I could see that...alot of men are married at my job...and some I know are married without me having interacted with them.

But again, what he takes fault for was the excess flirting for sure!

[HornetKick]

I can super analyze my way out of a relationshi p its so sad...lol I literally have to go through check boxes in my head to determine if the person is "fit" for the long term, in the meanwhile Ill just play (even though I may have feelings with them, knowing it wont be long term).

It says we are "clueless in relationshi ps" lol ....while that may not be everyone it definitely is ME HA!

HEY FELLOW INTJ!!! WE ARE SO RARE!

But I TOTALLY agree with you, being that Im almost 40 Ive seen and heard it all with the married men thing and their relationshi ps being an issue.
Ive never dated a married man like ever it totally goes against my standards! For example, thats why it was SO important for my POI 1 (the original guy in this thread) to confirm that he was not married and the woman had moved out lol.

I totally get it though. HOWEVER Im super scared to be honest, like Chemistry is a MF'er. I dont know what to do with it because its strong and it will take willpower to control (I belive on both sides) - I hate this!! UGH. Yeah and even if he is going through a divorce it isnt the optimal time for "dating" anyway sheesh - I just wonder whhhhhyy Im always sent men (whom I have chemistry with) that are UNAVAILABLE UGH.

Yes, most of this is me too, although I didn't entirely date a married man, we flirted a lot and talked almost every day that at some point, you may not care because it is soooooo much fun and new, and daring and makes you wake up in the mornings, etc....find ing good and exciting chemistry is rare, where you'll eventually be like awww f! it, I'm in. Most fuckers just won't get what drives us. I ended up breaking all contact with the guy, his wife and two children too.

I haven't read all of the makeup for an Architect yet, but whoa I'm very intrigued.

[Sparkle002]

I can super analyze my way out of a relationshi p its so sad...lol I literally have to go through check boxes in my head to determine if the person is "fit" for the long term, in the meanwhile Ill just play (even though I may have feelings with them, knowing it wont be long term).

It says we are "clueless in relationshi ps" lol ....while that may not be everyone it definitely is ME HA!

HEY FELLOW INTJ!!! WE ARE SO RARE!

But I TOTALLY agree with you, being that Im almost 40 Ive seen and heard it all with the married men thing and their relationshi ps being an issue.
Ive never dated a married man like ever it totally goes against my standards! For example, thats why it was SO important for my POI 1 (the original guy in this thread) to confirm that he was not married and the woman had moved out lol.

I totally get it though. HOWEVER Im super scared to be honest, like Chemistry is a MF'er. I dont know what to do with it because its strong and it will take willpower to control (I belive on both sides) - I hate this!! UGH. Yeah and even if he is going through a divorce it isnt the optimal time for "dating" anyway sheesh - I just wonder whhhhhyy Im always sent men (whom I have chemistry with) that are UNAVAILABLE UGH.

Yes, most of this is me too, although I didn't entirely date a married man, we flirted a lot and talked almost every day that at some point, you may not care because it is soooooo much fun and new, and daring and makes you wake up in the mornings, etc....find ing good and exciting chemistry is rare, where you'll eventually be like awww f! it, I'm in. Most fuckers just won't get what drives us. I ended up breaking all contact with the guy, his wife and two children too.

I haven't read all of the makeup for an Architect yet, but whoa I'm very intrigued.

Omg I totally feel this will be me that’s why I’m not phased lmao!!! We get us! Lol

[Zipocal]

So as a male defender (i took that test years ago) I'd have to say he is most likely having serious issues in his marriage.  It takes a lot for defenders to act on relationshi ps.  Lots of guilt, bargaining, and may even go back, etc.  But once I've gotten to that point, I usually realized afterwards that the relationshi p wasn't what I wanted.  It just takes a while to get there and a lot to even consider a new relationshi p or flirting etc.

[giftsdiff]

So as a male defender (i took that test years ago) I'd have to say he is most likely having serious issues in his marriage.  It takes a lot for defenders to act on relationshi ps.  Lots of guilt, bargaining, and may even go back, etc.  But once I've gotten to that point, I usually realized afterwards that the relationshi p wasn't what I wanted.  It just takes a while to get there and a lot to even consider a new relationshi p or flirting etc.

THIS. So much THIS. I was going to say that a married ISFJ isn't going to accidentall y flirt. And if he's in a good relationshi p, the conversatio n at lunch would have revolved around his wife and kids.

If the test results are correct (and it's possible that they are not), I wouldn't lose a ton of sleep over not romanticall y exploring the connection. The INTJ is probably the rarest female type (INFJ for males) and, long-term, INTJ and ISFJ might not be the easiest match. But of course it depends on the individuals, and you've already stated that you feel there was a ton of chemistry for you guys. So maybe you're the exception to the rule.

But ISFJ are usually really sweet guys and make great friends.

[Sparkle002]

So as a male defender (i took that test years ago) I'd have to say he is most likely having serious issues in his marriage.  It takes a lot for defenders to act on relationshi ps.  Lots of guilt, bargaining, and may even go back, etc.  But once I've gotten to that point, I usually realized afterwards that the relationshi p wasn't what I wanted.  It just takes a while to get there and a lot to even consider a new relationshi p or flirting etc.

THIS. So much THIS. I was going to say that a married ISFJ isn't going to accidentall y flirt. And if he's in a good relationshi p, the conversatio n at lunch would have revolved around his wife and kids.

If the test results are correct (and it's possible that they are not), I wouldn't lose a ton of sleep over not romanticall y exploring the connection. The INTJ is probably the rarest female type (INFJ for males) and, long-term, INTJ and ISFJ might not be the easiest match. But of course it depends on the individuals, and you've already stated that you feel there was a ton of chemistry for you guys. So maybe you're the exception to the rule.

But ISFJ are usually really sweet guys and make great friends.

Youguys!! I love love that you posted this because it is so true. He is truly a sweet guy! Even the reads I’ve gotten on him there was no evidence of cheating or going outside of his marriage and he has been married 15 years. I felt energetical ly something was going on...but in the meantime I understand my readers say I am a friend and just intend to be so- he probably needs one right now.

[HornetKick]

Oh come on...people attracted to each other don't remain only good friends. I don't even know if that is possible.

[Fidget1028]

I'm a INFJ-T (Advocate)

That's me. Trying to save the world. 💪

[Sparkle002]

Oh come on...people attracted to each other don't remain only good friends. I don't even know if that is possible.

I dont either lol Im not kidding myself LOL

Delores, Barbara and Cookie saw the friendship turning into something more "of course" - maybe after I see the divorce papers who knows lol

[Sparkle002]

I'm a INFJ-T (Advocate)

That's me. Trying to save the world. 💪

Whoo hoo!

[Sparkle002]

On the next Sparkle Show...

*FLIRT*

So continuing this disappointi ng saga...the IT Director and I interact pretty much consistentl y because he is on one of my major projects. While it starts off with work talk, it ends up getting real flirty lol...but that's it. I think the committed relationshi p they saw was that we worked together not only at the same job but on the same team and on the same PROJECT.

So of course while I was completely disappointe d that this guy is legally married -- I of course reached out to Kisha, Cookie, Delores and Matilda to get an update reading specificall y about him (However, Delores RIGHT off the bat saw that we would be good friends that could turn into something more but emphasized, FRIENDS)

Right off the bat they all could tell I was highly pissed off about something - something connected to a GUY. (NO S#it)

Then literally all 3 ALLLLLL 3 said the following.. .

- They could now pick up on the kids and wife (its almost like they only know now because I NOW know...)
- They all see him being flirty with me
- They are all now saying that he will pursue a little bit more going into February and tell me about what is going on with his marriage
- They are all now saying that I WOULD NOT be in a relationshi p with this person (well except Cookie, she just said not right now...whate ver lol)
- They are ALLL now saying we would be good FRIENDS - seriously after Delores got it (Delores even got the woman and kids now too)...Barbara said this too, but Cookie, Barbara and Delores said it could turn into something more by the fall
- They all saw trouble in his marriage (including QOC)
- They all see legal issues coming up with the Wife, but dont say its a divorce - more like a separation (Indio said he would separate too)
- Specificall y, all 3 (Kisha, Cookie and Matilda) predicted a NEW guy coming in between Feb-March that is ALMOST THE SAME DESCRIPTION as the IT DIRECTOR
-Thick dark wavy curly hair, very attractive (Ive never had so many readers describe a guy as attractive this much in my life)...all the same features with the exception this guy is TALLER. THIS GUY ALSO works at MY JOB. They said he will come in as a contractor or whatever and the IT DIRECTOR WILL GET JEALOUS...l iterally of them said this.....sp ecifically Tajah and Cookie see this guy with Grayish, Greenish, Hazely eyes - Cookie said they look like they change color....we lp lol

Im just like you alll said I would be in a relationshi p with this dude and now that he is here - he is not only legally attached but its a complete FLIP lol. Like almost 8 readers got this guy down to a T, including timing, interest, looks and attractiven ess chemistry, the fact he worked with me everything. ..EXCEPT for THE DAMN WIFE....

The only thing I can think of is - he doesnt wear his ring, he doesnt even mention her (even before we started our connection) or nothing...a nd all said there is no love there or intimacy or anything (which you know who knows - I dont get that vibe either) but...anywa y

Well, all in all - he is my friend. Literally. He has apparently been looking out for me since I got this job. He told me that the first week I started he wanted to help me out and asked about me...and he did! I didnt even know. And up until this day, he has been giving me feedback and information about others on the team and everything to help me. Its actually really nice.

Anyway, apparently the other guy seems to be real and coming in...AT MY JOB. Good Grief... well at least Ill have a bit of drama to update to my story in the next coming months! lol

Until Next Time...

[Yaz88]

It’s kind of a crazy thing when something happens in real life and it turns all of these psychic readings on their heads.  It’ll be interesting to see if it ends up being a new guy or if it’s the IT Director with a “different energy around him”.   Thanks for sharing your experience, Sparkle!

[Arigirl]

It’s kind of a crazy thing when something happens in real life and it turns all of these psychic readings on their heads.  It’ll be interesting to see if it ends up being a new guy or if it’s the IT Director with a “different energy around him”.   Thanks for sharing your experience, Sparkle!

This! Thanks for sharing Sparkle!

[Piggynose]

 Thanks for sharing Sparkle!

[Sparkle002]

No problem!