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Zipocal:
So as a male defender (i took that test years ago) I'd have to say he is most likely having serious issues in his marriage. It takes a lot for defenders to act on relationships. Lots of guilt, bargaining, and may even go back, etc. But once I've gotten to that point, I usually realized afterwards that the relationship wasn't what I wanted. It just takes a while to get there and a lot to even consider a new relationship or flirting etc.
giftsdiff:
--- Quote from: Zipocal on January 26, 2020, 04:12:01 PM ---So as a male defender (i took that test years ago) I'd have to say he is most likely having serious issues in his marriage. It takes a lot for defenders to act on relationships. Lots of guilt, bargaining, and may even go back, etc. But once I've gotten to that point, I usually realized afterwards that the relationship wasn't what I wanted. It just takes a while to get there and a lot to even consider a new relationship or flirting etc.
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THIS. So much THIS. I was going to say that a married ISFJ isn't going to accidentally flirt. And if he's in a good relationship, the conversation at lunch would have revolved around his wife and kids.
If the test results are correct (and it's possible that they are not), I wouldn't lose a ton of sleep over not romantically exploring the connection. The INTJ is probably the rarest female type (INFJ for males) and, long-term, INTJ and ISFJ might not be the easiest match. But of course it depends on the individuals, and you've already stated that you feel there was a ton of chemistry for you guys. So maybe you're the exception to the rule.
But ISFJ are usually really sweet guys and make great friends.
Sparkle002:
--- Quote from: giftsdiff on January 26, 2020, 04:44:55 PM ---
--- Quote from: Zipocal on January 26, 2020, 04:12:01 PM ---So as a male defender (i took that test years ago) I'd have to say he is most likely having serious issues in his marriage. It takes a lot for defenders to act on relationships. Lots of guilt, bargaining, and may even go back, etc. But once I've gotten to that point, I usually realized afterwards that the relationship wasn't what I wanted. It just takes a while to get there and a lot to even consider a new relationship or flirting etc.
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THIS. So much THIS. I was going to say that a married ISFJ isn't going to accidentally flirt. And if he's in a good relationship, the conversation at lunch would have revolved around his wife and kids.
If the test results are correct (and it's possible that they are not), I wouldn't lose a ton of sleep over not romantically exploring the connection. The INTJ is probably the rarest female type (INFJ for males) and, long-term, INTJ and ISFJ might not be the easiest match. But of course it depends on the individuals, and you've already stated that you feel there was a ton of chemistry for you guys. So maybe you're the exception to the rule.
But ISFJ are usually really sweet guys and make great friends.
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Youguys!! I love love that you posted this because it is so true. He is truly a sweet guy! Even the reads I’ve gotten on him there was no evidence of cheating or going outside of his marriage and he has been married 15 years. I felt energetically something was going on...but in the meantime I understand my readers say I am a friend and just intend to be so- he probably needs one right now.
HornetKick:
Oh come on...people attracted to each other don't remain only good friends. I don't even know if that is possible.
Fidget1028:
I'm a INFJ-T (Advocate)
That's me. Trying to save the world. 💪
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