wow, i just got home and so many posts. let me respond individually:
@barkangel - when i first started calling psychics it was about 4 months after we got together because i started developing feelings. i totally believe what psychics told me as his actions then did match his words and i know now that he indeed had deeper feelings for me. however then something happened and he became distant, things changed and of course psychics were saying he was just having a hard time, he doesn't know how to leave the other woman (his gf) and he will leave her within few weeks, then it became months etc. so when things were not moving i did become upset and questioned a few things of course as i wanted my own validation that psychics were right about how he felt.
of course i had expectations from him to share his feelings as he never verbalised it but actions showed he had deeper feelings. and yes i agree my insecurity has put our relationship in a rough spot. i dont want to share too much details on the forum but the way things actually evolved was TOTALLY different from what psychics predicted in fact what happened NONE of the psychics picked up and to be honest it's such a huge thing that i really believe it should have been picked up by many psychics.
the thing is if you are able to be realistic and not let the psychic readings get to you then of course that is something i wish i was able to do when i was calling psychics. it's easy to say do not let anyone trump your own intuition but believe me whilst i was calling psychics for some reason i was unable to listen to my gut feeling or better said i kind of lost this ability. this however returned about 2 weeks after i stopped calling psychics. so sadly i feel like my intuition was gone completely after a few months of me calling psychics. i truly thought me and him would end up together because i was in love with him. however now i am glad i got my intuition back and yes i am totally listening to what i feel is right thing to do.
@lovelygirl = i also would only call about my job or to have a general reading. i will never be calling about love interest especially if i fall in love with someone. i'm glad thought you were able to recognise this soon enough and spared yourself a lot of sadness. i don't know but for some reason NO PSYCHIC was ever correct when it comes to love predictions. none. and i consulted way over hundred psychics. (ashamed to admit it but it's true)
@decibel diva - yes unfortunately so far i can say psychics were hundred percent wrong. there were a few who did not see us ending up together - Kisha was one of them even though many other predictions didn't happen. elizabeth3 sees me with someone else even though she believes i would be able to chose at some point (i know he will not be the one as i will not allow it anymore). Donna Maxine (another psychic from UK) was very good and her predictions are pending however she also did not see me ending up with him. so there are few who saw the negative outcome (they all saw a new man for me) but i cannot comment much as timeframes have not passed yet. all the rest was just plain wrong. i will update or try to give feedback for individual psychics. i did this on another forum already but will try and provide detailed feedback here as well soon.
@zee - yes i was thinking that too that maybe he would confess if i calmed down a bit but then again once i got to know him better i understood that he would not want to lead me on and felt that if he said i love you or got close to me i would have hopes and he was unable to leave his gf - he just couldn't do it - THOSE ARE HIS WORDS ACTUALLY... so even if he did have deeper feelings for me he would not admit this to me. by the way the example with him confessing his feelings to me is just one of many predictions where psychics were just wrong. it is hard to let go when you are strongly in love and you feel the other person feels same way - i wasn't even thinking about letting go to be honest. it's same as if i tell someone who just started having readings - please don't have any because i've been there just cut the contact and start healing = i would not even listen to this person a year ago. i would continue callling psychics and having this hope that one day he would leave her and be with me.
and yes i wanted him to confess i really did.
but there were other predictions i didn't pay much attention to. only when after a year i relistened to my readings i realised ok well this never happened or that didn't happen either- those are the ones i forgot about, didn't obsess yet to this date they all failed to manifest. so sometimes even letting go won't bring you what you want. if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. that's how i see things now. i just had to accept it.
but you are very right we ARE INFLUENCED BY OUR THOUGHTS in fact our thoughts are often the direct cause of our depression. i have changed the way i think there were several books that helped me so my thinking is mostly positive or if it is negative i make sure i turn any thought that is negative to positive. i have been doing this daily for some time now and it's powerful. but doesn't change the fact that things didn't happen. even those that i didn't obsess about and just let go. it just wasn't meant to be and i take it as i believe i'm supposed to be with someone else not with my ex. only future will tell.
@bark - i do have faith but DEFINITELY NOT IN PSYCHICS. my faith now turned to God and i do regret having readings in the first place. but this is my opinion only. i'm not telling people to believe or not to believe. i'm sharing my experience for others who are in similar situation. for them to see that they are not alone, that there is nothing wrong with them, and that there are ways how to let go and heal. but most importantly i wanna share my experience so that others are able to recognise when they are becoming addicted to psychcis and have the strength to stop. because if you were never in the same situation where you call psychics almost daily then those people will never understand the harm it can actually cause. so my intention is not to bash psychics but to try and help others.
@bstalling mentioned a very interesting point:how much one just has to have faith and "let things happen" before one realizes that its...never going to happen. this is another thing why i wanted to share my story - becasue it took over 2 years. 2 years wasted and so much money spent. i should have realised time ago that it was never going to happen the way i wanted it. but we all learn from our mistakes.
by the way the guy is still in my life, we do see each other daily (due to some circumstance) but we are civil with each other now. in my situation it is sadly not possible to just cut contact. the only reason why i have been able to move on now and try to let go is because i have opened my eyes, started to see things the way they are and now i know that it won't happen. i hit the rock bottom and decided that life does go on and i have to get on with my life best i can.
@bark
I'll answer these.
If reality starkly draws an alternative picture than the one given in readings, one has to go with your own intuition. If that intuition says reality is correct - you don't need readings. If that intuition suggests that all is not as it appears and your hunch is that there is reason to have hope, then one does so with faith that your own intuition will not fail you..... and again, no readings are necessary if your intuition reflects the predictions being given. So, either way, readings are not really necessary. And I don't think anyone is suggesting they are.this is all good of course only if you are NOT ADDICTED TO READINGS. many many people are addicted to psychic readings. i was addicted, in love and obsessed - you could be standing next to me telling me to listen to my intuition and act on it i would not listen to you and still think and say that you were wrong. that's how blinded i got at one point during my psychic craze. when you are not addicted and see things clearly like i can see now then yes i agree with you. a year ago i would be arguing with you about this because I WAS ADDICTED TO PSYCHIC READINGS. i had to have a reading "just to make sure his feelings haven't changed" how sad was that. readings made me feel better. they calmed me down. i was able to go to sleep because reader told me how my ex was coming back.
i was jealous (i didn't show it to him but inside i was hurting bad) and i did ask for answers but not in crazy way, when i said i got jealous and crazy over him it was happening inside me. not on the outside. i did cause arguments because i asked a few times things that i should not have asked. i did get upset more easily, i got irritated more etc. so it had affect on our relationship which caused arguments. i lost my confidence and inner peace over this. i am great now and have been for some time.
and of course my actions could have altered the outcome however explain why other things i did not obsess over failed to manifest as well. even if i didn't act the way i acted something happened that made it impossible for him to leave the girl even a year ago. unfortunately NOBODY saw this coming and if HE DID LEAVE HER then i would have lost all respect for him and leave him because i would not trust that he would not leave me if i was in the same situation (i will not post what happened if someone wants to know they can pm me) but believe me i KNOW he would not leave her even if i never argued with him over this one thing that happened. plus he very recently confirmed this to me verbally. so yes i believe psychics should have seen this coming. out of hundreds at least one! but none of them did. none.
also:
Clearly here sagitira took matters in her own hands. She countermanded the advice of her readers.
no i did not countermanded advise of my readers. their advise was all different. some advised me to pull away, some asked me to confront him and some said not to do a thing.
of course i will take matters in my own hands - from now on i will always do that.
sorry guys i haven't finished all the posts i'm totally out have to have some sleep but i will read the rest and try to respond to all questions or comments about my story.
the good thing is i was able to recognise my addiction to psychics, see the reality for what it was and stop the crazy calling. since then i have been happy. i haven't cried once (i used to cry every day over him) and i feel like i started living again. yes i'm very angry with psychics because of what i have gone through. if others believe and want to believe in psychics they can. we all have our own beliefs so if you believe psychics are right and can see the future then by all means do. i am only pointing out that believing and waiting for predictions to happen can have devastating effects on people's emotional and physical wellbeing. when i see someone positing that prediction happened - even small one i feel happy for that person. sadly psychics only proved to me that they cannot see futures since things failed to manifest - not only about my love life but also about my family (no way i could affect anything and my family doesn't get readings so they never knew i had readings so how could i affect those predictions?) also about my health and my job - not a single prediction happened. i'm not even sad about it. i am happy as i have learnt a lot and will try to help all others who are suffering same way and need emotional help or support as i cannot bear to see others going through same pain i had gone through. i do not wish this upon anyone.
i wll try and post more tomorrow i'm sorry if i haven't responded to other posts i just havent' read them yet
good nite everyone (for me is night anyway)
