Mine took 6-8 months to play out but others I know took as much as 3 - 4 years.
I was doing something menial earlier so I listened to my reading again earlier, like really listened to it.
I came to two conclusions. My shadow card was an apology. NO ONE owes me an apology but my most recent ex. I’m sure it’s that son of a bitch. It has to be. 1) I don’t foresee myself letting another man ever treat/talk to me again the way he did, 2) Yona didn’t necessarily indicate the apology would lead to a relationship (that was my wishful thinking at the time but now listening with a clearer head I realize it’s a possibility not an absolute), 3) it lines up word for word with what Cookie “sees” which is much more bleak and realistic and 4) Yona didn’t see any other men/contenders in the picture because I’m focused on myself and my growth/healing and that’s exactly what I’m feeling right now.
The other conclusion I came to is this seems a ways off. At the time of the reading Yona mentioned the flirting and trips and how he’ll see how I changed and I’m stronger. And I’m thinking “he’ll yeah I changed, I’m a strong bad ass chick!” We had only been broken up like a month and a half and never really went no contact. How could I had grown and changed and gotten stronger? I didn’t. I thought I had. I think the real growth and strength and change and the new SB he is going to see is going to be the one he encounters months down the road when he comes back with his apology and sweet talk out of the blue that both Yona and Cookie see and bad ass SB is like “Ok, I see ya, I can even be the bigger person and accept your apology but I ain’t having your shit.”
It’s funny cause when I read with Yona he and I were GOOD and I expected things to happen like boom boom boom and that was not the case. This is going to be long, arduous and if I’m honest probably more on the bleaker end like Cookie states.
Sadly, neither Cookie nor Yona saw a new man for me and Yona specifically called this the right man at the wrong time. FML. 🤷🏻♀️