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How long have you guys been “waiting”?

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russianred:
Right, and I don't know the situation, but it's possible he thinks of contacting you but doesn't want to "bother" you or thinks that HE won't get a response.  I think you have everything to gain by sending a neutral olive-branch type message that puts the ball in his court.  I remember reading a post on here from someone who never contacted POI on the advice of psychics and then later found out through mutual friends that he would have been interested had she reached out (who knows, but still).  You said it seems like he's been unwell, so you could even frame it as you checking on how he's doing, too.

Are you not reaching out because of the psychics' advice or more because you would rather not?

Realrealwater:

--- Quote from: russianred on May 07, 2020, 01:43:47 PM ---Right, and I don't know the situation, but it's possible he thinks of contacting you but doesn't want to "bother" you or thinks that HE won't get a response.  I think you have everything to gain by sending a neutral olive-branch type message that puts the ball in his court.  I remember reading a post on here from someone who never contacted POI on the advice of psychics and then later found out through mutual friends that he would have been interested had she reached out (who knows, but still).  You said it seems like he's been unwell, so you could even frame it as you checking on how he's doing, too.

Are you not reaching out because of the psychics' advice or more because you would rather not?

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Sincity2:
I waited about a year and a half before i decided it was officially over. I stopped getting readings and started focusing on other things in my life.

I honestly cannot believe I pined after someone for so long. I had a very strong connection to him, but looking back, all the signs were there that it wouldn’t amount to anything.

I got reading after reading, sometimes several a day, telling me we were going to be together.

I just wish I could get back some of the money I wasted.

bee.23:
I GET YOU!

And you will come out the other side of this stronger. I wish I had only been “waiting 5 months”. I’ve been waiting 1 year and 5 months. So if anyone understands your pain it’s me, and I still have not overcome the love and nostalgia. It’s a natural human emotion that we face. I’m giving myself to the end of the year and if things don’t change in my situation I’ll let go of this too. It’s embarrassing to me I haven’t been able to disconnect after so much time, but I truly felt he was and is my soulmate. I got over my other ex in 2-3 months, so the fact I still feel this deeply after so long was entirely unexpected. The only thing that brings me peace is to know my ex can’t fully let go of me either, because he’s stated it, and contacted me multiple times throughout the year and 5 months. So you never know the reality of what someone feels (in your case your ex). The stories from people on here are kind of my saving grace, cause it reminds me I’m not the only one pining after an ex for years, and people worldwide experience these same feelings. Everyone moves and heals at their own pace. Say whatever you feel like you need to say your final piece to this guy in order to come to terms with this all, I suggest doing so. The fact he hasn’t blocked you or removed you on that online stuff is proof enough he doesn’t hate you or want you gone.  Always do whatever brings you the most peace and emotional wellness. I am sorry you are experiencing the debilitating grief that the majority of us do as well, which is why this forum is great for stories like yours, and all of us coming together to support each other through our process.

Please be safe where you live ❤️

Ninacy:
I'm embarrassed to admit that I waited for my ex around 2,5 years before I gave up waiting and asking psychics about him. The things that seem strange and dumb to me when I saw them in others happened to me worse. I got failed timeline after timeline and I realized I spend a small fortune on psychics when I could easily buy a small car with all that money and hopes wasted. There were less than 10 psychics that told me he would not contact me again and that I should not wait for him. Everyone else was wrong.


It's good to feel that there so many other folks who have been in a similar situation. You can't tell these things to your family, friends, or even therapist cause they'll think you are nuts for asking psychics and stuff about an ex you are obsessed with. I was raised in a strict orthodox home and if they found out about my psychic addition, they would get a priest to exorcise me or something lol. Really glad there are online forums like this or I would go nuts indeed.

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