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Time to allow the Wheel of Fortune to Spin
maggs30:
I'm so sorry Yaz. You know how to reach me if you want to bitch cry and scream.
SomethingBetter:
I’m sorry Yaz. No, they don’t see everything. They, and we, often assume something is happening with a particular person and in actuality it’s someone or something else. Only the universe knows, and it always seems to get the last laugh.
I’m going through something similar, as far as I can tell, I think what I originally called about is over. And while I have a new man who treats me fairly well, I go through this daily (ok maybe every other day or two) cognitive dissonance of knowing the readers were only partly right and I have someone new and should be happy to being sad, angry and uncomfortable that things as of now and as far as I can see aren’t happening as I was told.
Please take a break and allow yourself some healing time. I’m glad you haven’t binged.
I hope you get some healing.
beachgal214:
you already know this but I could have written this myself.
I am sending you all the detachment vibes, peaceful vibes, moving on vibes, distractment vibes - anything that can help your heart heal.
you too will find that peace again. and you will not let him back in. I dont understand relationships like this - but youre spot on with the addiction piece- I know it well.
I know right now it feels impossible --but you have picked yourself up from this exact place before and got to a healthy place of healing-- you will do this again.
focus on your work, your life, and know that we dont have all the answers, we dont know why these toxic people come in, we dont know why we are addicted to them, but it may not be something we need to understand now. so dont beat yourself up on the why's, the how's, the why did I believe hims...
youre being shown another example of how he makes you feel so that you never let him in in that way again. not to say never, but... not in those circumstances.
love hurts. addiction hurts. but you can feel better.
take this time to feel, to feel through the pain, and allow yourself to heal.
I feel everything you said and I am sorry youre going through this. But I know you are so incredibly strong and will be on the other side. Good luck and I am here if you need anything.
russianred:
Yaz, I'm so sorry that this man coming back into your life brought about such imbalance and depression. I am happy for you that you were able to make the head over heart decision that you know is the right one for you -- and the only one that asserts your own sense of self-worth. You know that continuing with him, as good as it feels in the moment, is only going to lead to more binges and you questioning your decisions. Stay strong.
I dealt with a similar situation this week where "he" snuck back in a bit and I had to draw a line in the sand once again. It hurts.
I hope the King of Cups enters your life soon. Feel free to message me if you need to talk.
Yaz88:
To everything there is a season. I’m finally ready to allow this season of my life to close. Yaz88 will always remind me of the POI that caused me to join this forum, the mistake I made with him that I couldn’t fix, and the emptiness that remains in my life that he used to fill. These old patterns of mine need to stop. I need to stop chasing after the “what might have been” and fully accept the “what currently is”. He’s gone. He’s not coming back. It didn’t work out with us. Whatever happened between us was so negative for him he chose to leave our friendship. I can’t fix it. I can’t make him be a different person. I can’t make him be a man who is loyal to me and patient with me, one who chooses to stay and work things out. He’s not that man. He’s not anyone other than who he is. People are who people are, not who we want them to be and not always who we thought they were or hoped they’d become.
With that said, once I figure out how to close my account on here, Yaz88 will join the others in the catacombs of this forum. Someday I may rejoin under a different username, but Yaz88’s tenure in this forum is over.
So, ten months later who was right about this situation with the POI who caused me to join this forum?
Kisha, when specifically asked about him in late June, said he was not prevalent in my future.
Karenjo in late August said he’d stay stuck in some hole for as long as she could see with no movement forward.
EffieK said I’d never hear from him again due to his own embarrassment for how he reacted and that he felt bad for himself and would evade me to save himself from looking like a fool.
InfiniteStar said he moved on, but I may hear from him in March, but he’s not going to be anything more than a disappointment.
MagicSong in November, that he doesn’t know what action to take when it comes to me, he’s conflicted, so he ends up evading the entire situation.
There are pending predictions for the next few months, but I cannot believe they will happen.
So, I wish you all the best of luck. Remember that you were once happy before you ever even knew of your POI’s existence, and you will be happy once again. Any POI that causes you to get multiple psychic readings probably is toxic to your well-being and something needs to change or heal before a relationship with that person will ever work. Those who want to be in your life are actually in your life, give them priority over someone who chooses to not be around.
Much love, Yaz.
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