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Readers keep saying his feelings are so strong he cant be with me..(what?)
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:06:17 AM ---
--- Quote from: dascallie on August 05, 2019, 02:46:14 AM ---I'm thinking it's not true.
I mean, in life we know actions tell the story---how can someone with such * strong* feelings never reach out, for months and months?
But my real question is why do literally dozens of psychics tell me this same thing--when we have had zero contact for 10 months?
Are they just being irresponsible---are they just reading my wants?
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By the same token, they could be literally dying to speak to you but lack the courage to do so. To gauge how someone is feeling just by their lack of contact/effort is tricky, IMHO. Especially with factors such as so much time has passed since the last point of communication, how badly things ended, who initiated the breakup/no-contact. I know logic tells us ''this person couldn't care less because if they did, they'd reach out by now!'' but sometimes that is just our own fears and insecurities taking over and magnifying things. This is why I always say discernment is needed.
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Yes! With the first person I dated, we were out of contact for 6 months. I wanted to reach out several times but didn’t because he clearly told me that he couldn’t like me like I liked him. That is was only physical for him 🙃 Like obviously I would make a fool of myself for begging him to come back.
Then 6 months later he sent me this long paragraph stating he regretted his decisions, that he had felt bad for several months but didn’t know how to reach out. The reconciliation didn’t last long which was my decision but he did come back.
Now not every person is like this and I don’t recommend to continue to reach out to someone who doesn’t even give you breadcrumbs but not every man is going to act on his feelings like so many people think. They hesitate too, even if they’re the reason you ended.
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:38:10 AM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 05, 2019, 03:30:07 AM ---
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:06:17 AM ---
--- Quote from: dascallie on August 05, 2019, 02:46:14 AM ---I'm thinking it's not true.
I mean, in life we know actions tell the story---how can someone with such * strong* feelings never reach out, for months and months?
But my real question is why do literally dozens of psychics tell me this same thing--when we have had zero contact for 10 months?
Are they just being irresponsible---are they just reading my wants?
--- End quote ---
By the same token, they could be literally dying to speak to you but lack the courage to do so. To gauge how someone is feeling just by their lack of contact/effort is tricky, IMHO. Especially with factors such as so much time has passed since the last point of communication, how badly things ended, who initiated the breakup/no-contact. I know logic tells us ''this person couldn't care less because if they did, they'd reach out by now!'' but sometimes that is just our own fears and insecurities taking over and magnifying things. This is why I always say discernment is needed.
--- End quote ---
Yes! With the first person I dated, we were out of contact for 6 months. I wanted to reach out several times but didn’t because he clearly told me that he couldn’t like me like I liked him. That is was only physical for him 🙃 Like obviously I would make a fool of myself for begging him to come back.
Then 6 months later he sent me this long paragraph stating he regretted his decisions, that he had felt bad for several months but didn’t know how to reach out. The reconciliation didn’t last long which was my decision but he did come back.
Now not every person is like this and I don’t recommend to continue to reach out to someone who doesn’t even give you breadcrumbs but not every man is going to act on his feelings like so many people think. They hesitate too, even if they’re the reason you ended.
--- End quote ---
In my case, I couldn't continue with this silence nonsense so I reached out after almost 8 months. I got an apology too. They were scared I wouldn't speak to them so that is why, although they have been thinking of reaching out for weeks not, didn't take action. A particular reader I trusted told me that by me walking away I had taken the power back and they always told me POI would be the one to reach out but as the timeline got closer all I was told was ''soon'' yet when I reached out it seemed unlikely that it would've happened as the reader said. I don't know if I altered or even broke the timeline given by reaching out but by doing so I got even more than the reading promised, because they never told me this person would apologize at all. Me taking the risk paid off as we both got closure about what had transpired last year.
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Did you reach out for closure or for reconciliation?
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:46:09 AM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 05, 2019, 03:41:35 AM ---
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:38:10 AM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 05, 2019, 03:30:07 AM ---
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:06:17 AM ---
--- Quote from: dascallie on August 05, 2019, 02:46:14 AM ---I'm thinking it's not true.
I mean, in life we know actions tell the story---how can someone with such * strong* feelings never reach out, for months and months?
But my real question is why do literally dozens of psychics tell me this same thing--when we have had zero contact for 10 months?
Are they just being irresponsible---are they just reading my wants?
--- End quote ---
By the same token, they could be literally dying to speak to you but lack the courage to do so. To gauge how someone is feeling just by their lack of contact/effort is tricky, IMHO. Especially with factors such as so much time has passed since the last point of communication, how badly things ended, who initiated the breakup/no-contact. I know logic tells us ''this person couldn't care less because if they did, they'd reach out by now!'' but sometimes that is just our own fears and insecurities taking over and magnifying things. This is why I always say discernment is needed.
--- End quote ---
Yes! With the first person I dated, we were out of contact for 6 months. I wanted to reach out several times but didn’t because he clearly told me that he couldn’t like me like I liked him. That is was only physical for him 🙃 Like obviously I would make a fool of myself for begging him to come back.
Then 6 months later he sent me this long paragraph stating he regretted his decisions, that he had felt bad for several months but didn’t know how to reach out. The reconciliation didn’t last long which was my decision but he did come back.
Now not every person is like this and I don’t recommend to continue to reach out to someone who doesn’t even give you breadcrumbs but not every man is going to act on his feelings like so many people think. They hesitate too, even if they’re the reason you ended.
--- End quote ---
In my case, I couldn't continue with this silence nonsense so I reached out after almost 8 months. I got an apology too. They were scared I wouldn't speak to them so that is why, although they have been thinking of reaching out for weeks not, didn't take action. A particular reader I trusted told me that by me walking away I had taken the power back and they always told me POI would be the one to reach out but as the timeline got closer all I was told was ''soon'' yet when I reached out it seemed unlikely that it would've happened as the reader said. I don't know if I altered or even broke the timeline given by reaching out but by doing so I got even more than the reading promised, because they never told me this person would apologize at all. Me taking the risk paid off as we both got closure about what had transpired last year.
--- End quote ---
Did you reach out for closure or for reconciliation?
--- End quote ---
Both. I always left the door open for at least friendship (who am I kidding, really ::) ) but to be honest, I reached out that day more than anything because it suddenly hit me that if I didn't take action, even if this meant disrespecting my boundaries somewhat, I would never hear from this person again. I wanted to at least see if there was a possibility of being in each others lives because when I walked away I left the door open to being friends once I had healed from what had happened.
--- End quote ---
Isn’t is strange how you can both feel that way but still nothing happens? Closure is more than most people get though so I’m glad you go that apology! Sometimes relationships don’t work but that doesn’t mean either is a bad person because of it :)
Girly1998:
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:55:28 AM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 05, 2019, 03:52:41 AM ---
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:46:09 AM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 05, 2019, 03:41:35 AM ---
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:38:10 AM ---
--- Quote from: Girly1998 on August 05, 2019, 03:30:07 AM ---
--- Quote from: oceanmoonlight on August 05, 2019, 03:06:17 AM ---
--- Quote from: dascallie on August 05, 2019, 02:46:14 AM ---I'm thinking it's not true.
I mean, in life we know actions tell the story---how can someone with such * strong* feelings never reach out, for months and months?
But my real question is why do literally dozens of psychics tell me this same thing--when we have had zero contact for 10 months?
Are they just being irresponsible---are they just reading my wants?
--- End quote ---
By the same token, they could be literally dying to speak to you but lack the courage to do so. To gauge how someone is feeling just by their lack of contact/effort is tricky, IMHO. Especially with factors such as so much time has passed since the last point of communication, how badly things ended, who initiated the breakup/no-contact. I know logic tells us ''this person couldn't care less because if they did, they'd reach out by now!'' but sometimes that is just our own fears and insecurities taking over and magnifying things. This is why I always say discernment is needed.
--- End quote ---
Yes! With the first person I dated, we were out of contact for 6 months. I wanted to reach out several times but didn’t because he clearly told me that he couldn’t like me like I liked him. That is was only physical for him 🙃 Like obviously I would make a fool of myself for begging him to come back.
Then 6 months later he sent me this long paragraph stating he regretted his decisions, that he had felt bad for several months but didn’t know how to reach out. The reconciliation didn’t last long which was my decision but he did come back.
Now not every person is like this and I don’t recommend to continue to reach out to someone who doesn’t even give you breadcrumbs but not every man is going to act on his feelings like so many people think. They hesitate too, even if they’re the reason you ended.
--- End quote ---
In my case, I couldn't continue with this silence nonsense so I reached out after almost 8 months. I got an apology too. They were scared I wouldn't speak to them so that is why, although they have been thinking of reaching out for weeks not, didn't take action. A particular reader I trusted told me that by me walking away I had taken the power back and they always told me POI would be the one to reach out but as the timeline got closer all I was told was ''soon'' yet when I reached out it seemed unlikely that it would've happened as the reader said. I don't know if I altered or even broke the timeline given by reaching out but by doing so I got even more than the reading promised, because they never told me this person would apologize at all. Me taking the risk paid off as we both got closure about what had transpired last year.
--- End quote ---
Did you reach out for closure or for reconciliation?
--- End quote ---
Both. I always left the door open for at least friendship (who am I kidding, really ::) ) but to be honest, I reached out that day more than anything because it suddenly hit me that if I didn't take action, even if this meant disrespecting my boundaries somewhat, I would never hear from this person again. I wanted to at least see if there was a possibility of being in each others lives because when I walked away I left the door open to being friends once I had healed from what had happened.
--- End quote ---
Isn’t is strange how you can both feel that way but still nothing happens? Closure is more than most people get though so I’m glad you go that apology! Sometimes relationships don’t work but that doesn’t mean either is a bad person because of it :)
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It is sad but, that's life I think. If you give your everything and something still doesn't work out, at least you're left with the knowledge that there wasn't anything else you could've done differently to alter the outcome. More and more I believe that what is meant for you will simply not pass you by.
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What’s meant for you will never pass you, absolutely. If there’s a will there’s a way. Just keep reminding yourself that if it’s supposed to happen, even if it’s 15 years from now, then it will.
psychic girls:
Those are stock line that they will give to anyone.
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