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A long tale of woe, warning and hope!

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Waterminx:
I have never been so glad to see a website in all my life!!!
THANKYOU for being here.

OK - my story.

In 2003 - I was a (happily) single woman with a massive career - lots and lots of travel
all over the world, a beautiful home, two cars, a loving family, great friends and ... money!

I was a strong, independent, woman - proud of my achievements. Straight talking, straight thinking
and had gotten where I was by my own efforts - sheer hard work.

But there were a few clouds on my horizon.
I had been single for over 20years and starting to feel I wanted someone in my life.
I had been taken off the contraceptive pill I had been on for 27 years (its a mood enhancer
ladies - something I didnt know).
I had given up a really bad smoking habit and started to put on weight.
I began to realise I was being bullied by my boss and Work was going wrong for me.
I was pre-menopausal. Oh lovely!!

Quite a recipe for disaster!!! The medical profession failed miserably to identify the depression
that resulted and I started a steep and profound decline in all areas.

Then, two key things happened.

One, I started to see a man who was not free, not married, but in a long term relationship
he had no intention of leaving.

Two - I started phoning psychics. I dont even remember why. (I used to collect Tarot Cards
perhaps thats what started me off...)


In time, the man went by the wayside of course - I finally got the strength to dump him for
once and for all. Even then most psychics tried to convince me otherwise. They were
instrumental in my hanging on for four years! FOUR! I subsequently found out things about
him that no one - I mean NO ONE picked up on. Big things too.

I was, by then, spending £3000+ per month on psychics.

After four years I had nothing. I lost my home, my job and am in such debt my credit is ruined.
I now havent opened my post for nearly a year, I am too darn scared.
I have put terrible strain on my family and friendships. Let alone the strain and stress
I have put on myself!

There is no doubt in my mind that, without the 'help' I was paying a small fortune for, I would
NEVER have put up with what he put me through. I most certainly would not have stuck it out for four
years.

Two years after that ended I got into another - better - relationship. But one that didnt last.
Again it would have been done and finished 18 months ago if it wasnt for me listening to psychics
advice! They are still telling me he will be back by christmas!

No he wont.

I work hard and long hours at a badly paid job at the moment - I am lucky to have one at all.
I live hand to mouth. I hardly go out and live from pay day to pay day.
My world has shrunk.
Having a poor credit history affects every aspect of my life - including getting a better paid job.

Even now I still somehow manage to find £1000 a month to call these blasted people.
I could be out of debt right now if I re-directed that money to the right places!!

WHY??? WHAT HAPPENED TO ME??

I seem to have become totally dependent on their opinion or advice, some of which has been
disasterous not only with my relationships - but to my career too.
Even though I KNOW THIS - I am still going back?!

I now realise I have an addiction which I am finding difficult to break free from.

But I am determined to get myself back on track and try to pick the best bits from the
rubble of my life. This is going to be tough but it has to happen.

I have hit rock bottom - but now realise (rather cynically) that for many readers - it pays
to help keep me that way! We dont call them when we are happy. We dont call them when our
relationships are fabulous and working out. We dont call them when our career is riding
high. We call them when we have a problem - whatever that might be - a lack of confidence
in some area of our lives. They prey on that lack of confidence. It simply isnt in their
interests for us to be in a good place!

So - I have alot of experience of many CP readers over 8 years.

I have been guilty of putting good feedback on the site for readers after a particularly
happy call or when a small prediction came about. In hindsight, I now realise that these
'predictions' were just inevitable outcomes of a particular situation - there was little
in the way of true 'prediction' at all.

Now I know how little they are paid - it also explains why I have been on calls where I can
hear the reader is eating, drinking, doing chores, coping with their children/pets
or tapping away on their computer while speaking with me!!


After all this - theres a few things of which I am sure and a few experiences I can share.
If it saves you a few dollars, then this has been worth the effort.


I would really like to advise you to stop. Dont consult psychics at all.

If thats possible - do it. Do it now. Save your money. Live your life and take each
day as the adventure it should be. Trust your own instincts.

Like I used to.

For those who, like me, will keep calling - for a while at least...do it with your eyes open.

First of all, you must know most are not psychic at all. No way. Thats MOST of them guys -
no matter how much you are paying for them. Some are even dreadful at reading people
and simple counselling. 

So most people purporting to be 'psychic' are counsellors. But sometimes, when they
are good at it, it does little harm and maybe thats what you actually need. Its when
they are required to predict an outcome that they come unstuck - this is where it goes
off the rails and some pretty poor/bad/dangerous advice gets given.

Theres a big difference between an opinion, a bit of advice and a prediction.
After discussing a situation how many have told you what 'he' should do or needs to do...
 but not what he WILL do? Thats an opinion - an observation - and it doesnt take a psychic
to do that!

Some have a 'theme' - if you watch their videos you will pick up on their personal
bug bears. For example, with Miss Krystal its 'fear'. She will start in on that very
quickly in a reading "What are you afraid of in this situation".

Others are just great to chat to. Some, frankly, thats all they actually DO! Jean, for example
has never - but never - actually attempted to give me a real 'reading' or predictions.
Nothing resembling the kind of discussion you would expect with a psychic. Lots of sympathy
and empathy but not a 'reading'.


There are people out there with a gift. Of that I am in no doubt. But they are few and far
between. There are a few very good Tarot Card readers too. Even so - When it comes to
predictions, take care of the self-fulfilling prophecy. Dont MAKE it happen and credit a
psychic for being accurate!
 
When you call a 'psychic' - for whatever reason. Tell them nothing. Give nothing away in your
voice or attitude. Prepare your question and keep it simple - stay as upbeat as possible.

Take notes - not just of what they tell you - but of what they ASK you and end the call without
explanation the mement you realise you are being led a dance.

NEVER tell a psychic that you recently ended a relationship - they will always tell you that
the person will be back. Wait to see if they 'pick it up'.

Career questions can really stump them. Dont get specific. The fakers will pump you for info.

If you feel you have had a good reading - go over it in your mind - did you give them clues?
Have you just had what you feel or said simply re-packaged and fed back to you?
'Fishing' for info takes many forms - from straight out questioning to giving a broad response
or statement and seek confirmation they are on the right tracks.

Dont be tempted to fill any silences with information. Michelle uses silence - alot.

$6.50 is a shed load of money just to be told to 'light a candle', chant something positive or
to write your desires on a piece of paper and burn/bury/put under your pillow!

Watch too for the psychic who claims they told you something would happen - 'remember, I said that, I told you that would happen'... then ask you to leave a testimonial. Jayzie has a habit for that.
 

Remember that:
we ALL feel we've had a tough time in our lives
Women feel ALL men have 'problems with commitment' especially if you are in a relationship
that isnt working
We all feel we are not valued enough at work
We all feel we are not rewarded enough for the work we do
We've ALL got baggage
You are likely to be in a relationship that isnt working, has just ended or just started - it
doesnt take much to find out which applies to you!


I have been developing and following these little home made 'rules' for a few months now - they are
helping me wean myself off making these calls.

The following current CP readers are people who I have spoken to in the most recent past, some more than others. They are now PERMANENTLY OFF my list of psychics to call - for very good reason. 
In no particular order:

Sabrina, Maryanne, Meryl, Karmystic, Kallista, Venus, Jean, Danni, Jayzie, D'Arcy, Angel, Diamond,
Michelle, Shauna, Trinity, Shamira, Eve, Bridget, Mercedes, Abigail, Winter, Maggie, Naveah, Marin,
Violet, Tammy, Taylor, Miss Krystal, Teva, Josslyn, Lalita, William, Gennessa, Kyra, Samadi, Kelli,
Brendalynn, Scarlett, Paige, Teagan, Phoebe, Elijah, Rianne, Elizabeth, Zofeya,Amelia, Lucrecia, Lori,
Hearn, Rogers, Gail, Linda, Sara, Clarissa, Leah, Mary Frances, Ivy, Anya Dawn, Julia, Alison, Rianne,
Donna, Eve, Kinsey, Dezi, Ginger, Leo.


Where I have a particular story to tell about any of these - I may add on this site under the
name topic. You will note there are very few high price psychics in that list. Thats because I cannot
book myself onto the inevitable queue. Thankgoodness!!

Also - I have found that price is no indicator of a true gift.

I am wavering about Abigail, Abrielle, Jacqueline and Catherine - who I like as people but not 100%
convinced about.

The people I would recommend to others:

LIAM - I found Liam to be very good to talk to and I would do again, if I can catch him. But I dont
regard him as a predictive reader - I think of him as a good sounding board.

SILVER  - I have been reading with her for years, a Tarot reader. Shes good and a number of her
predictions with regard to work, in particular, have come about.

PEYTON - Called her recently for the first time and was impressed. But a second reading is always
the real test!

VICKI-JOY - I havent called her for a while but I have always found her to be quick, accurate and
focussed. I believe she has something.


Finally - at the start of this miserable journey - years ago - I spoke with a psychic called Amethyst at CP.  When I asked her about my relationship - she said - and I quoter her word for word:
 "All I can see is financial loss. Serious financial loss".

I didnt listen. In fact - I ended the call!!

I didnt want to hear it - it seemed so totally unbelieveable at the time - I dismissed it.
She is no longer with CP and I wish I could find her. She was the ONLY one that
ever got it right, really truly right.

Just goes to show though. Even if you find someone thats the real deal and who gets it right -
it can be hard to hear the truth......

Wishing you all the very best and thankyou for reading this far!!!

Cheers
Waterminx

4everhopeful:
Hello Waterminx, I am so sorry for your troubles and especially since it seems they were brought about by the psychics themselves. Shame on them for continuing to encourage you, as they did me, for a relationship that was never going to happen. I held on for 3 years and wasted so much money in that timeframe. I also missed out on several very nice gentlemen as the psychics were telling me that they were only a diversion until "my soumate" would return. Yeah right. Thats why he's with someone now and has been for over a year now. This relationship he is in was supposed to end months ago. As far as I know, its still going strong. Even though they described him so well, he never got in contact with me as they said he would. And he certainly has never indicated in any way that he wants even a friendship with me. I feel so foolish and even went to the Wahm forum where the psychics talk to each other and asked for help. I had several offers but only one lady offered her help free of charge. And she has helped me. She does claim to be psychic but also told me that used to be a paid counselor. In her first free email to me, she said she doesnt think I will ever see this man again. And if by chance that I would, that I would only feel pity for him at that time. I dont know that her predictions mean anything and Im not holding onto them. But she is a very nice lady and she helped me tremendously to start my recovery and to stop calling the hotlines. It may be just her counseling talents but maybe thats what I truly needed. I wish you luck in ceasing to call any psychics. If you would like the info on this lady I told you about, please feel free to contact me. She does have a website and told me she charges only about one or two dollars a minute. Maybe she could help you to move on also and to stop calling the expensive psychics. Good luck to you and many blessings.

Libra:

--- Quote ---Whatever happens in my life will happen with or without a psychic reading
--- End quote ---

So true 4everhopefull. We all need to hear that.

loveblooms:
Thanks for sharing your experience Waterminx. You have been through a lot, I hope things are getting better for you now. wow you have read with several psychics, please do share your experience with them, that will help us too.

Waterminx:
I have indeed, Loveblooms - this is just the folks I have spoken with since May this year!
Many others have gone by the wayside I am afraid.
AND only from CP - it doesnt include the two UK sites I use. 
Things are on the up - I am still hooked, unfortunately but... not so bad as I was.

Improving...

:-)

Will add what I can where I can when I can.
Ta
Diane

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