Relationship Psychology Discussions > The Vent

.

(1/6) > >>

candiednut:
.

star1:
My genuine and honest feedback is naturally I am a very negative person, like I always worry and think the worst of things.. I worked hard this year to be positive and visualise my ex come back, I even told myself "he will be back, but in his right timing", I did many exercises that was advised of me and he didn't come back. That's not to say that anyone on here who believes in it is wrong and it's bad.. You ask 50 people if they believe in LOA and some will say they do and others say they won't. I know what works for me and I believe that what is meant to be will be. I have began trying to be better and look at the positives in every negative to a situation to help myself, it took alot of time but I am getting better in that sense. That's just me and my imput. But thanks for a helpful post.

Something that genuinely confuses me is the more negative I am, the more things seem to happen. So if I have a fallout with a guy and I think "he'll unblock me and regret what he did soon", he never did. Whereas someone else I stopped talking to who we just used each other once as a rebound I thought "oh God. This is done, we are never going to talk again", keeps contacting me 18 months on. This has happened multiple times. The more negative I am, the more things happen which is weird but honestly true. So I learned not to be hopeful anymore to get my hopes up. I leave things be and let things unfold now instead of having hope.

star1:

--- Quote from: candiednut on December 20, 2018, 05:19:52 PM ---@star - Thats what my post was about. I don't believe positive thinking works (at least not in the way people think)...most people that do positive thinking are just in denial. You can chant 'I am rich I am rich" all day and have nothing change because your subconscious (which is responsible for 90% of our manifesting) does not believe that.

The reason your "negative thinking" worked is because you had no resistance to it NOT working. So ironically by being negative, you actually released more resistance.

The only time that positive thinking DOES work is if you have very little resistance to begin with, or if its on a topic that you have very little resistance about (like finding a parking space).

But most of us have a ton of resistance to big topics like career, big dreams coming true and relationships...There are a lot of ancestral/familiar energies in there too that need to be released.

--- End quote ---

Yeah I'm pretty sure it was you and I who spoke about this before where we seem to have the negatives happen but the positives not ? I've been feeling both about my ex, tried being positive, tried being negative because I know that the negatives work.. He is just a stubborn arse I guess, lol.

LAW1974:
@candiednut - YES, I like a lot of what you are saying!  I love that you have an energy coach!  I have always been an overly, kind of annoyingly positive person (the person that my friends get angry with because I always fail to see the bad in anyone).  And trust me I definitely have bad things happen to me... 

Lanie Steven explains this in her books, You cannot "WANT" or "NEED" something but just assume it is yours.  This is kind of a difficult concept to grasp. 

Yesterday I read the most inspirational post on an LOA board.  The guy walks thru an actual scenario (day by day) and how every action can have an affect (high and low vibration) on manifestations.  The scenario is for getting back an ex.  For example, stalking social media or posting just to see if that person "looks or visits"... I am sooo guilty of these things!  I know most people may not agree with this because they dont see it as being this complicated BUT all of the experts will explain how letting go or moving on is important.  You arent letting go or moving on if youre doing these.  AND... You are also not really convincing yourself of that persons feelings.  I am certainly not as eloquent as he is at explaining it but it made sooo much sense reading it from his pov.  Happy to share more if anyone wants it just dm me:).

jhuskindle:
I also don’t believe in LOA and I’m actually a psychic.
I have had the most abundance financially and upgrading my house my life my car when in the depths of despair when I felt the life was worthless aweful and I didn’t deserve anything hopeless and sad. ALWAYS my biggest moves happen in these states, and when I’m happy I am lucky I float along and still have blessings but my attitude doesn’t seem to affect this.

Navigation

[0] Message Index

[#] Next page