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Destiny, or no?
LAW1974:
@ladya - i agree with a lot of what you are saying.....
I also want to point out that a lot of what is talked about on this board is exes coming back! You said all of yours have come back! Interesting point that I believe many are missing..... TIMING! I think all strong connections will eventually come back in your life IF YOU WANT THEM TO! But most of us are looking for it to happen in a specific timeframe and in some cases (as some on here have reported) it could be years later! Just my 2 cents:)
ladya:
--- Quote from: LAW1974 on December 12, 2018, 12:17:06 PM ---@ladya - i agree with a lot of what you are saying.....
I also want to point out that a lot of what is talked about on this board is exes coming back! You said all of yours have come back! Interesting point that I believe many are missing..... TIMING! I think all strong connections will eventually come back in your life IF YOU WANT THEM TO! But most of us are looking for it to happen in a specific timeframe and in some cases (as some on here have reported) it could be years later! Just my 2 cents:)
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I agree. I believe if there is a strong connection and you feel its not over I’d listen to that. I agree on timing and once again I believe that ties into people’s free will. Let’s say someone is meant to get married in a certain time period and their ex really wants to reconcile but isn’t ready and eventually does come back but comes back later and the universe goes sorry buddy you’re taking too long so we’ll introudce a new prospect and so there is that choice that remains with who to go with. This is why people in India always compare charts after meeting someone to see If people’s timings line up and destiny. I’m not saying I agree with the whole arranged marriage aspect but I agree on it’s usefulness.
star1:
I've never had an ex come back before, never. The least amount of emotion and love and less serious it is, they seem to come back. Exes who I was in a proper relationship with never returned or popped their head up.. Maybe I'm the ex girlfriend scarecrow?
jhuskindle:
--- Quote from: ladya on December 11, 2018, 09:18:05 PM ---i believe in destiny and i believe in free will. However, i feel the free will is confined with your destiny's path if that makes sense. I believe that if someone is meant to get married or have kids or anything else that is set in stone. Major life events, in my opinion, are destined. When it comes to people, it gets tricky because people have free will to learn the lesson today, tomorrow or never. What if their destiny is different and not in line with our own. If one person is meant to have kids and the other isnt then destiny will pull apart those two people. This is why its hard to predict people's behaviors. There's a lot of different factors that come into play in all of this stuff. In hindsight, there is a silver lining in everything and majority of the relationships I felt were no longer destined to be was because i chose that route and moved on from the individual. I could've chosen to get back with any of my exes because they have always come back but i found someone much more compatible at the time so I guess I'm lucky in a sense in that aspect. But when deep inside i felt something wasn't over, it usually wasn't but what would happen after that would be murky and dependent on people's free will. i feel that people come into our lives by destiny. you could be locked away in your home but if someone is meant to come into your life, they will. i kinda don't believe when people say oh well you have to get out there to meet people. yes and no. sure itll increase chances but doesn't guarantee anything. i also believe we attract a similar type of partner or the ways in which we meet them, not the dating ones but serious relationships. but that ties into astrology which not everyone believes in but from what i've witnessed and researched, it is correct and can't really be changed imo of course. i'm really curious if people here have had several serious relationships were they met all their partners in vastly different ways. from what i've seen its usually a similar mode (internet, friends, work, school). i'd like to hear feedback.
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This is such a beautiful and eloquent way of writing out what I also believe. It’s mostly all written. It just may not be written the way you want. Timing pockets open for things like Money and Love and we can pull those in very easily then the pocket closes and one or the other becomes bad timing, I didn’t realize this is what they believe in India, I’m glad because I agree. Timing is everything. A lot of psychics can’t tell timing well, but they can tell what will happen. Some people can but aren’t detailed. For big things, the universe will force your hand. But in romantic relationships the timing has to be open, or “good”.
Most people do hear from their ex, many do not reunite, so maybe people ask the wrong questions and that’s why they are confused.
star1:
--- Quote from: jhuskindle on December 12, 2018, 02:47:29 PM ---
--- Quote from: ladya on December 11, 2018, 09:18:05 PM ---i believe in destiny and i believe in free will. However, i feel the free will is confined with your destiny's path if that makes sense. I believe that if someone is meant to get married or have kids or anything else that is set in stone. Major life events, in my opinion, are destined. When it comes to people, it gets tricky because people have free will to learn the lesson today, tomorrow or never. What if their destiny is different and not in line with our own. If one person is meant to have kids and the other isnt then destiny will pull apart those two people. This is why its hard to predict people's behaviors. There's a lot of different factors that come into play in all of this stuff. In hindsight, there is a silver lining in everything and majority of the relationships I felt were no longer destined to be was because i chose that route and moved on from the individual. I could've chosen to get back with any of my exes because they have always come back but i found someone much more compatible at the time so I guess I'm lucky in a sense in that aspect. But when deep inside i felt something wasn't over, it usually wasn't but what would happen after that would be murky and dependent on people's free will. i feel that people come into our lives by destiny. you could be locked away in your home but if someone is meant to come into your life, they will. i kinda don't believe when people say oh well you have to get out there to meet people. yes and no. sure itll increase chances but doesn't guarantee anything. i also believe we attract a similar type of partner or the ways in which we meet them, not the dating ones but serious relationships. but that ties into astrology which not everyone believes in but from what i've witnessed and researched, it is correct and can't really be changed imo of course. i'm really curious if people here have had several serious relationships were they met all their partners in vastly different ways. from what i've seen its usually a similar mode (internet, friends, work, school). i'd like to hear feedback.
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This is such a beautiful and eloquent way of writing out what I also believe. It’s mostly all written. It just may not be written the way you want. Timing pockets open for things like Money and Love and we can pull those in very easily then the pocket closes and one or the other becomes bad timing, I didn’t realize this is what they believe in India, I’m glad because I agree. Timing is everything. A lot of psychics can’t tell timing well, but they can tell what will happen. Some people can but aren’t detailed. For big things, the universe will force your hand. But in romantic relationships the timing has to be open, or “good”.
Most people do hear from their ex, many do not reunite, so maybe people ask the wrong questions and that’s why they are confused.
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True this, very true.
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