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Offline user5942

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Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« on: September 27, 2018, 10:25:46 PM »
Hi, everyone!

In a tarot spread asking about separation and reunion, my POI’s FEAR card would be 3 of cups when we reunite. What does this mean exactly, like he is afraid I will involve him in a 3rd party? Any interpretation is appreciated!

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2018, 10:43:15 PM »
quickly- what was the question exactly as how you stated it? 3 of cups means a celebration, reunion of sorts..

but i would read the 3 of cups as fear in being that he is either afraid of being friends (3 of card is a very friend-ish card), or he is a afraid of you having someone else and him being the "third party" invovled- meaning hes afraid you have someone else that you'd be with already. it truly depends on surrounding cards as well. it could also mean he is afraid of you wanting to be "friendly" or "just friends"-- that you'll reunite and just want him as a friend.

other interpretations could be that he is afraid of getting too drunk or partying too hard (sometimes this card is a symbol for partying) , or it could mean he is afraid of your friends hating him, or his friends opinions or thoughts on reuniting with you.
those are more far fetched and i like the initial ones better, but again depends on surrounding cards

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2018, 11:33:10 PM »
Thank you so much for all your help!! I asked, “What will happen when POI and I reunite?”
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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #3 on: September 28, 2018, 03:07:31 AM »
Thank you so much for all your help!! I asked, “What will happen when POI and I reunite?”

oh. well in that case it means celebration, good times, party gathering etc. its a positive card. i wouldnt necessarily take it as "be friendly" or "be friends" because that is one of the meanings, again depending on other surrounding cards, but its a positive card to get because it literally means happy celebration/friendship/party/good times etc

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #4 on: September 28, 2018, 04:06:48 AM »
if your questions is what will happen when you're reunited, then how does fear play in? what type of spread did you use?  do you remember the other cards?

3 of cups for me in a relationship reading is the "dating" card, it's about happy times and not stressing and not being to serious.

So his fear can be you won't take dating seriously. Or that he'll lose his freedom, as many commitmentphobes do.

Some read it as a third party, but doesn't mean that there is another woman/man, but it can be the fear of interference from a friend or your mom per say. Or that he may feel you still have romantic feelings for someone else and can swoop in and change your dynamic.

Generally this is a happy card , one of celebrations and good things, I've also read it as a desire for threesomes :P lol but again that all depends on the context of the reading.

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #5 on: September 28, 2018, 09:19:26 AM »
Thank you all! I’m taking it as it will just be a fling involving physical intimacy since there are so many swords. I think of swords = penetration. We have a history of strong physical chemistry. Also that I will have control this time (3 of Swords and Magician) and I will not be overly forgiving since of past heartbreak and have power over my heart this time. (Maybe) he will be the one to be left this time around for another person (why his fear would be 3 of cups) and that he is expecting to be left in the cold (5 of pentacles)...Here is the way the spread goes:


Separation / Reunion (15 cards)

1 2 _ _ 3 4
_ 5 _ _ 6 _
_ 7 _ _ 8 _
_ _ 9x10 _ _ (ten crosses 9)
13 14__11 12
____ 15 ____

1-2: (read together) How you thought of them (during the separation) - Hierophant and 8 of Wands
3-4: (read together) How they thought of you - The Star and 8 of Swords
5: What you expect (from the reunion) - 9 of Swords
6: What they expect - 5 of Pentacles
7: What you fear - 8 of Pentacles
8: What they fear - 3 of Cups
9/10: Crossroads: The reunion itself. the 10 crosses the 9 as in the first 2 cards of CC. - 3 of Swords and Magician
11-12: (read together) What you bring away. High Priestess and 4 of Wands
13-14 (read together) What they bring away. Queen of Swords and Knight of Cups
15: The future of the relationship. 5 of Swords
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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #6 on: September 28, 2018, 08:31:23 PM »
I usually read wands as the "penis" cards lol, honestly way too many cards for this question.  sometimes a simple approach can be extremely telling. Also, be sure when you pulled for yourself that you weren't in a particular state of mind, because those swords could also be more of a reflection of how you feel or your own fears,  in the end one comes out the victor in this and the other feels like the loser.  Unless you actual felt that this was going to give you anxiety.  What did you actually want to know? the reason for the spread? 

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #7 on: October 02, 2018, 08:44:49 PM »
Thank you, yes very true! This might sound a little strange I usually get myself in a clear state of mind (along with using sage and just sitting breathing in and out for a few minutes) and after like 2 glasses of wine to make sure I am open to the cards and much more relaxed. I asked, “What will happen when POI and I reunite?”

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #8 on: October 02, 2018, 09:38:00 PM »
3 of Cups in this position could be read as the "fear of missing out", which I think is what makes it hard for a lot of people to commit to one person.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_missing_out

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Re: Help, please? 3 of cups as fear?
« Reply #9 on: October 02, 2018, 09:47:21 PM »
THAT IS GENIUS