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LiveLaughLove:
Well my ex didn't dump me so I can't comment on that sorry.

Maybe if my ex dumped me I'd feel that there was no future but that's ONLY if he didn't contact me at least a month after...if he's tried to contact me, had friends contact,stalked my fb etc then yes I'd think WE MIGHT have a future...because if he's doing all that then theres something going on because if someone is done with you,they wouldn't be doing all that..well i wouldn't lol

I don't really get the impression those who have mentioned they haven't received contact from their ex, didn't have their ex break things off then not contact them..or maybe I'm reading things wrong. To me it seems as if the ex stayed in the picture off and on or put ideas in the persons head that things aren't over.

lightme:
yup, i got you. i am in this kinda situation too, and he had contacted me etc etc so i think we are not done yet. but if he stop contacting me for lets say 3 months, i think i would conclude to myself that it is over, no matter what the psychics had said. and then i would also conclude to myself that all the psychics are scams, at least they can't predict the future.

LiveLaughLove:
Yea I feel ya!

LiveLaughLove:
A few things I've taken away from my own situation that I probably would had never learned any other way is:

1. Don't be afraid of commitment. If someone is good for you and you feel they are, keep them around. Don't push them away because your scared of committing to them. I never thought of myself as a commitment phobe but maybe I am. Weird since my parents have been married for 24 years lol so I saw commitment everyday from birth until now hahaa! I think my college days had to do with my non-commitment though...I never committed to anybody,just had fun....so maybe I just didn't know how too....but then again I never met anybody worth committing too....

2. Communication is always key. I use to get so mad at my ex and just shut off or I'd tell him "take care" LOL! I didn't want to deal with the foolery...but  now I wish I would had sat him down and told him " Hey, this is what I don't like and this is what I do like....lets compromise. I'll work on what you dont like and vise versa"...instead I ran...which could also do with #1.

3. If you feel something isn't right, make the decision to change it asap! When I broke up with my ex, I consulted with my bff and she told me wait it out....wait until finals are over (I was graduating and was already stressed about that)...I listened to her...and my ex was already dating after I finally broke down and reached out to him. And you know what he told me? "I wish you would had said something earlier..." That has and will haunt me...Should had went with my first mind instead of listening to someone else.

Overall, I learned alot about myself...it's been a hard 8 months...last time I went through something so draining and emotional was when my friend passed away 4 years ago..only difference is in this situation I became depressed. I dont think I've ever cried as much in my life as I did these last 8 months and Ive always been emotional..it's a Virgo thing lol!! Sometimes when I'm eating,watching tv, or even waking up in the morning; my heart aches....it hurts because I miss him so much and I hate myself everyday for letting this man and this opportunity slip through my hands. But as DeeJay on CP said I can't think of him or us the same. We both have grown and so I need to imagine him as the man he's grown to be/going to be than the man he was. & that will be the way for things to work out and manifest quicker. (We'll see how that works lol).

I appreciate yall who have been there through my thread and posts...with your advice and what not. It means alot! I hope it all works out for each one of us in one day or another! :)

sunandmoon:
OMG LLL what you have said is soooo true in so many ways. I never thought of myself as a commitment phobe either but after getting out of a bad marriage I was PETRIFIED. And I see this even now, I would happily welcome HIM back but I imagine someone else and I am already pushing them away and I may not have even met them yet!!!

Mine had a LISTENING problem at times, ie he heard what he wanted to hear so that didn't help the communication. But I was so burnt I tuned him out at times. I think I may have had a clue what was happening if I hadn't. I really regret that but I'm not sure I could have changed it based on the circumstances.

Whatever happens this is a life lesson for all of us - let's make sure we at least learn what we need to!

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