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Need someone to talk to (crying as i type this)

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Newlife:
I don’t know but Qofc always see 2 and 3, or is it just me ?


--- Quote from: Still tired on June 30, 2018, 01:47:05 AM ---I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I have been there feeling everything you are going through and having no one to talk to. A lot of us here can relate. You really are not alone no matter how it seems right now. There are people who care, who will listen, who will be there for you.

Njlady has some very wise words. Value yourself like you are worth everything and expect the best in the way you are treated by others. If they do not treat you well then let them go, you have better things to do. Understand it is not about you, it is just the way they are. And it is not likely to change. But those people will fade away. There are billions of people in the world. I used to think, oh I will never find another guy I have a connection with like this, or another friend I feel so close to. But there will be others, and sometimes life will bring people around in the strangest ways. But when you are hurting like this, it can be hard to connect with people. We all pull our energy inward when we are hurting and in need of healing. Give it time, you won't feel this way forever. Be good to yourself, do something nice for yourself every day. If you feel like staying in bed, give yourself extra time to do that, watch movies, read a book, or just sleep. Sleep can be very healing.

For me personally it has been very hard to get over the jerks in my life and that was what led to spending so much on readings. What I learned from it is to be so careful who I get involved with from the beginning. Not just for a relationship but friendships too. Sometime after my last breakup, I came to the realization that pretty much all the people in my life, outside of family, were jerks or users or simply not compatible with me. It took time to sort out how/why I got in that situation but the easy part was walking away from it. The pain goes away when we stop exposing ourselves to people or situations that give us pain. Even when things seem okay on the surface, pay attention to how you really feel about a person. And HONOR that feeling even if you can't quite explain it to yourself. Some people just can't give back what you give to them. They may not be able to really connect from the heart. It hurts to connect with people who can't give you what you want or need. You can let these people go and you never know, sometimes they will come back around with more to offer. But if not then trust me you are better off without them.

You can PM if you want. I may not respond back right away because I have some health issues that are exhausting. I will pray for you.

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Qu33n:

--- Quote from: FlutterShy on June 30, 2018, 03:22:57 AM ---I do believe in karma. If not by government laws, then I trust in Universal/God laws.
What people do to me is their karma... how I react is mine. I believe in karma and when people do wrong by me, it will bite them in their ass. However, most times it’s not instant and it’s not for me to know, when and how. But I do know enough and trust the Universe and God do have my back. I’ve been watching a lot of YouTube video of Oprah and she says “let people show you who they are” and when do “believe them”.

I feel for the pain you are going thru, I wanted to respond on certain posts but then had to go back to work, and could tell something was ...chaotic. I’ve been there too. It’s the worst pain, to keep yourself spinning and you can’t stop. Take notes on what you’ve learned and why you would not like to be here again. Please do talk to a professional... have grace for yourself to give your mind a break from all technology at least for a few minutes, then hour and then rest of the day.

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Thank you. I beleive the same. Thats exactly what i did. I found a friend here to talk to. Ive talked to a couple “professionals” and found its better to talk to someone who can relate. Since coincidentlty im a counselor ( as the say therapist are their own best patients) ive learned in seekinf help not a lot of people have book smarts and life experince. I needed someone who had borh and couldnt find any at least not in my area but im glad i posted my moment of sheer vulberability because i found someone who can relate to me and were going to support one another through this healing process. I truly appreciate you ALLS support. Ive never felt so muc support in all my life because im usually the one giving it and being their for everyone else so it means more than i could ever articulate. Im so grateful infound thi site.

Seeker:
Nobody on earth is important enough to kill yourself over. Suicide is a permanent mistake to a temporary problem.

I can tell you that I struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts for about 30 years, practically daily. I never received any counseling. I don't know how I survived it but I did it and made it out. I haven't had these thoughts in years. I've embraced the reality that my life journey has been the way it is for a reason, and anyone who is not with me on this journey to help me grow should and will be cut off. One of the ways you can be sure that a person doesn't belong in your life is when you bring issues to them, issues you KNOW have been happening for a while, but they tell you they're not happening or they attempt to minimize them, OR they tell you they understand but then they go right back to doing the same things to you. People like that will never change.

It will take time to heal because the wounds are fresh, but in time you can look back at this and realize that a person who was causing you pain taught you a lesson, but once that lesson ended their presence in your life was no longer needed and so it's best that they are gone.

Bostongirl:
Go see a DR and get help, they can prescribe a little something to help you get through this. Get counseling.  I think the more readings you get the more upset it makes people. Wishing you all the best.

Qu33n:

--- Quote from: Bostongirl on July 01, 2018, 05:49:00 PM ---Go see a DR and get help, they can prescribe a little something to help you get through this. Get counseling.  I think the more readings you get the more upset it makes people. Wishing you all the best.

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Yeah, im not one to medicate. Its a tempral fix that can cause long lasting side effects. I am fine. I had a moment. Im dealing with a broken heart and the best way to “fix it” is to go through it not around it. Seeing a counselor: tried that and i ended up counseling them because i am a counselor. Their is no one size fits all solution to and for a broken heart. Im a preety tough person but even a person who is strong breaks down too, and thats  ok. Thank you for the well wishes. Im still hurting and i will hurt for as long as my heart needs to mend but with the friends ive made here and the fight in me. I got it 💪

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