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Walking away
scarlora:
Thank you. It's been a roller coaster. I also saw a shamanic counselor who found my spirit animal and did a soul recovery for me. So fun and so weird
Cranberry88:
I am sorry to hear this my dear, i have always considered this statement "Maybe it's a blessing in disguise" which we use it and believe it on our religion.
Every bad thing that happens has a good wisdom and reason behind it, Regardless of how much you really wanted it or how much u thought it was a great place/fit/ etc.
Stay positive and open your doors for new opportunities that could be awaiting you for something better, never give up and most importantly you need to let go your previous relationship, if it meant to be than it might not be the right time now, otherwise am i SURE there is something better awaiting you.
Have faith & trust in God.
njlady:
--- Quote from: LivingInYellow on April 01, 2018, 10:14:10 AM ---
I allowed myself to fall in love with him because I felt it was a safe space. Now, if there is one thing that I realise, it is that there are no safe spaces and I no longer feel safe around anyone.
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Believe me when I tell you that I am not being rude. Breaking up sucks. Cheaters suck. Being hurt sucks. I'm probably one of the oldest people on here. That means I have a lot of life experience, and I have a pretty good life so I'm not talking out of my ass. I have jeans older than your relationship plus your hurt time. That being said, these last two sentences is where it all went wrong. You don't "allow" yourself to fall in love. You either feel love or you don't. You don't put conditions on it. You love freely. What you limit for others, you limit for yourself. If someone you love is no good for you, self love steps in and you walk away. Real life doesn't have any safe spaces. That is a fantasy. You make safe spaces for little children to play in. Adults don't have one. Learn how to love yourself. That comes from actions, not feelings. This includes not doing things that cause yourself pain, like hanging on to piece of shit guys for 5 years past the expiration date hoping they will give you a magical excuse for their behavior. The Universe spoke loud and clear, and you called 500 psychics to ask if he was coming back. Your lesson was to learn how to let go when you are getting burned. Learn faster next time. It hurts less.
My advice to you is to go out, do a few shots, find a guy and get some real good dick. Have no expectations. Have some fun. Do it a few times if you have to. When you start to get an idea of how many men are out there, literally an endless lifetime supply, you will stop moping around about the one asshole who did you wrong. You two were not a match. There are billions of men on the planet. You can find another one. By the time you die, you will probably have been in love 4 or 5 times. If you keep wasting time, you could miss the next love in your life.
helloworld:
--- Quote from: njlady on April 01, 2018, 06:58:58 PM ---Believe me when I tell you that I am not being rude. Breaking up sucks. Cheaters suck. Being hurt sucks. I'm probably one of the oldest people on here. That means I have a lot of life experience, and I have a pretty good life so I'm not talking out of my ass. I have jeans older than your relationship plus your hurt time. That being said, these last two sentences is where it all went wrong. You don't "allow" yourself to fall in love. You either feel love or you don't. You don't put conditions on it. You love freely. What you limit for others, you limit for yourself. If someone you love is no good for you, self love steps in and you walk away. Real life doesn't have any safe spaces. That is a fantasy. You make safe spaces for little children to play in. Adults don't have one. Learn how to love yourself. That comes from actions, not feelings. This includes not doing things that cause yourself pain, like hanging on to piece of shit guys for 5 years past the expiration date hoping they will give you a magical excuse for their behavior. The Universe spoke loud and clear, and you called 500 psychics to ask if he was coming back. Your lesson was to learn how to let go when you are getting burned. Learn faster next time. It hurts less.
My advice to you is to go out, do a few shots, find a guy and get some real good dick. Have no expectations. Have some fun. Do it a few times if you have to. When you start to get an idea of how many men are out there, literally an endless lifetime supply, you will stop moping around about the one asshole who did you wrong. You two were not a match. There are billions of men on the planet. You can find another one. By the time you die, you will probably have been in love 4 or 5 times. If you keep wasting time, you could miss the next love in your life.
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Well said!
Illumin8:
--- Quote from: njlady on April 01, 2018, 06:58:58 PM ---
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My advice to you is to go out, do a few shots, find a guy and get some real good dick. Have no expectations. Have some fun. Do it a few times if you have to. When you start to get an idea of how many men are out there, literally an endless lifetime supply, you will stop moping around about the one asshole who did you wrong. You two were not a match. There are billions of men on the planet. You can find another one. By the time you die, you will probably have been in love 4 or 5 times. If you keep wasting time, you could miss the next love in your life.
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Amen sista . Can we sticky this? Best post ever!
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